I need to feel safe. Before I can begin to open my submissive nature to You I need to feel safe and have reason to trust You.  To let down my walls and give You control of my will may take time and testing before I feel safe enough to permit either of us to go beyond the initial stages of our relationship.  Even after I've given myself to You fully, I need to be reminded I am safe with You.  I may like to feel the thrill and excitement of fear and the unknown, but I need to be sure no matter how You stimulate those emotions during an intense scene or situation, I will remain safe in Your care.

I need to know You accept me for all I am.  I will be many things to You as our relationship grows and I need to know You accept me as a person during each transition along the way.  I need to know You accept me as a friend, lover, companion, and Your submissive but also accept me as parent, child, employee, community member or other roles I fill in my obligations to family or society. 

I need to have clearly defined limits.  I need to know exactly what You expect of me and know that You also understand my limits.  In some ways I am like a child that needs a fence around my play area so I know how far I can go and feel secure inside those limits.  I need You to reinforce those fences by correcting me when I try to climb them without Your approval.