I had my info here for the past 10 years, but decided to remove it because it does not reflect who i am now and what i am looking for... Actually i am not sure what i am looking for exactly. Not looking to get laid, or to get involved in full time training, but I would be interested to assist someone in their experiences. I have a wicked imagination and playfulness. Not looking for anything complicated. "Simplicity is the ultimate form of sophistication..." P.S. i do have some interesting high-tech toys like a fucking machine (see pics)
8/15/2016 9:03:45 PM
got a new fucking machine (see pics). Would you like to test it out? ;)
good idea for a training exercise: A girl is reading a selection from one of her favorite books while being bought to orgasm by a Hitachi wand (SFW - no nudity): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PQuT-Xfyk3o
7/6/2012 11:17:22 PM
"hysteria" - a charming movie about invention of the first vibrator. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1435513/
5/31/2012 12:20:33 AM
Bondage-A-Go-Go was really good tonight. Most likely will go back next wednesday
5/6/2012 10:35:57 PM
"SF / Mission Sex: Your Field Guide to Sex Nerds" - funny and true. A great article. link
any shibari / self-bondage ballerinas/dancers around? please let me know )
9/7/2011 7:14:35 PM
September 25th 2011 - Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco.
Folsom Street Fair is the world's largest and most beloved leather and fetish event with 400,000 fetish enthusiasts spread out over 13 city blocks of San Francisco's South of Market district. With two live stages, a massive dance area, and 220+ adult alternative lifestyle vendors, you'll be entertained from start to finish!
This year, our stage line ups are:
7TH STREET STAGE ... Hosted by VivvyAnne ForeverMORE! & Suppositori Spelling, Ambrosia Salad & Cookie Dough with DJ Brian Maier and DJ Guy Ruben
11:00am Gunfighter Nation 11:50am Adonisaurus 12:45pm Purple Crush 1:35pm COCKTAILGATE 2:30pm Raja (of Ru Paul's Drag Race) 2:45pm Alexis Blair Penney 3:20pm Miracles Club 4:10pm Hard Ton 5:10pm Billie Ray Martin
12TH STREET STAGE Hosted by MuthaChucka & Anna Conda With DJ MC2 and DJ Medic
11:00am Tokyo Raid 11:50am TurbonegrA 12:40pm Leather Titleholders 12:55pm Sex Industry 1:45pm Neon Anyway 2:35pm HOTTUB 3:25pm Hi Fashion 4:15pm In Flagranti (live) 5:10pm Monarchy
For more information about being an exhibitor, places to stay in San Francisco, or other events happening during San Francisco Leather Week, visit www.folsomstreetevents.org
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/billion-wicked-thoughts/201104/why-feminism-is-the-anti-viagra (this is a two parts article)
3/16/2011 3:33:16 AM
Jeux d'enfants(2003)(Love me if you dare) is such a good movie
http://stagevu.com/video/sfizjwgfwply
3/9/2011 9:29:21 PM
Collarme needs "Like" button
2/9/2011 4:10:02 PM
"Harvard study says 70 percent of domestic violence is committed by women against men"
http://newscastmedia.com/domestic-violence.htm
;)
10/17/2010 10:00:12 PM
amazing leather accessories
http://bobbasset.com/archives/date/2010
here is what i want for X-mas
10/4/2010 7:17:47 PM
"Rope and Skin" (1979) in japanese with eng subtitles. The famous Toei yakuza-film screenwriter Isao Matsumoto wrote the script based on a story by Tani's frequent collaborator, the S&M-author Oniroku Dan.
watch full movie at http://stagevu.com/video/prqlcpnjdqdm
8/19/2010 8:14:21 PM
"Legally, it's questionable. Morally, it's disgusting. Personally, I like it"
8/1/2010 6:39:31 PM
;)))
3/7/2010 11:19:08 PM
Happy March 8th, dear women. (it's an International women's day, celebrated in Europe)
7/25/2009 4:33:06 PM
What is primal form of human communication?
Touch / Tactile stimulation. Pretty much all human emotions could be expressed (and understood)
through touching.
Mothers communicate with their newborn children through touching
during first few years of their lives.
