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Am I the only one that chuckles whenever I fill in a form on a kink site and I have to click the "submit" button...

So...  You've been trawling the websites and messaging those people with profiles that appeal to you.  After a little while you receive an email to say that someone has replied to you.  It's a good feeling knowing that you might have finally messaged the one person that is real.  It doesn't even matter what the message says, just that a message has been received...  Don't waste this precious chance by sending a message that doesn't compare to the first in either thought or content and certainly don't throw in a request for a meet or an "intimate" cam to cam session... FFS!

OR...  you've been in a chat room or messenger on a kink oriented site and someone pages you for a chat.  You agree and click the accept button only to find that the person asks the same questions over and over and then dodges any questions you may ask.  To make things worse they then say "this isn't going anywhere" and promptly leave the chat window.

OR...  Someone pages you for a chat who is outside your age preference, distance, or otherwise doesn't meet your basic requirements that have been carefully outlined in your profile.  After the 2nd refusal they then accuse YOU of being a fake and a timewaster!

Oh the joys of the internet! 

Hugz

Red x

I've just read one profile update on here and it seems that they are now owned by another person on this site...  What's the scandal there I hear you cry? 

This person's photo has been used on around 14 different sites.  According to thedirty.com it has also made an appearance on  facebook! This just raises the question as to whether we really know who we are talking to.  Could it be that two guys are faking each other and getting off on the fact that the other is a "woman" doing as she's told or that the "mistress" is as hot as her stolen pics...

Now while this is funny to some extent it also should concern users of this site.  Please be careful when talking to anyone.  Don't give out information or contact details until you are sure of who you are talking to.  Collaring and ownership is something to be done over time and should not be something that is entered into at the drop of a hat.  It saddens me that this takes place so quickly and then a further read of the profile of the freshly collared "girl" reveals that she is being "whored" out by someone that she probably has not even talked to on the phone...  Anyone else concerned?

Your thoughts please...  Hugz, Red x

Ok, so here's a little question for you all...  How come all these so called lifestyle dommes and lesbian mistresses on this site are only online 9-5 or other office hours...?  If anyone can shed light on this I'd love to know... Not really, I have my own ideas but seriously, get a clue...

Don't bother waiting for later with these "ladies" cos it ain't gonna happen....

Do I look like the type of profile that wants to have some pathetic man begging me to be their mistress?  I say profile as you can't possibly tell from any blurb on here what someone is really like, what makes up the enigma that is them.  Aside from the typical tells such as stolen photos, one sided conversations and no interest in answering questions posed in messages, you never really know who you are looking at or approaching.

I would not expect someone to approach me on the street and beg for me to be their domme, goddess or some such other rubbish!

Now people, it takes time, a lot of time to form the kind of friendship and relationship from which a true D/s, poly or other Kink related partnership/polyship to evolve - in my REAL experience.  What is with all these "collared" girls who have never been in the same room as their Dom(me).  A collar is a symbol of permanency, much like the engagement of the 'nilla world.  Can you really think that little of yourself that you throw yourself at anyone that calls themselves Master or Mistress, snapping you up and demanding that you do this and that, without having felt their touch, looked into their eyes, or even shared a coffee with?

I'm just ranting but if you have your own thoughts please get in touch...  Answers on a postcard (or message)...  Hugz, Red x

Is it too much to ask for a message that contains more than a few words.  I mean if you are going to contact someone then you want to make a good impression surely?

How hard is it to write a little about yourself and a reason for contacting me in the first place?  Surely you've read my profile?  No, well take your eyes of the prize and READ...

I hate to be rude but please READ the messages, sometimes there are questions in them that should be answered - it's only polite and courteous to do so.  I am not here to swap photos or to exchange erotic stories and I won't partake in one sided conversations.  If you are limited by your intelligence to only reply with 4 - 10 words with no punctuation then believe me, we won't get on!  PLease move along and try someone else...

You get what you give...  Put in a little effort FFS!  It is a FREE site so messages cost you nothing... Neither do manners...  I won't reply if you don't try!!!

So it seems that all of the men on here are real....  a small percentage of the women are real...  When I say real I mean not looking for cash, gifts, using other peoples photos or actually men using their girlfriends images to chat dirty to other women whilst at work or home alone...

Now call me old fashioned but where is the fun in that.  Surely face to face is far better then pixel to pixel... 

At least I'm not getting my hopes up in any way.  If you are real or claim to be real I will ask you to prove it.  Don't give me any bullshit about no pics, no cam and no phone.

If you want to prove you are genuine then be prepared for a quick chat on the phone - just to say hi...

There are far too many profiles on here that are fake - I think most regular users know this so any one that is new and genuine please be careful.

Thanks to Beast for your advice and for the chat.  Thanks also to SadisticBiatch for the exchange of hot air...

Hugz,

Red x

So a few more days have passed and I have been chatting to a great selection of people on here.  It's certainly been amusing and lovely to meet you!  Thanks to a new friend of mine on here, Karren, I have found that photos can be checked using a website.  Fantastic help...  If you are interested and can type a decent message I might let you have the details...  Hugz, Red x

Hands up if you're a real person...?  How many people on here are who they say they are?  What's with the "tributes", "wish lists" and such like FFS? 

After spending time in the company of others it may be natural to spoil your new pet/mistress/master/slave* (*delete as applicable) but who in their right mind is going to give cash to someone they only ever talk to online...  Here you go small african country - we'll help you sort out your national debt (LOL)

Thanks to those of you who have proven you're genuine...  it is much appreciated!  And thanks for the chats and messages - you know who you are.

I really like it when people surprise me with a well written, original message that is far longer than 4 words...  and for those of you who are still learning... "Get on your knees, bitch" is not a good opener.

To truly get inside the mind of anyone you'd like to play with you have to lay a solid foudation of friendship and trust...  HINT HINT!!!