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So why dont I have a woman to serve? It seems I live too far away from real women. Surely there is a real woman in the Ozarks, or near to the Ozarks, who loves to have control of a male !!! Surprise me.

A Dominant Woman has the world by the tail if she wants it---if she can stand it! -)


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I believe that the most important dynamic to a Dommesub relationship is control. She must crave having it, and he must want Her to have it.

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The word that fits best to describe me is QUEER.

This does not mean I am gay, but it DOES mean I am not a regular male with regular, usual sexual desires. I dont need the sex act. In fact, I dont even think about it, much less yearn for it. Well, lets be honest. I am not a good fuck, and I never have been. LOL


QUEER is a word commonly used, these days, to express a person having a gender identity that is different from the birth or biological gender. This confusion of meaning is unfortunate. I am a male cisgender. I am not transgender, nor gender confused.


One more thing. PIV (penis in vagina) sex (for me) just messes with my submissive head space. So that is a big reason why I can completely do without that. I know that no PIV sex is a non-starter for many women with a strong libido. But it is how I am. I am really submissive. Of course, any woman who seeks to own me clearly has the right to have me as a submissive and can seek at any time any other lover of her choosing.


My sexual orientation is submissive. I am a subbie. My nature is to be a pleaser, and my counterpart is a Woman who can accept a subbie for a mate. She does not have to be a shrew or a sadist or a bitch. She does not even have to be dominant in nature, although having some dominant tendencies is very nice. - Regardless, she must be willing to accept the love of a subbie.

If you are inexperienced as a Domme, or Domme-curious, you may feel free to contact me.



There really are very, very nice and intelligent ladies who would love to have a sub or slave for a companion. It is too bad that there are immature dorks and HNGs who pester and annoy these women. And for those males who have no real attraction to Dommes, except for curiosity, these Domme ladies are very real people, and yes a woman can be sane, smart, delightful and dominant and sadistic too! But do not despair Ye Dominant Women, there are real guys too!



Have you noticed that there are lots of sub males who want a relationship in which the woman does notwill not let him have intercourse with her? These type of subs are by no means rare, but at least some are very, very real! Oftentimes it is the classic cuckold fantasy(wife has sex with other men, but refuses her husband) but not always.




Another common orientation TVs who want to be treated as a woman as much as possible---not as a sexual partner but as a maid or child or such. (BTW, tvsissy-maid is NOT my orientation.)



Meanwhile, women who are into BDSM are nearly all women who love sex in most all variations, and who cannot fathom the idea of a relationship with a guy who wants to be chaste with her!



The irony is that there are way too many males who want no vanilla sex in a relationship, compared to only a few women who could accept a relationship with a guy who is not, at least on occasion, a good fuck.



There are VERY FEW women who are into bisexual guys. Most submissive guys have somebi fantasies, although overwhelmingly straight. A woman who is willing to taunt, tease or force bi-sex with a sub can have fun with a partner. She can also have rewardingsessionswith many men who have unmet feelings in that direction.



WHY SHOULD A WOMAN BE A DOMINATRIX?

The answer is why not? Let us list the reasons for Woman

* Never have to put up with male demands for sex

* Be treated likeroyalty instead of like a man-pleasing servant

* Have pleasure YOUR way

* The clit is the organ of pleasure, not the penis

* His penis is Yours to do (or NOT DO) with as You please

* Dress any way You like

* He will never cheat on You

* You can fool around with others any time you want to

* You can make him eat out of Your hand, or out of Your lap

* He will be your butler servant, or You can fire him anytime!

* You dont have to wield whips, canes or paddles---but you may!

* He does not have to be a wimp, sissy or cross-dresser

* You will be treated like a Goddess!



I just saw a site where a Domme was crowing about fun that she was having with an exfoliating glove. That does sound wicked!





