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About candlelightchaos
Hi. So, I'm not really sure what I'm trying for here. Please bear with me while I feel it out in what I'm writing.
I have been submissive on some level since my first experiences with sex, and have lived as a full time submissive in two relationships. Right now, I'm in a vanilla relationship with a man that I love very much. He is not dominant at all, and I miss that presence in my life. So, we talked. He wants to see me happy, and suggested that I look for something to fill this need. :) So, here I am- looking for... *something.* The something that I am looking for is not a replacement for my partner. i'm happy with my relationship with him, and have no intention of leaving him because I've found "the Dom of my dreams" on an internet dating site... I will not entertain any relationship with someone who suggests it, and will immediately terminate anything that starts to lean toward that pressure.
Since I have a partner and a child, and work full time, I need to tell You up front that those are my highest priority. Anything else that I do is secondary. I can put You to the highest level of that second set of priorities, but not into the first. If that's not something that You're compatible with, I understand, but please don't direct anger at me for it.
As for the rest...
If i have a fetish of my own, it's for words. i read 2-3 books a week on average. i listen to tons of music and spoken poetry. i soak up words as much as i possibly can, in nearly any form. Words will do more for me than almost any other foreplay in existence- especially if they're in text form where i can read them, re-read them, relish and savor them over and over. i have had a few well placed messages keep me coming back to a thought for weeks. i have texts and messages that hit me particularly well saved, even from years ago. Good written words can wash over me and captivate me for weeks. A good spoken word, in a certain tone of voice can take me to the same place- instantly needy, wanting, desperate. That level of depth with someone is hard for me to attain, though, and have only had a couple of partners capable of hitting that level with me. It's hard for me to explain exactly what it is i'm looking for in that regard, but i know it when i see it. i don't need it, but it's nice when it happens.
Along that same thread, i crave anticipation. i greedily hang onto the possibility of being led to the edge over and over, i want to be constantly pulled back from it and pushed to it again- dangling over, barely hanging on and then yanked back, until i'm desperate to go over, until i'll do anything for that inevitable and delicious fall.
I like pain. I think I take pain fairly well (though it's been awhile) but I'm not into extreme play. I don't want to be cut and punched and burned and hung upside down from my toes and whipped with barbed wire. I tend to prefer "thuddy" pain to "stingy" pain... and, for that reason, I've experienced a lot more stingy pain. It certainly gets a reaction. For example, I love cane marks, but getting them there isn't nearly as nice has having them there afterward. I like some humiliation. Ummm... I'm actually pretty open about trying most things, and I'm happy to discuss what might be possible. Anyway, that was kind of a sidetrack.
I have a few limits that we can discuss.
I'm pretty sure that I want some control within my daily life, so long as it is reasonable to my situation.
I feel like I'm hunting the mythical pink unicorn here... possibly someone with a similar situation.
I think that I prefer closer to me, so that visits are possible- but that isn't something that I'm stuck on.
:) So, it's nice to meet You. What happens next? |
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