Brainstorming -collaboration - communication
The easiest way for 2 people to "get on the same page" and enhance
collaboration is 1. become "accessible" (get naked/wear "accessible"clothing) 2. get in touch (we had a loveseat allowing 2 people to sit
face-to-face and reach out their partner with their hands. ex: my hands
on her breast, balls in her hands) 3. get turned on ('lazy' light rubbing is enough. The idea is
not making your partner to finish you off. It is about getting person
slightly aroused and maintaining this level.
Sexual arousal is actually the easiest way for two people to start
vibrating on the same frequency. It seems that human body has some
kind of sync mechanism (through endocrine system?) allowing to both
people to 'flow' in same direction.
I just saw an article that in England there is a company, which started "naked fridays" to boost employees morale... People
were really enthusiastic about it... Productivity doubled...
It would be interesting to connect with someone and discuss some kinky business idea, radical politics or art projects.
1/8/2009 12:54:16 PM
"I wouldn't recommend sex, drugs or insanity for everyone, but they've always worked for me."
"The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it
because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who
have gone over.
"
(Hunter S. Thompson)
inspired by my recent visit to beatniks museum in SF ( kerouac.com)
5/23/2008 12:22:29 AM
my playmate has been added to my profile. We're not a couple , but this site doesn't have any other options to display connections.
Me alone or both of us could be available for the right situation/opportunity.
She won't be available without me, unless you're under our wing
5/1/2008 7:38:45 PM
I'd like to connect for a session (or few) with submissive (switch) female. who is either: 1. over 35-37 and just starting exploring d/s 2. married/involved, but exploring d/s "solo"; 3. "dominant" in her professional life (business owner, lawyer, top manager)..
This is not about having sex, think of it as erotically-charged communication. Tell me about your situation, please include a pic if there's none on your profile.
2/21/2008 6:52:56 AM
Sex is more exciting on the screen and between the pages than between the sheets.
-Andy Warhol
1/22/2008 6:36:16 PM
Few days ago someone posted few pictures of women practicing yoga in nude .... and voila... I've got a new fetish ;) Now i want to get my hands
on someone with a flexible body and "study" anatomy with my hands. http://surepleasure.blogspot.com/2008/01/naked-yoga.html
I started researching the subject, and ended up on my favorite Wikipedia
where i found the following thing.
Bandha
(pron. ban-dha) is a Sanskrit term often employed in relation to yogic discourse and instruction. The term denotes a binding, lock or bondage that may be either internal or external to the body.
Bandha may be defined as a particular focused and intentional
action involving pressure, contraction or force on the muscles or some
other bodily or sensate phenomena.
Definitions
* ("bond/bondage"): the fact that human beings are typically bound
by ignorance , which causes them to lead a life governed by karmic
habit rather than inner freedom generated through wisdom
* (lit. stop or block). It means stopping or blocking the flow of
spiritual energy in a specific channel of the body by a particular
yogic posture. It also means getting rid of the cycles of birth and
death.
Which only supports my theory bellow.
Disclaimer: I am not a yogi... i did practice meditation 1 time in my life. It took place in Northern Thailand, right on the border with Myanmar (Burma). I had a chance (and used it) to stay in Buddhist Wat for 21 day Vipassana session. It was the hardest thing i did in my life.. 21 day without not talking to anyone, not looking into eyes, being awake from 5am till 11 pm. No reading, no writing, no music -- all this with the purpose of NOT THINKING...
daily activities: - eating 20 min. twice a day 6am and 11.30 am - sitting and "mindful walking" meditation.
Walking is usually good, when you get somewhere... but in this case you get close to paranoia while cycling through full spectrum of all kinds of emotions. First 2 weeks are really hard, then it gets better (you just adopt to the fact that your life is on habernating mode, which is amazing feeling which actually causes sensatephenomena.
i used this approach in my sessions with my creative addons: i asked a sub to sit with her "eyes wide shut" for 3 hours. The idea was that she should control timing internally and open her eyes only when she thinks that the time is up.. first time she was "done" in 56 min. Second time in 1h 40min... 3rd time didn't happen ;) (because she accepted the job offer from Microsoft and moved to Seattle...) such intelligent girl, i miss her... ____________ Anyway, if i'd meet someone so flexible as someone on those pictures, i'd be all over... ;)
1/19/2008 1:44:26 PM
... i am so twisted that today i
convinced someone (and myself) that D/s is no different than 'original' Buddhism,
which is a "teaching" and not a "religion"..
