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About Candy1956
I am a passive/bottom/submissive in that order in the D/s world but I am also a Dragon/Panther in the Anthropomorphic world and I can be hard at times to contain and control. I have always said all my life, "I can be trained, but never tamed." If your interested, read on...
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As a Dragon and Panther
I am an "Anthropomorphic" and after having a lengthy discussions with friends, I have decided to pursue it once again in the D/s world. I am going to dig deeper and bring it out of me. I am a, Dragon/Panther = Dranther or Draganther. I am currently working on integrating both characteristics into one to create myself in the D/s world. Care to join me as a Friend/handler/owner? You will definitely have your hands full and it can be fun at the same time. Just so you know, I do live it 24/7. It's just me and I will refine what was already defined decades ago. I just have to bring out more of the big cat/feline out of me.
Keep in mind, that I am not a typical D/s pet that sleeps in a cage or plays pet all the time. I am for real and it takes a different approach. Remember, I am Anthropomorphic and I just live my life daily.
Which one is more predominant is easy to say, The Dragon. But, there is a Big cat in me that I have to bring out desperately. It is the Panther, although size wise it could be the Leopard. But there is a mystery behind the panther.
Without going into it heavy at this point in time about each character animal, I just want to explain more of my antics and behavior and how it is applied or not to my friends/family and those who are fetish friendly and to those who are not and to those of the D/s, BDSM world.
I can easily intimidate the vanilla person to the point that they take a back step and try to gather up in their minds who they are talking or facing in conversation. Usually it is the Dragon involved. I carry that persona with me when I ride my bike and I am dressed up in full leathers (which are my scales). Yeah, I am showing skin or at least I try to. If the informed person sees this, they will see that I am bearing it all for them and that there is a softness under the leather (scales) that protects me from the elements and certain people. Just under those leather scales is a Feline Panther Cat. But before I go into my cat aspects, let me finish up on the dragon.
The dragon has been characterized as, wise, powerful, unpredictable, spiritual, emotional, wild at times, hot tempered, loyal, honest and can burn your ass in a dark alley. They are feared, respected and there is a fascination for the Dragon. The dragon does not follow any kind of pattern and is usually random in actions and thought. The dragon is free spirited and can be patient and wait a long time to make a decision. The dragon does not like to be judged or humiliated and demands respect from all and will fire back when respect is not shown. That puts me in a nutshell in many respects to being that dragon. I can walk among the wicked and know that I will be safe because of the Dragon in me and what people see on the outside. Many do not want to contend with that Dragon in a confrontation. They may win, but they will never walk away unscathed.
Under all of that leather (scales) is a Panther. The Panther is a lot different and this is where many people never take the time to see or get to know me. Usually the Dragon scares them off before they even try to dig a bit deeper. Just under those scales they will see the feline in me. That is where my femininity is at.
The Panther has a mysteriousness about them. Even though they are the same as the leopard, the dark coat makes the difference.
When one takes the time to see beyond the surface, they will see me in a different light. I have a tendency to just cuddle next to someone that looks warm and cozy without thought. I tend to be more of a prissy and feminine in all aspects of the word. I can actually purr next to someone and they either know or don't know what the hell I am doing. I do it without explanation and I get some very interesting responses. Some positive and some negative. In my openness and feline nature, I tend to invade people's spaces without thought.
I don't like to wear much clothes and prefer to be more nude (having the leather-scales off me). The less I have on, the more the feline comes out and my hidden spots show.
I like to be petted and caressed by ANYONE who is willing to do it. I like being caressed and fondled everywhere. But pinch me wrong and I will show my claws and snarl very quickly at you. I can attack under the wrong conditions and I have a mean bite.
For a Dom or Domme would have to approach slowly and restrain me. Then they can administer any kind of punishment as long as I am restrained, I am harmless to them.
This would be the same with breeding (sex). Restrain me first and then put me in a position for breeding. Even though I am Anthropomorphic, I become quiet and more animalistic once the restraints are on and hooked together. I am more mellow and passive when the restraints are on and NOT hooked. It gives me a reminder to be passive/submissive but like all cats, I do tend to forget at times and need to be reminded.
