I've been on here for a while now and this updated profile reflects my current attitude. Some parts of this may sound arrogant or rude, but that can happen when one is being honest. If this profile offends you then you're probably not the sort of person I wanted to meet anyway :)

About me...physically I'm a big guy. 6'3" tall, and usually around 100kgs. I could stand to lose a few kgs from around my waist, but I'm not a fat build by any means. I have shortish brown hair and my eyes are usually green in color.

You've probably noticed by now that my profile says submissive. Yes, that's not a typo, I am looking for someone to dominate me. But I wish to make it clear that I am not a submissive person in day to day life. On the contrary, I'm actually quite dominant. I'm hard-working, I run my own business, I am quite cynical, and I generally don't take crap from people. I'm only submissive behind closed doors, and only then to someone who is worthy. So if you're seeking a simpering gumby who doesn't have an opinion then I'm probably not the sub for you.

There's obviously more to tell about me but hopefully it will become obvious after you've finished reading about what I'm looking for in a dominant.

Ideal Person:

What I'm looking for...well, perhaps I should start off with what I'm not looking for and go from there :)

I'm not looking for a wife. No I'm not married, or cheating on someone, but I'm sick of meeting desperate women who use BDSM as a guise to find a partner. To be blunt about it...I don't have any trouble meeting women or getting laid, but I'm NOT here to get laid, I'm here to find a BDSM partner, period. (I suppose I should add to that that if we meet and get along really well both in the Dom/sub role and outside of that, then I'm not adverse to a monogamous fulltime relationship. But, whilst that would be great, I think the chance of it happening is very slim.)

I'm not looking for a social butterfly. These kind of people are quite similar to the desperate women mentioned above, except replace 'looking for husband' with 'looking for any group of people who'll accept them'. To be frank, like I haven't been so far :), I really don't care what other people are doing unless I'm affected by it. And before you ask, yes I've been to BDSM clubs before, no I don't like them. I can't accurately describe how silly I find it watching fifty BDSMers in the one place with maybe two of them engaging in actual contact with the rest watching on and passing judgement. If you want to hang around a group of like minded people who love to bitch and gossip and get involved in meaningless power struggles then contact the Country Women's Assocation, not me.

I'm not looking for a 'goth chick'. Yes, I know, you think you're evil and mysterious because you play dress-ups, wear vampire teeth, spill fake blood, give each other strange names and listen to crappy music...but please, save that shit for your other goth friends and leave me out of it. As far as I'm concerned that doesn't have anything to do with BDSM.

I'm not looking to be free labour. Yes, I know, I'd love someone to wash my dishes, mow my lawn, paint my house, walk my dog and pay my credit card too...wouldn't everyone? If you're looking for a person that fits this description then perhaps this isn't the place for you, perhaps try a newspaper advertisment under the heading 'sucker wanted'.

I'm not looking for kinky sex. I know there's probably a bunch of you reading this, possibly while painting your fingernails black or watching Oprah, thinking 'this guy doesn't know anything about BDSM, he's not a sub, he just wants kinky sex'. Well sorry, but as stated above, I'm not here looking for sex. In fact I would prefer it if I never had sex with my dominant. To me, sexual intercourse shouldn't a part of BDSM when male subs are involved. I'd also prefer it if she never allowed me to cum. I hope that settles the debate.

What I'm seeking(assuming anyone made it this far):

I'm looking for people, or couples, who are powerful enough (mentally) to force me to submit to them using pain as a key motivator. I want you to enjoy the thought of using a person like myself in whichever way you see fit. I might not always be obedient but surely it's more fun for you when you know you've really forced me to do things I wouldn't normally do. If you can't dominate me and make me your bitch when I'm naked and bound in front of you, even if I'm not being compliant, then you probably don't deserve the title of Dom/me in the first place :)

People often ask me what kind of things I think qualify as 'not wanting to do'. A few things that come to mind include being forced to take a golden shower, being forced to suck cock(even though I'm straight), being forced to rim, etc etc. Pretty much anything within my hard limits should be ok though. My hard limits are NO: scat, animals, kids, blood, xdressing or public play.

So, in a nutshell, I'm looking for someone who would really enjoy using and abusing me. Someone who understands that power, like respect, is not given on a whim, especially to the unworthy. I don't see my submission as a gift to give, I see it as a challenge for someone to take.

I have pictures available upon request, but I prefer to chat to someone and make sure they're real first before I share them. If you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask me, I'm actually a very approachable person, just please be genuine.