Generally speaking a Buddhism is teaching/guidance on how to be truly happy. It is based on the following concepts as - "non-self" - "everything suffers" - "life is a perpetual suffering" among the others. The idea is that
no matter who you are, you are suffering. Poor people suffer , rich
people suffer.. good people suffer like good people, bad people suffer
like bad people, and even Gods suffer like Gods... Who doesn't suffer? Non-self doesn't suffer because ,
well, it is "non-self".. The idea is that if one will be strong enough
to become non-self, it would be possible to get out of the loop, stop
suffering and be ultimately happy. Nibbana/Nirvana is a state of happiness.
I never thought about this parallel
before, but my personal concept of D/s is really similar. I see the
ultimate submission as a trust-powered act based on "free will" with
an ultimate goal of feeling joy from being free from social, gender,
moral-based boundaries. Domination for me isn't about satisfying a
kinky fetish, which requires like-minded supporting environment (as
"the scene"). Being the "pervert" i am, i was blessed to experience
lots of kinky stuff in regular , D/s-free relationship by using simple
thing like communication. If i could express it, i had a chance to be
understood.
This is why i never had a desire being in 'traditional' D/s relationship. What is interesting is to meet and be able to interact with a strong person,
be able to connect and bond in order to explore new/ways of feeling
"happy", which is not revolving around physiological climax... It
wouldn't be incorrect if i'd say that i "get off" from offering new
experience through control/discipline..freedom to use my power and
responsibility for the person's trust is my way of being non-self while
assisting someone to move toward the same goal ... just maybe from
different destination...
p.s. yes i know the difference between "self-less" and "non-self"...
If this could be the reason for being sarcastic, step aside and contact
me ... We'll start as cult... You'll be suffering as #2 ;))
12/28/2007 8:34:31 PM
"War is Peace; Freedom is Slavery; Ignorance is Strength." G.Orwell "1984"
;)
12/26/2007 5:54:56 PM
I urgently need to connect with a strong female, who "can write". I need her help to finish really big and important project. She'll be proud of herself, because i will make her feel this way... Mental and tactile interaction between her and myself. no intercourse will be required during this training. Please be in/around SF , or be able to come here. talk to me.
5/29/2007 4:24:16 PM
I started a new blog at http://SurePleaSure.blogspot.com
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Unfortunately San Francisco (and the US in general) doesn't offer many options for places where individuals could have safe kink-infused private quality time.
Option #1 "Hot tubs"
Rented hourly, something around $40. Questionable from sanitary stand point. Personally i never experienced it
Option #2 DIY conversion" After I got laid off from my corporate job, i decided to start my own business. My daily commute SF-SJ was over , I didn't need my car anymore and got rid of it. I converted my garage into playground and it came out surprisingly well: blacklight, fluorecent paintings, music. The place is always dark because it has no windows.
Option #3 PORN PALACE
(club space owned by kink.com) pornpalace.com Nice place, could be reserved for private parties for lots of money
Option #4 MOST CREATIVE
This is my own idea - something to be proud of ;)
metrorent .com - a SF based appartment rental service. It works the following way:
you fill out few forms, leave $20 deposit and the agency gives you the address of the place you chose +the key to get in for 1 hour.
No landlords, No furniture, no blinds and shower - what else one could dream of? ;)
HOW IT IS DONE IN CIZVILIZED WORLD:
SPAIN Example: bondagedominationspain.com Hourly Rental 45€ Full Day Rental 240€
JAPAN Example: "Love Hotels", Shibari rooms in Tokyo Hourly Rental $60-$500 We have few problems while trying to get in: it seems like in Japan nobody speaks English
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There are plenty of business opportunities in this field. I have more than few ideas: from kink rooms with swings instead of beds to mobile trailers furnished with all kinds of kinky devices /furniture.
if someone has access to capital, let me know and i will be glad to prepare my presentation//pitch.