NO SEX-PECTATIONS. I need to serve and please.I am single, unattached, andlooking for a good friendship, and preferably more. ). I am not a pain freak, not into whips, paddling, king orsuch. I am not wanting to find mommy, and I am not into being a cross-dresser. I just want to be pleasing and dutiful. I amvery passive whenit comes to aLady.i prefer a woman near myage. i am a naturalwoman pleaser. It is my nature. i guess i just dont fit the grid OST Dommes or Mistressesseeking male submission.I am however, very open-minded and willing to accept a Woman as she is. Well, to be frank,i cant aspire to admire a woman who is 100 lbs overweight.i am really not into getting beaten,roped and tied, etc.---butthere exists acuriosity about a sadistic woman......I used to love dickteasing...and probably still do...so if you think dickteasing is cool, then... Regardless of the erotic component, how much time can be spent with sexual activities? A good relationship means that we enjoy spendingtimewitheach other---being togetherdoing lots of things. If you are wanting a lover,and youwant full freedom to cuckold him, or you want the freedom to be poly, thenIam your kind of guy.ialsobelieve I wouldbe very compatible with awoman who isasexual,platonic, or primarily lesbian.To do a Womans bidding is toromance Her.If you like to tease, frustrate and deny, then good for you!iWANT tolovea woman who refuses intercourse with me. Here is a quote from a woman I know. This sums up a great attitude from a real Top

cocks.... when I have control I want to work it over and that doesnt mean kindly. I want to play rough with it.Worshipping a Domme by pleasing her is the ultimate goal.

i would certainly love to be married. By nature I amloyal, honest and faithful. But, iam quite amenable to a woman whowants or needs otherlovers.Why wouldnt a submissive wantaDommetoenjoy what She wants?i am not disabled, or handicapped with drug or alcohol, sports, gambling or other addictive problems.i do not smoke, but dont mind if you do.i am not looking for someone to support me, asi have nice income.i am highly educated and pretty damn bright. i enjoy intelligence, and a diversity of activities.i am not religious.Politicallyi lean to the liberal wing. ihave a sense of humor! i wish all of you wonderful Dommes to find that wonderful submissive lover---who is definitely out there just for you.

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9/10/2023 11:20:36 AM

This is a an edit of an old entry. Where can I add a new entry? 
I am too old to be a full service slave for a woman. But I am still willing to be as docile as possible. Furthermore, I have always been cool if a woman I serve wishes to have another sub, or has a boy-toy to play with etc.


Why is it that I have a fascination with Sadistic Womyn, yet I do not want to to be on the receiving end of serious pain?
It is strang

 


11/17/2013 9:07:32 AM

There is new literature (including scientific evidence) on the benefits and desirability of teasing and denial.

There are so many of us males who love and respect a woman who enjoys teasing...

Here is a link:

 

http://www.scandalouswomen.com/male-orgasm-denial-ii/

 

 


3/31/2012 10:34:08 AM

Over and over, I see Dommes talk about hearing from fakes, phonies and flakes. Why, such a problem? The answer is that the vast majority of males who frolic here are fakes, phonies and flakes. There is a vast sea of males who have nothing to do but play. One thing the following males often have in common: teens, disabled and married---somebody else is doing their laundry, shopping, making and serving meals, housekeeping, and virtually all other living chores. These males have lots of time for entertainment, and that includes meeting women in the internet.

There are some quality subs/slaves, but they are hard to locate in the vast sea of horny male faces. BUT, we are here! Yes, real submissives are sexually different. Normal males are at least dominant-leaning, and normal females are either submissive-leaning, go from a little submissive to a little dominant to a spectrum in-between. We submissives need a woman who is on the sexually weird side---or at least sexually different! 

Learn to accept that the chaff is much greater than the wheat. The wheat is out there, but so is all the chaff. You must devise a way to eliminate the chaff.

Some of the wheat is different than you might expect, however!   