I love the feline feminine aspects that the panther brings to the table. From purring to just invading someone's space and rubbing up against them with no intention other than to rub against them.
Many times I have that, "I don't care attitude" and that can frustrate people. Many times I listen intently but show no reaction and that also can frustrate people because they don't know what I am thinking. I am distracted easily if the topic is slow or boring.
My passive/submissiveness lies within the Panther characteristics and not in the Dragon.
A stranger can cop a feel or grope and it does not bother me. I encourage it because like a feline, I am getting the attention that I need. They just have to figure out when is the best time to approach me. Most of the time it is a "hello" and hands on me is all that is needed.
I am very protective of friends and family and will put myself on the line if need be for them. That is the dragon and panther in me. Both combine makes me dangerous and I see you as prey.
My friends and family encourage me and support what I do. They are my salvation and they are hands on in all aspects of who I am and what I am. They are sympathetic and participants. Because of that, they are the best people in the world to me.
For the Dom or Domme' and even friends
Understand how I live as a Dragon and a Panther (The dragon, I live it 24/7 and the feline as often as possible - almost 24/7). Once you see and understand then you can start the approach and knowing what I like and dislike. But running on a standard D/s norm is not the way to go about it. In many ways your dealing with a Beast and a Feline all rolled into one. Remember, "I can be trained, but never tamed." That has been a long standing saying with me. Go ahead and train me to a point but always remember my saying. That alone will keep you on your toes and that will be the adventure that you will need in dealing with me.
Another straight thought is to always have me wearing at least wrist restraints whether in public or private. You will see in many artists renditions of Dragon's wearing restraints. They are broken and free but they are still there. Same attitude is needed with the dragon and panther in me. Both sides needs those restraints for control. If possible, also have me wear the ankle restraints as well. The ankles are harder to wear on the bike due to leathers covering it up and boots getting in the way. (My daughter had made a suggestion to have a small light chain dangling from the wrist restraints to make a light noise not only for looks but for reminder sounds. She also recommended a light small chain from the collar as well for looks and reminder not only to myself but for others to know. It could be a conversation piece).
But when not on the bike, make it a standard requirement to have those ankle restraints on me. If they are not, then put them on me. Sure there are times when both cannot be worn but, 95% of the time they can be. Many Dominants have made the mistake of just letting it go and find that I am not so passive nor submissive to them and the tides can turn if ignored. Which is probably why they are no longer around.
My last relationship Dom faced a Dragon and an angry snarling Panther because he assumed it to be one way and turned out to be another. He didn't nurture me and felt as a Dom that he could mold me into something else that he wanted. WRONG! He ignored my background and who I am. He didn't take me serious and thought that this is some kind of fetish that I turn on and off like a light bulb. This was a fatal mistake made by him for the relationship and even the friendship. The Dragon in me turned on him and the Panther wanted to eat him alive and spit out his bones. He was considered Dragon poop by that time. We stood toe to toe, eye to eye and he said he would slap me down to submission and I told him to give it his best shot because after that he would not remember what happened next until he wakes up. He looked into my eyes and realized that there was nothing passive nor submissive about me. My ears were pinned back and I was ready to burn his ass. He realized that I was for real and slowly inched away from me. His Dominance no longer worked. 5 months of trying to tame me and that was the wrong thing to do.
Why do I tell you this? Because again I say, "I can be trained, but never tamed." Your approach has to be different than the normal standard in putting me in a submissive status. Understand my characteristics and who I am and your approach can be safe and you can have me in a passive state more often than not and submissive a lot of the time. I require a different way of going about it. I am wild in nature and that will be so much fun for you. There is never a dull moment with me and you will realize that very quickly.
Caging me only works for short duration's. If kept too long in a cage, I will rip it apart and you would have wasted money on a cage. I only half ass consent to a cage but not long inside it.
Do not try to change my persona. I have been this way for over 50 years and I like me. People like my antics and my behavior and I can make people laugh and think with my intellect. I am more mellow through age now but I am still wild as ever and many people love that about me.
You don't want to change me, just control some of the aspects of me. Respect the Dragon and play/nurture the panther.