5/29/2007 4:18:11 PM
"KINKY BUSINESS" Plan: SOCIAL KINK
REALITY
There are many places on the web dedicated to , or used for "kink socialization":
- collarme.com is hard to swallow,
- bondage.com is little better, one can easily get in touch with .. him/herself.. for free.. for everything else one must pay
- friendster and other social networks: too many random people (well duh)
- bdsm-related groups on myspace: top of the kink: cops pretending to be 16y.o. lesbian terrorists.
All projects have one similarity: none of them were designed for kink.
Some were designed for music sharing, dating, searching , drooling, annoying people, wasting time for filling stupid questionnaires, modifying profiles - so much flexibility,,,but clearly- it is all a cheap non-kinky, unsafe and non creative substitution of something intense and real.
I am an average person, so in every situation where i have to make improvement, i ask myself questions...
So, what is my personal interest in web-based kink?
I AM INTERESTED to KNOW
- what's on people's minds (kink)
- what's in people's hearts (passion)
- If they have "balls" (to do "something" if situation is "right")
- about their ACTUAL experience of making their kinks happen.
- initial compatibility (basic stats.. weight/height)
- if there is a chance to be physically at the same geo location at specified hour.
- what other people think about this specific kinkster.
- If there is a proof that meetings did really happen.. this will serve as motivational factor.
IN OTHER WORDS: I AM EXPECTING TO BE MENTALLY (POSSIBLY VISUALLY) STIMULATED WHILE LEARNING REAL LIFE EXPERIENCES + VERIFIABLE FACTS ABOUT STRANGERS
BUSINESS IDEA:
to design and develop kink-oriented DYNAMIC social network, that will
- disable passive participation (like creating profile and waiting to be noticed)
- enable possibility to TRUST "strangers",
- boost creativity
- monetize from people actually "doing things", without becoming financial burden;
- make people better
- promote responsibility and "kinkability"
- not endanger anyone's wellbeing
MEMBERSHIPS
Non-recurring paid membership, something like $10 lifetime in the form of actual purchase.
For example - a box of condoms. This will resolve problems
- with underage kids;
- teenagers with overprotective parents
- spammers trying to monetize on traffic
Condoms is the perfect item for many reasons***
PROFILES
- Really simple/generic profile, that will be strictly physical /medical/geographical.
- Private picture gallery that cannot be changed to "public" mode.
- No profiles search and no way to connect (annoy) just because one or few "words" matched..
PLAYGROUND
Play Area will be including 2 components.
Digg alike setup with w. simplified UI. When i am at work, i don't need pictures.
If i think, that i should be paid for being so kinky - be it.
I want to be able to post / read / rate / tag / bookmark my own and other peoples fantasies.
Doing it through the browser means that there is a possibility to get caught by unkinky manager.
Receiving fantasies by RSS and reading them through email client is everything that average slacker could dream of.
I want to be able to choose fantasies by topics. It would be possible through tagging each fantasy with appropriate tags: " couples", "strangers", "outside", "silence", "stupid" . While rating fantasies, i want to save (bookmark) the ones i am interested to actually experience, if situation is "right".
People with identical interests will be able to continue discussion about chosen fantasy in details in semi-private environment (project management) that will have a
- message board
- calendar
- proofs of success/failures
- scenarios/tutorials how to succeed in this fantasy.
Newcomers will see all potential problems and will make this fantasy more intense, fun and safe by learning positive/negative experiences from "pioneers".
TRUST SYSTEM
People meet and try things. After returning to the site first question that will pop up:
- How was it?
- How was the partner?
- Any juicy details?
if both parties skip everything , then nothing happened.
"TRUST" rating won't be anything like myspace's, friends lists are useless.. Allowing to add friends will make possible to appear trustworthy , without being it.
Allowing to rate someone per action is way more objective.
First of all: there will always be witnesses/proofs that possibility of meeting was discussed first.
Second - the meetings was scheduled.
Simple tracking of IP, and analysis of user behavior will make this trust rating almost fool proof.
facts like never exchanging pictures, no live chat sessions would be a good indicator of fishy stuff.
Report about actual experience, what both parties felt about it- this is interesting, hot, and valuable.
