One way to spot a fraud account.

Two days ago I wrote to a 'female submissive' person very local to me. It was not a new account, about a month old, and I'd been thinking about writing so I eventually did.

Yesterday I got a 'Who's Viewing Me' from a male dominant profile about 900 miles away.

Today the email I wrote two days ago is marked 'Deleted - Unread.'

Coincidence? I don't think so. LOL!!!

Now I know that 'local' person is another account for that 900 mile away person. They are both fraud accounts.

I have little doubt that that 900 mile away person has a bunch of other submissive -and- dominant accounts, to avoid getting caught. Doesn't matter if t hey get found out anyway because they can always open whatever new accounts they need.

That has happened about 2 or 3x before in the time I've been here: write to a local 'submissive female' user, get hits from distant 'dominant male' user, and then the message is deleted-unread.

Reminds me of when I -first- signed up. I got 'viewed' hits from a bunch of local/regional female users. I also, oddly, got about half a dozen hits from 'male dominant' profiles in New England, RI, MA and CT, both Dakotas, both Carolinas, TX and CA.

Sad, isn't it, that these people have no life other than to make up fake lives. I don't even bother reporting them. I'm annoyed only at my and others' time wasted for their ridiculous childishness. Whatever. It's the net and I shouldn't expect much more than a pile of frauds. It's unfortunate they they mask over the few real people.

Interest Lists

Some people don''t like interest lists. Either they don't want to bother with the time involved, or think they're of little/no use. I don't like to write them but I do like to use them. Yes they're a PITA but they have a purpose. There are many things that I really-really like, and a few that I really-really don't like. Same is true for the subbie, and it follows that because we're all unique that the same is true for everyone.

The first things I look at are the Lives For, Hates, and Hard Limits items. If there is a massive disparity on (almost) any point there, then obviously there will be a major incompatibility, and I usually [click] and move on. No harm, no foul - everyone is entitled to their own tastes. Mainly, I don't want to waste my time talking with someone who will eventually turn out to be totally incompatible on some important point of interest, and vice versa I don't want to waste any else's time either.

The next thing I do is look at the patterns of different kinds of interests. There are mental, physical, and emotional aspects to every item. Through the course of reading a list I get a mental picture of the different kindsoutlooks and attitudes the person has about their mental, physical, and emotional states. (At least, at the moment they wrote the list.) This mental-visual pattern gives me a clue about potential compatibility.

With that I decide whether or not to write to them. I'm not looking for a laundry list of subbies. I'm looking for a very few who in the compatibility-aggregate create the most entertaining and pleasurable atmosphere with and for each other, and of course especially for me.

I've changed my profile from bi to straight, for a couple of reasons. I am 99% straight. Always have been and that hasn't changed. Except in certain circumstances I am no 'attracted' to men. Females can get me totally hot. That is hardwired into the male for species procreative purposes. That is, even if you can fuck it - if it can't make a baby for you it's wasted energy and sperm. LOL!!! (That the male brain can be wired to be attracted to males as in bis and gays is a different topic, not an oxymoron, and not contradictory. Everyone's wired differently - that' what makes us 'unique.')

 The reason I -can- easily dominate a male is because D/s is not about gender it is about authority and control. I can transform a subbie into whatever gender I prefer at the moment. And to be perfectly honest, when the subbie kneels at the dom's feet and asks pleadingly, "Daddy, may I pleeeease hold your cock, kiss it, suck it alldown deep, and make you cum?," then, in all reality, who can say no? ;)

 (Footnote details... though not exactly at the foot of this text. LOL!)There's very little anatomical difference between males and females. Females generally have larger breasts, and men generally can't produce milk. Male breasts are often as sensitive and their nipples often as 'arousable' as female nipples. Men have a large penis as compared to the female clit *BUT* no one can deny that the clit is the seat of female sexual excitement, and it goes through physical changes during sexual excitement. Females can even ejaculate which is totally analogous to the male even though it produces no sperm.)

 The main reason I changed it is that even though I know what it means in my mind to be listed as bi, it is not necessarily clear and obvious. The purpose of the profile is not to remind me what I am. LOL!!! The purpose of the profile is to attract interest. My *primary* interest is to attract females. I find that too many females do not understand this '99% straight and slightly bi for D/s purposes' thing. So, when a female does a search I will not turn up as a hit.

 I slightly hesitate to list myself as straight because it may discourage a subbie male/female couple from writing to me. The male subbie may think that I'm using them as a couple just to get to the female. That is purely simply absolutely not true. I get exactly as much thrill out of dominating the male as the female. My thrill is to control and direct your pleasure even as I take my pleasure using both of you.

 I've also seen comments from females (dom and sub) who cannot fathom the concept of the 'dominant male' having any physical interaction with the male subbie. It simply runs against their grain so abrasively that it turns them off. And so that's part of the purpose of all this text to explain it more clearly - from my point of view. You may still have your opinion and that's perfectly OK, just want to help you understand my POV better.