When punishing me, I need to be restrained tightly because I have a tendency to want to break loose or really wiggle around. Once I know I can't move, I become more submissive and will take the punishment. When breeding (sex) have me restrained or you or they will have deeps wounds from me clawing. Yes, I have drawn blood on unsuspecting people who don't know me and just want a wham bam thank you ma'am fuck. Before releasing me, make sure I am calm. The best way without the restraints is doggie style but still be aware of me turning around and turning on you in the heat of animal instinctual passion and I can mark you. Wrestling with me in that state would be futile. Unless your over 250lbs, and at least 6'3" I am going to take you down very quickly and I will pin you on the floor. Even in my old age, I can move quickly, lol. Remember, I am 5'10" barefoot, 225lbs.
Foreplay can be a bit tricky. Get me hot but not too hot, then restrain me for breeding.
I should always have a collar on unless I can't at work. As often as possible. If I don't have it on. Find it and put it on me. A leash dangling is a good reminder for me. Leading me around is always good once I am trained.
The less clothes I wear the more feline and feminine I become. That means you have clothes on. When I see you naked, I see you at the same level as me and I do not submit. That is a very important thing to remember. Make sure I am restrained befor you take off any clothes.
I am not a kitty! I am a feline but not a kitty cat. I am a Panther, a big cat and not domesticated in the sense of a domestic cat. I am not some small Wyvern either. I am a big dragon and I carry myself that way. I can breath fire and I have some devastating claws to those who don't respect who I am. I have no problem leaving my nails embedded in your skin if you do me wrong. I will grow new ones.
Why do I sound so scary? Well really I am not. Just know the warning signs and how to approach someone like me. It's like having a puppy or a kitty cat pet players have or having a non domestic pet as in a dragon/panther. One is domestic and the other isn't. I am not in many respects. I follow a different path.
Even though we are talking anthropomorphic, I am bringing to you the side that says nothing but does plenty in action and not words. Body language and the eyes with me give you a big clue to how I am feeling. I fight with intellect and animal instincts all the time. I can be interesting to talk to then in a flash I am more into my animal behavior than talking. It runs on some burst or whim that overcomes me in an instant.
This doesn't take away from the Dom or Domme'. It just means that you have to come about in a different way compared to others that you may have dealt with in the past. It may look like a typical D/s relationship when we meet people together. But they would soon see a difference if they hang around long enough.
Any Dom or Domme' has my instant respect because I think that they can train me even though they may not be interested at all with me. I just give them that respect because that is how I think.
Even though I am bi-ped, I still need to be taken for walks in the night air. Bound or not is up to the Dominant. But, I feel that connection between him/her and me when I am lead around, especially outside. My instinct many times wants to go near a tree and even mark it. I always walk bi-ped but have a tendency to crouch to all fours when we stop for a moment. Sometimes I can talk and other times I cannot. If I am anxious or fidgety it be best for you to have me restrained when walking and always holding on to the leash or at least someone hold the leash.
When home, you should keep the panther in me out and the dragon put away. Remember, the panther is my feminine side of me. The soft side, the prissy side, the innocent fun side. The panther likes those walks and the dragon wants to take flight and leave. The panther is feminine and the dragon is more masculine, although the feminine side of the dragon is always present hence: Female Dragon.
I hope that this gives you a basic idea of what I am about. I think I make a good passive/sub friend or partner, but it does take some effort and it can be good times for all. Understand the Dragon and the panther in me and then we can bond as friends or even partners. I am a life changing experience for you that's for sure, lol.
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Education - The Dragon
I am a very educated person and can be razor sharp. But I prefer to be a dull knife (a stereo-typical blonde). I have the talent to turn off the brain cells and not sound like a rambling text book, lol. Which means, you can actually catch me off guard in many things. It's genuine and not fake. I like to be airy and not an airhead. If I have to defend myself, I can turn on the afterburners and I am locked and loaded with my mentality and with you in my cross hairs, I am deadly accurate, lol. I have a loud growl but don't usually bite, but when I do bite, it can hurt.