5/3/2009 12:05:42 PM

Maybe this is pretty wimpy, but I definitely feel that I could love and respond to a woman who wills to tell me what to do---and I know that such women exist (especially the older variety *smile*). Seems that they are already taken for the most part!
At our age few women can have a girlish figure. So having extra pounds comes with the territory. Having said this, I have a hang up with having a relationship with a woman who weighs as much or more than me---and is many inches shorter...if you get my drift. I know there are zillions of the really bbws out there, and I wish I had no hangup with that---but I do. I just can't go there.
Can a Dom be supported by a sub? I know that some would think that this violates the power dynamics. I don't think so. Nothing wrong with the man getting the bacon, and the woman calling the shots.


8/5/2007 10:53:51 AM
i very much enjoy photography (and video-cam stuff too). If a photography buff would be someone of service to You let me know.

8/2/2007 6:19:42 AM

i have a thought for Dommes who complain of too many responses from those who are a waste of time. Many profiles tell very little about the Domme. Maybe it makes no difference to idiot horny net geeks, but it seems that the more that the Domme tells as to where she is coming from, the more the wannabe sub/slave will know whether to bother to write to Her.


1/5/2006 10:29:07 AM
i really dig a woman who has non-vanilla needs and desires---and I often fantasize about a lady that thinks that having sex with me as her sub/slave would be taboo.

1/4/2006 5:19:23 AM
I have NO interest in (or ability to love) any woman under the age of 50. Ideally, she is over 55. Unluckily, there are damn few women at that age, who have an interest in a companion. A lot of us gripe and vent alot, about the wannabes, switches, and goddess knows what. Many Dommes complain that they get way too many emails, requests for chat and just plain wankers. Many males complain that there is an extreme paucity of Dommes out there. Personally, i think W/we should all provide as much information as possible. For Dommes, this is to help weed out the wankers, married men, geographically challenged persons, drunks, psychos, etc. For submissives, this is to help a Woman know with whom she is communicating, before a disappointing deal breaker is discovered. I think all of us have encountered someone who was an apparent delight to know, who appeared to be perfect, and really got O/our hopes up---and then wham: It was discovered that the other person was essentially wanting to just get laid, was married, or was just into cyber fantasies, etc. The more information we share up front the better off we are. There will always be the phonies and psychos. Sigh. Welcome to life! *GRIN*

1/3/2006 6:28:23 AM
i have told Women that i would be proud if they had lovers besides me. That seems to be received with dismay. Why? i do not understand that. i realize that a Woman would not want Her man to insist that She sleep around with other guys. But that is not the idea. She should have the ABSOLUTE option to have another lover or to not have another lover, as She decides! Sure, i would serve a married woman.

1/3/2006 6:16:12 AM
Happy new year to all. i hope every Lady finds a lover this year--and soon! Of the things i admire about a Domme: i admire a woman who makes it absolutely clear that She decides whether or not he gets to experience physical satisfaction.

12/7/2005 4:55:29 PM
Elise Sutton, Female Dominant, understands the submissive male, right to the core.
 Here is a quote from her: 


 "Women who practice this lifestyle will eventually learn that a sexually satisfied man is a selfish man but a denied man is an obedient man. Men are much easier to control and dominate when you deny them orgasms. Plus, it makes the entire FemDom lifestyle more pleasurable for the man if he is denied and sexually frustrated. Once a man climaxes, he experiences a letdown and his enthusiasm to serve the female is greatly diminished. To many submissive men, they love the power exchange of being denied while being forced to pleasure the superior female as often as she demands. As far as I go, I do get excited by the thought of having such total control over my husband that I can eliminate his orgasms. We have a saying around our house, 'Sex is for the woman's pleasure.' We practice it and the denial process makes this a reality."

1/10/2005 10:28:34 PM
I don't know why, but the woman who drives my heart crazy is the woman who already has a lover for her sexual needs (or will get one)---and she wants a man who is willing to be her sub or slave without ever getting to have sex with her. I guess that means, of necessity, my idea of a woman of great mystique is a woman who could never be satisfied with one lover!

 This is the kind of woman that makes me want to worshipfully kneel before her.
  

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