CanadaRealDom

"To the world you might be one person, but to one person you might be the world"

Dear friends, please remember most of us on here are seeking this ONE person....whether it is for instant gratification or for medium term or long term...whatever. Duration apart, we are all seeking that ONE person....

To be that person, we have to be ourselves first....please respect everybody by respecting yourself.

When your "close" friend cannot get himself/herself to spend 1c on you and finds several impediments to connect over email or phone or whatever, does it need an Einsten to tell you how "close" the friendship is? I hope not....but then again irrationality is two letters more than rationality..does this explain? Maybe, or maybe not !

Pretense, judgement and playing hard - very very certain ways of spending the only commodity we can never recover - Time !!

Adults - behave like one, embrace this lifestyle, enjoy this lifestyle, share with the community.

You end up remembering a few in your life and struggle to erase a few others...such is life !!

Some struggle to enjoy while others enjoy the struggle...hope each chooses one way or the other at the very least.

A few things that might help us all on here......

- Express (yourself so others get a chance to know about you)

- Engage (with the other person so maybe there could be a connect)

- Explore (opportunities, who knows what this could lead to)

- Experience (the lifestyle and not just the kink)

- Enjoy (and respect the opportunities that your chat partner provides)

So we all believe we could use some more time than what we have on hand

As well wishing Doms and subs and slave, what did you do with the one EXTRA DAY that came our way on Feb 29th? 

Did you tell your sub/slave that you value her/him, that you cherish her/him, that you find yourself privileged to be given an offering of his stature?

Did you tell your Dom/Master that you are honored to be collared hy Her/Him, that you will always do everything in your means to keep Her/His pleasure/joy/happiness ahead of yours and thus find your own contentment and happiness?

Did you? If you did, excellent, good and great; if you did not, you have 4 years to work on it.

Take care.

Think about this people.....life is such a flirt.....never giving you what you want, but always teasing you with thoughts of what can be....death on the other hand...patient and will embrace no matter you are the best Dom or worst, a rich Dom or poor, does not matter...death will patiently wait until you go to her. Amazing how we want to be flirted with endlessly....!!

Gosh I have never been so bored in a long long time !!

Very strange and dangerous weather outside folks !!! be safe, and don't fight your CM addiction - at least tonight - frustrating as you might find it (your experience/chats on here), for tonight this is the safest place to be ! Frustrated is better than being in an accident on a very very cold night !

Got scammed here on Collarme.....cannot say the girl was smart...can only say I fell for it....meaning I was stupid.

Watch out everybody....CM is getting infected with scamsters.

Wish you all a fantastic New Year. Those on CM right now and continuing to be here crossing over from 2011 to 2012, may you find the magic you seek. Let us all resolve that we will make CM a lot more interesting and helpful for all of us in the New Year.

So it is barely a few more days to Xmas....yay !! I hope all on here feel the "yay". 

It has also been my observation that a lot of girls between 35 and 50 (or even more) have been registering in larger numbers than I have observed in the past. I hope the reasons are more of a reason for exploration and liberation rather than fighting the ghosts of the holidays.

I have also observed the younger girls register but that I would attribute to schools being closed for the holidays...too much time, hormones and being here for the "high" rather than anything more.

Having said this of course I would like both my inferences to be wrong...and sincerely wish everybody finds fun, joy and happiness with their loved ones.

Is anybody looking for a Dom/Master Santa? LOL !! Just kidding...I do not have the belly to be one ... !

All of us seek that the people we interact with, have a relationship with and/or know be honest and truthful. Fair enough......should we also not also ask ourselves if we have the ability to appreciate honesty?

Why ask questions the answers for which we might not be able to deal with or cannot tolerate? At some point, is it not important to realize that every question has two answers - one that we want o hear and one that we dread to hear.....are we ready for both?

So whether one accepts this or not, it appears most here carry the baggage from the past and use it to decide the current course of action. Fair enough....we are entitled to learn...as long as we know that is why we are carrying our baggage.

Now having said this, why do girls convince themselves and the guys they talk with that they are interested, talk and entice until the defense walls are dropped, and then suddenly a stroke of thought comes in and realization kicks in that "they are not what the guy wants !!"

I mean what the fuck.... !!! LOL !!

I mean if this is something a guy does, he is a jerk...but when a girl does, she is supposed to be intelligent, practical and whatever else? Really?

So a lot of girls on here strongly suggest that they are not interested in dick shots or any crass representations of "masculine" organs. Fair enough, makes sense why the private parts are as privately placed as they are !! All of us need to scratch the surface first and then go from there.

Now having said this, what is with the boob shots and pussy shots? I mean come on !! Sure guys would usually have no qualms admitting they go for the goodies....!! I mean guys are guys right?

And then again these photos are supported by journal notes and profile notes that seem to suggest quite a different story....I am looking for the "right" one, the "perfect" one... !! 

Hellow - real world wake up call, there is no such thing as the "right" one or the "perfect" one.

It is interesting and many times hilarious to see that some of the girls have no qualms sharing their nude/semi-nude photos on CM while their journal notes say they would not like to chat with "random" strangers....!! huh? how does this work?

Wishing all the folks on here from the United States of America a very happy Thanksgiving Day. May you not spend too time on here - on CM - and spend time with those around you, those who love you, those who wish well for you and cherish those moments.