The thing that someone didn't rate you, would have a meaning - everyone will use personal judgment based on FACTS .
Number of connections/successful encounters will show who's real deal.
Actual connection info, that would connect 2 or more members AND actual "fantasy" will be revealed only when people decided to go for it.
Everyone will be able to verify that the potential partner is REAL by contacting his/her playmates.
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While the whole idea of this network is to be able to experience things, there is plenty of opportunities to have fun "online only" - Everyone is welcome to post and discuss their dirtiest fantasies without any meetings.
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Participation in kinks will be more valuable, objective and interesting information about the person, than list of his favorite tv shows, or books he/she never read.
ENGAGEMENT INTO ACTIVITIES
Newbies will have tons of opportunities to get involved gradually by choosing fantasies that fit them /their experience the most..
Receiving condoms for establishing membership is really usable (in all senses)
How about "hardcore" fantasy of meeting a stranger and donating this box of rubber?
Examples :
fantasy #1: meet and silently hand the box to another person.
fantasy #2: meet for glass of milk with oreo cookies, and then hand the box to another person.
fantasy #3: meet and immediately make out .. then hand the box to another person.
fantasy #4: meet in public and scream "Take it, bitch!" and then hand the box to the bitch.
Since some people are totally lacking social skills, there could be "special" solo fantasies, like
getting tested for STDs,... so when the time is right, the fact of recent test can easily compensate lack of few inches, or excess of few dozen pounds.
The fact that the person has an std doesn't mean, that he/she shouldn't live life.
it only means that they should be responsible. Avoiding unpleasant moments of being rejected due medical condition, such as std, there could be 1 simple rule: all invitations to actual engagement into real life experiences should be
- private.
- never discussed.
if one person has "something" and another doesn't, the system will send the same message: "sorry, not interested".
In case of initial match by physical description and health, photo albums will be available, as well as "resume" of completed fantasies. It might happened that more experienced person will be chosen to guide by less experienced on more than one occassion.
Seeing a resume of interesting kinks would allow someone to complement and actually respect another for being "such slut"..
SAFETY
None of current web-based kink-related sites offer any protection for real-life interactions.
Friends and family may often be judgmental.
I assume that most of the time no one knows about this engagement.
I think that people sharing the same fantasies would actually care about other members, who share the same kink as them.
Maybe they won't care about actual person, but they surely care about his success/failures.
Humans are competitive by nature. This competition explains the need to hear from others about their experiences , so they could compare them to their own, and then feel better about themselves.
Of course my speculations are nothing but assumptions on how people could act/react.
There are many ways of providing actual & objective safety
When People decide to meet, they usually exchange phone numbers. Calling 10,000 confirming that the partner didn't change his/her mind is annoying.
Letting the system to take care punctuality is
a) thoughtful
b) accurate
c) guarantees safety.
If I decided to meet someone on May 11th at 9pm and have a "nice conversation" for, let's say, 2 hours. I will feel good about receiving SMS reminder before our meeting. Another SMS at 11pm will indicate that debates are over and it's time to un-tie my communication partner.
I don't think that there is a fetish that someone gets off from talking to FBI..
Btw, "courtesy calls" from system administrator role playing FBI agent could cost $5-$10 and be offered as additional service.
It would be wise to allow removing own phone number from the system only after mutual rating exchange... this is as safe as it could be.
At least if someone went to gangbang and placed reminder in one week from now, none of fantasymates would worry -- this person knows what he/she's doing,.. and everybody will be waiting for details.
REVENUE GENERATION
All revenue will be generated from kinkmall - a syndicated market place, that offers scene-related products,,,
a) Merchants are good source of income.
b) Ticket sales: establishing the standard / monopoly for online ticket sales will make GOOD returns. Surcharge of $5-10 is reasonable. especially that "party specials" are perfect fantasy to participate and talk about.
c) Porn/fetish Netflix. I know I would rent some mid-sized fucking machine for strictly scientific experiments over the weekend. Paying $1000 is nonsense.. but leasing one for $150 sounds like a good reason to set up a fantasy.
d) Private parties management (Kinky eVite)
e) Groups of like minded individuals will create new services, that never existed before.
