Caliestis

I don't like that CM shows that I am online when I am really just checking my messages from my iPhone. You would be amazed how many people send me angry messages saying, "YOU'RE ON CM BUT NOT YAHOO... ARE YOU HIDING FROM ME??" No, I am on my iPhone and checking my messages.

To be honest, I am terrible at maintaining online friendships. It's not that I don't see the value of meeting new people from all over the globe, but that I am less likely to spend the little time I do have to myself online talking to people that aren't local.

People offen ask me what my experience is here on CM, so today I am going to use a recent online encounter with a user to illistrate exactly what happens on a daily basis when I decide to respond to a so-called "Dominant's" message.

Our first few emails were pleasant, but just based on his profile name (identifying himself as a rich dominant), I knew I was going to have very little in common with him. For some reason it really turns me off when a man flaunts his money. This doesn't mean that I don't like financially stable men... Just that my panties don't get wet when a man boasts how rich his is. The most frustrating part of our encounter is that his profile had no information about him, no pictures, and no interests. When I asked him for a picture he told me he would offer one if he felt we were a match. I should have known better from there. Anyway, we went into a private chat where after a few minutes I realized the only reason I was still talking to him was because he confused me and I wanted to see what he was getting at. He kept making assumptions based on the questions I asked, Me: "How tall are you?" Him: "Well I'm not 6'0 so I clearly don't meet your height requirements so we should just stop talking." LOL! At this point he amused me so the conversation continued. He asked about my ex to which I responded honestly. Him: "How am I to ever measure up to your 6'6 sexually gratifying ex that you so kindly mentioned." I had to ask him if he was insecure... His response was that I would never know it from meeting him in person.

The browser closed once with a Java error... and he immediately sent me a response telling me I was rude for ending the conversation without notice. Once he saw I was back in the chat he apologized for making yet another assumption.

Now this is where things get really weird. He proceeds to tell me that the last few women he was with he paid for their company. I immediately told him I wasn't interested in being bought. He told me it was convienient for him, but that he wasn't necessarily looking for that again. But when I said I had to go to bed he kept saying "Let me compensate you for your time." LOL... so strange. Then he started talking as if we were going to meet during the weekend when I told him I already had plans. He asked me how much he would have to pay me for me to cancel my plans.

Anyway, the next day he sent me a message asking me to come online. I told him I was on my way out. He asked me if it was with a guy and I told him yes. His response: "You'll not stay for ME?" and I told him "No offense, but I just met you and there isno way I'll cancel plans I have had for two weeks to sit at home and talk to you on a computer" His winning response: "You have no respect for me, so do as you wish. It is over. R" I coudn't help but respond to that telling him how he clearly had no respect for anyone but himself. And his final response before I blocked him..."I am NOT "real" in your little middle-class world and will NOT put up with your nonchalance. Did I not tell you enough about me? Did you NOT get the picture? R" My final message was epic... I just had to hit him low by pointing out why he probably had to pay for the company of any woman. What a douche.

So my point in sharing this? I will not give up plans for any man I casually meet online. Nor will I randomly submit or give respect to a man that doesn't deserve it. This is not the first time a man that I just met demanded that I cancel plans or immediately give myself to him. He actually thought because he gave me a picture he deserved my submission. Think again asshole. Any woman that immediately submits to someone simply based off of a profile or a few conversations need to have her head checked. Submitting to a man is one of the greatest signs of respect... How do you even know if that man is worth respecting?