Remember that at the end of the day, most of us on here seek out on a cyber platform like CM chat to make a REAL LIFE connection. At the same time, remember and cherish all the REAL LIFE connections you already have.

God bless you all and be happy. The world most certainly can do with a happier lot.

It is interesting to observe the following here on CM:

a) There is a spurt of new enrollments by girls starting Friday night thru Sunday morning.

b) Most of the girls are either very young (read less than 21 years) or experienced (read around my age and older)

c) Most make ambitious and inviting profile notes - indication of compensating the lack of gratification in real life

d) Most enrollments are from specific pockets of the country such as Florida, and Hawaii

One particular ID came across as very intriguing - she claimed to be caucasian, aged 21 and did not know what "fresh meat" meant !

This is a fantastic platform for a large majority of us to find what we believe is missing in our life. Can we all not be real, honest and nice to each other? Maybe we WILL find what we seek.

Some girls explicitly mention - no attached/married men

Some girls are seeking a BDSM relationship outside of their attached/married status

Apparently it is okay for girls to seek a BDSM relationship outside of marriage because of their "situation". Wonder how this works !!

I really do not care one way or another - everybody is trying to find what they seek and try and be happy within their respective circumstances. I bring this up hoping that a lot of us who are very prone to passing judgments get something to think about and pause before they throw their mouth around.

BTW, if you do not like my journal entries, fuck the hell off; you are entitled to your opinion and I do not need be judged on the same.

Is it really possible on CM to make friends? Are the girls on here really open to this idea or are they just being polite and nice by suggesting "friendship" ..... I mean really......!!

So this girl and I chat on CM; then we move to YIM. Of course, does not seem like any other set of folks do any different. 

Anyway, the conversations are euphoric....."you are the guy I was looking for all this while....where were you.....when can we start....I want to meet you......"

A few days of silence......too much work load....!!

Suddenly another spurt of chat conversations...."i cannot stop thinking about what we chat and how you affect me....you arouse me even when we are not chatting....you the one...."

A few days....."I have a nilla boyfriend whom I love very dearly......I am now torn and confused..."

Why do girls have to be so hypocritic .....is this a joke? And there is just so much shit about how guys do things that are hurtful.....

Grow up people....everybody even in the cyber world comes with a heart...not all are Tin People !!

A Veteran is someone who at one point in their life wrote a blank check payable to the United States of America for an amount up to and including, their life. That is beyond honor and there are way too many people in this country who no longer remember that fact. Copy and paste this as your journal if you are a Veteran,... know a Veteran, Love a Veteran, or Support the Troops! May God Bless Them All

It is interesting that most girls on CM (and in general) want the "right" guy all ready and made just as they had imagined. Anything less, they have the real world to look for anyway.

However, the girl herself is a "work in progress" and this "right" guy has to own up the responsibility of getting his girl to where "he" wants her to be at.

Interesting how this all works out is it not?

Good luck everybody....we surely are working on creating a social trust deficit situation for everybody by virtue of our individual selfish and shortsighted behavior.

Recent learning from my experience on CM - if the conversation(s) are enjoyable and the other person(s) say they loved it and want more.....they usually mean that they are not serious about all they said and they got whatever "kick" they wanted from the conversation.

So what am I going to do with this learning: teach myself to have NO expectations whatsoever from this forum.....girls keep talking about guys taking them for a ride.....trust me....girls are gifted with this art and now I am noticing even COUPLES are the same.

Sometimes this place is a complete circus...everybody is a moral cop, everybody is self-announced right... and every person such folks run into are the "other" kind....the real world does not spare us of labels...does cyber world need be a poor substitute to the same?

Maybe we should think about why we all come here and maybe do something different (in a nice way) so it works out good for all here....at the very least.....!!!

Well until then, enjoy the circus... LOL !!

Very interesting dynamics......

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i reach out to a profile that suggests she is a submissive with an introductory email; mind you this girl has a pic (face less and some that suggests her hair and whatever, never could figure that out).

Me: sent an introductory email with some information about me

Her: do you have a picture to prove you are real?

Me: Well yes I am for real; your picture gets mine

Her: if i dont like what i see, i dont want to waste my time.

Me: well sure...understood...your picture gets mine

Her: good night and good bye...!!

Me: take care (email from me deleted unread)

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i am chatting with a girl on here; very sweet girl; nice conversation (for a change). we move to yahoo; accidentally the voice chat invite comes thru...holy cow...what? anyway, i click ok....and start talking.....did you call or did i call she asks. well you called....ooh ok...it must be a mistake...sorry....and btw i cannot hear you...but i do hear you type away....

Girl sends a talk invite - mistake

Guy sends a talk invite - pervert

A very astute observation by an experience Dom on this forum.....

.....frankly, most subs come into this lifestyle with trust issues, and most "dominants" really are not either able or likely to inspire them to get better. So a lot of people just come in skittish, get burned, and get chewed up and spit out, by the whole affair......

Is this being judgmental, prejudiced or words of wisdom and experience?

Worth a thought now ain't it?

An interesting event - this evening I found a young girl interested in a chat - said she was a cock worshiper and such. Indiscretion on my part led us to yahoo and then to photos - she was nice and sweet until the point that she got my photo (kept bitching abt how she could not see my photo when shared on yahoo) and then went from nice to a total jerk and left !!!

Seems like she is some sort of weirdo out to collect photos and such.....be careful guys....we cannot be safe enough.

Girl is from Ottawa - not to say all girls from Ottawa are such !