What I am and who I am
I am "Intersexed" (IS) which is a lot like a TS. Since so many people do not know what an "IS" is, (Intersexuality or androgyny). I will just go with TS. I like to use another word that I like, (T-Girl). I am also pre-op and it does work under the right circumstances. I am genetically female but with an extra appendage. I have a photo if me in the gallery when it is hidden. So, that is something to think about and ponder on. Basically a kinky Dom or Domme' can get my kink to work when needed if done right. I prefer open minded, liberal straight men if they are a Dom. If I am with a Domme' I will still need to have some cock, I do love dick. So, that surely has to be on the menu, lol. I am not really monogamous and like variety (The Feline likes that in me). That doesn't mean I am not loyal to one. I just like to be with others and then come back to that one. So, loyalty has a different meaning for me. The Dragon in me keeps me loyal to one.
Sex to me is simply breeding and should be treated that way. If you think and feel that sex is like the stereotypical scenario with me, think again. Get me hot, restrain me and breed me. If you don't, someone else will. Simple huh?
I have two holes for your pleasure and usage. If my mouth and ass is not enough for you, then go find that 3 holed bitch because I am not your girl and not your type.
Being taken Advantage of
Maybe it is my submissive demeanor under all my masculine leather. But in the last 10 years or so, I have come across people (all walks of life) who take advantage of my "giving" attitude. Every single time I end up with the short end of the stick. Not only does it hurt my pocketbook but also hurts me emotionally. Many know what their doing and others find out later. It leaves me with a bitter taste and totally frustrated and broke too. I am slowly learning to say, "No" with no explanation. I am also getting use to telling certain people to go away and not come back. Does this take away some of my submissiveness? I don't know, but I have to keep my self preservation intact. So that being said, I am more cautious today more than ever when it comes to friends. I am a very giving person but that doesn't mean you strain the friendship or relationship with taking, taking and taking from me and only giving me back a smile. Taking advantage of me comes to an end as of now.
Age
I like all ages with people that would like to be with me. I have no problem as long as your at least 21 years or older. When I look at younger men or women, I look mainly at their demeanor and how they carry themselves more than their experience. So if you have the right attitude, you can perk up my ears and have my attention. If you are interested in me, can you control that Dragon/Panther? Are you willing to make that effort? Many of the younger Dominants that I have met are lazy and don't want to take the time. I see that as your loss. Ho-hum.
Friends
My preferences and what I seek are for that more permanent relationship. This takes nothing away from friendship. That is a different standard and I am open to all walks of life when it comes to friends. Some can have that term, "Friends with Benefits" and other friends will not have that. Depends on who you are and how we click. My door is always open to a good friend and I do seek more friends. Close friends is the best but being just friends is okay too. Just get to know me and if your kinky enough and looking for the same as me, lets be friends. It doesn't matter your age, race or body type. A friend is a friend in my book. If your not into my kink, that is okay. Just be a sympathetic friend. Read my journal here on , "Friends with Benefits." Understand who I am before you jump into my pond.
In a Nutshell
The Dragon/Panther is in me 24/7. The dragon comes out all the time and the panther stays hidden. I am working on bringing out the panther in me to balance myself in life and with others. It is something I am and that cannot change and will not change.
I am a biker chick and a Biker Hoe, a T-girl, A Dragon and a Panther, kinky, attractive, great personality, bubbly, smartical, attractive, sexy, old skool, dangerous, slightly over weight, diamond in the rough, smooth and cuddly, sweet smelling and taste great, love dick, exhibitionist, honest, real, down to earth and always helping the unfortunate and the elderly without asking anything in return. I am fun to be around, never a dull moment and love football, video games, good movies and a good cup of coffee with a friend. I drink casually and smoke regularly. I don't do drugs and I am disease free.
I love wearing skirts when not riding on the bike (sometimes I will wear one riding), I love dinners and long walks in the night air. I am a liberal in thought and action and my beliefs are only my beliefs and not put on you. I am a poor person but happily poor. If you judge me by my pocketbook, your too plastic for me and your not my type at all.
Still interested? Then make the effort to know me and lets see what happens.
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Well, this place is really dead. Thought there would be a lot of real people on here, but I guess not. I am headed to another site that I belong to. Seems a bit more busier there.
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