How about: "24h long public nudity in the company of 10 naked people "
this means they will need to plan a limo, restaurants etc..
I am sure they will be labeled as "yuppies" and 10 other people will do the same on 5 times smaller budget.
f) establishing high-quality theme rooms with hourly/daily rent price is not a new idea. Good example: Japanese "love hotels". It should be upscale and expensive thing. 6-7 wireless IP cameras recording all "action" to DVD that could be picked up right after getting dressed is a nice memory about fun times.
g) Receiving a gift certificate to star in 1-hour "fmachine" flick with "real" camera crew + "really creative director" .. Keeping the one and only tape will add a good dose of adrenaline every time the "star" will think about consequences of this tape being stolen. I see it as a trend..
Adding possibilities to make financial transactions from own profile will pay off BIG time.
Not everyone could afford to try himself as art director of a porn flick with real model.
But there is nothing wrong to dream about it. Starting a fantasy and making deposit of 1/3 of total cost provides a chance that 2 other people might find reasonable to add 1/3 each to have his name to titles.
Setting up a shopping cart in the kinkmall to automatically split revenues from each sale -- and it's time to order business cards, because no one will argue that
creative ideas pay off.
Purchasing toys for small group-use is a nice way to avoid huge bill. It is also good way to sell "hot" items through peer pressure.
Group purchases are nice way to save on desired items, but usually problematic in post sale distribution. I am sure that people will make effort to find self-alike to buy something in bulk for half price.
Private lessons is another example of being able to afford something through collective efforts.
It is hard to find one rich idiot, but it is easy to find 10 poor idiots, who are willing to "collectively afford" high-priced stupidity.
FUTURE
People have all kinds of fantasies. Adding safety element would allow to "really loose control"
I see establishment and development of domestic and international
|| kink-tourism
Why someone with proven and confirmed double digit personality, should waste money and stay in the hotel while visiting another city?
Someone will be thrilled to provide a bed & breakfast with love. No credit card required. I totally see kink-tourism as new form of social activities.
|| Kink-employment
I'd be oh so looking forward for an interview / full body exam and then feel good regarding complementing really nice ass (if it is true), without risk of being misinterpreted by someone who decided to cash on lack of attention. The ones who think that it is wrong because $$ involved, i can guarantee that it will not be the highest paying company, but it will be fun.
- "on fridays we eat pizza and wear business casual"
- "on fridays we f. around"
this is the attitude and spirit. I have no doubt that one of the top placements in "best company to work for" will be ours.
Well, it is not really a "business plan", but it's kinky and and it makes sense from business stand point...
5/29/2007 4:11:01 PM
10/11/2006 1:59:01 AM
IDEA FOR 1st session
This following scenario probably won't work for 100%sub due predictability and primitivism of sub's desires. Control, discipline , guidance are far more rewarding, if person feels something vs. being in hibernated mode.
This proposal is not anything close to perversive genius of Stanley Kubrick, it is nothing but an attempt to play with the same kind of energy.
After arriving to my place, she will be allowed to enter. Immediately after entering, she'd have to turn 180 degree, and close the door + her eyes. No blindfolds (unless she wants one , then she'll have to bring it with her). The idea is based on a fact that one sane person deliberately gives away control over situation to a "stranger" in exchange of mind blowing tactile stimulation, and being able to visualize the whole thing by using her mind and senses. She will be hearing, feeling, analyzing surrounding, and suppressing/fighting her desire to control situation visually. Absence of visual control will make her body more responsive toward stimulation - an expected physiological reaction - her brain will be craving that missing "information" and will try to compensate it trough other senses.
She will feel "stranger's" hands wondering under her clothing... After being slowly undressed, her body will be gently "explored" with random tempo of this sensual ritual. Her body will be releasing this electricity in response to random and absolutely unexpected touches. .. Smell of lemon mixes with burning sandalwood.. "Stranger" will gently touch her shoulders observing her body's reaction, her facial expressions, body shaking caused by energy, that will channel through her body...
Q: no sex grand finale? A: nope.. sucks, isn't it?. Think about how many times you had sex. Then think how many times you've been undressed, teased/ touched without seeing or talking this "stranger..
