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Hetero Male Dominant, 63,  Chicago, Illinois
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 Dominant Male



 5' 8"

 185 lbs



 African Descent



Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female

Sub/Sub Couples

 Lives For:

 Mental Bondage (Expert)

 Obedience Training (Expert)

 Orgasm Control (Expert)

 Intellectual Discourse


 Beachcombing (Expert)

 Travel (Expert)

 Camping (Expert)



 Anal Play (Expert)


 Breast Binding/Play (Expert)

 Canes and Crops (Expert)

 Collars (Expert)

 Electrical Play (Expert)

 Exhibitionism (Expert)

 Fisting (Expert)

 Hair Pulling (Expert)

 Public Play  (Expert)

 Sensory Deprivation

 Spanking (Expert)


 Wax play

 Whips (Expert)

 Photography (Expert)

 Economics (Expert)






 Musical Theater




 Horseback Riding


 Scuba Diving




 Cages (Beginner)

 Eye Contact Restrictions (Expert)

 Gags (Expert)

 Humiliation (Expert)

 Leashes (Expert)

 Masks (On Partner)

 Massage (Giving)

 Outdoor Bondage (Beginner)

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Vibrators (Expert)

 Watersports (Expert)






 Classical Music


 Computer Expert

 Gourmet Cook

 Investment Professional

As for being physically attractive know that the best part of a woman cannot be seen by the eye but requires an understanding of all that is lies between her ears to understand and appreciate her highest and best use both as a woman and as a slave.Your erotic mind, in the hands of a skillful Master, can introduce your body to use beyond your imagination. A Mind once stretched by a new idea, never ever returns to its original size Such is the search of a woman conflicted by what she is taught when challenges the pictures running through her mind in search of the freedom to be who she was born to be, based on her birth DNA. A true slave cannot be defined by her reflection in the mirror, but only by the content of her erotic soulThe prime part of a slave, the part that makes all else possible, is her mind, without which slavery cannot exist. Capture her mind and all belongs to youMost who are drawn to this lifestyle fail to achieve their ownership dreams for two reasons. They search for what theywantto the total exclusion of what theyneed. Second, they fail to understand, what lies between theirearscontrols all and therefore is far more important that what lies between theirlegs.Success follows whenneedscome beforewantsand their owner has theintellectual powertocommandthe mind of his slave to the Owners will. Want to know more, follow the link below.

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Journal Entries:
9/2/2016 4:50:39 AM
Being a dominant has become a very dangerous business and clearly a financially rewarding one as well, but the more money the dominant is supposed to have the faster he seems to die leaving all to his former slave. Being a dominant has become a high risk business as we seem to attract cancer with alarming frequency.

4/4/2016 7:43:22 AM
I love this site, because reading the profiles provide such a window on the dysfunctional world. The women who list themselves as slave and then proceed to list any number of limits. The limits list tends to grow with the age of the woman as does the number of "what i want" as opposed to "what i need" The number of women who live in fear of their sexuality is frightening because they turn to pain to numb the fear based repressed release of their pent up sexual tension. Most have lived in fear of their sexual tension, they no longer realize to what extent it defines their lives.

4/20/2015 9:13:06 AM
Just a few observations i find interesting 1. It never ceases to amaze me how many seek what they want and the are surprised their relationships did not work, because they ignored what they need.

2. The number of women who choose to serve a man who in turn demands they go else where to total strangers to be trained, most often to submit to a bare back gang bang, or a Mistress

3. The women who specify conditions many of which run contrary to he lifestyle. The older women are, the more conditions they tend to specify. They should know by the age of 40, the number of men available married or single have diminished.

4. Women who seek a Master within a specific age range without understanding mens sexual peak is mid twenties while for most men a Masters knowledge base does not begin until the age of forty.

5. The women who believe sex is purely physical, and her mind has little or nothing to contribute. Equal of course is the idea that physical size matters when in fact mental size is all that counts

6. The mind of the slave is the virtual steel chain that binds her to her owner. where there is no mind connection, their is no d/s relationship, merely kink 101.

7/14/2014 7:48:00 AM
I am traveling, back on July 24

5/2/2014 6:32:24 AM

Over the years i have been on this site, the number of women seeking other women has risen dramatically, which gives one pause to wonder, why so many return later, and why so many domes return as broken seeking slave status.  I believe the answer maybe surprise,  most in that women are as misinformed  about the operation of the sexual process as are men, even to the extent, they rarely share their intimate fantasy thoughts with their very best friends, because they have been brain washed by religion and society to believe, all women are just alike, and if you seek or need, something society does not approve, then there is clearly something wrong with you. Its time to tell religion and society to go to hell and revisit the woman you were born to be, without fear, and forget the woman, everyone told you, you had to be.

3/30/2014 7:51:05 AM

Much is made on this site about pictures and physical attraction, and "what I want". The number one world wide female attraction is smell, not appearance, so if you can smell a picture, you are truly special. Those who demand pictures, usually follow with a list of "I Want" and never, "I Need". What you want will guarantee failure unless it is totally inclusive of what you need. Needs are something society does not condition women to understand as they are programmed by society and religion to need what they are told, they want. 

3/30/2014 6:34:46 AM

Little girls are programmed by society, peers, bulling, abuse, family and religion, from the moment of their first semiconscious thought to be what other tell her she must be, to fit and, and or belong. This programming clashes with the DNA of her birth, and leads her to the only possible conclusion, there must be something wrong with me, why do i feel this way, when all around me say's i should not. 


And thus, fear is born, the quiet kind of fear, she will never admit exists, yet left unchecked, it drives her to behavior not conducive to her long them mental health. Worst of all, the fear infuses her mind, and thereby inhibits the ability to enjoy or express the eroticism needed to maintain good mental health, since few have a clue that the mind controls 90% of orgasmic potential, and consequently, her erotic passion, is never fully set free. 


Solution, peel back the layers of fear, and expose the fearless mind to the light of day, and sit back and wonder at the power of woman, who exists without fear.  

1/14/2014 12:31:47 PM

I wonder what it is about a picture, that an tell a stranger that you are the person they need in their life, since none of what you needs can be seen in a picture, but all of what you want certainly can. Makes me wonder, perhaps that is why I see so many people returning to this site over and over again, disappointed their choice did not work out.


Perhaps, if you got to know them first, and found the need connection, the picture would lose its importance.

12/6/2012 5:52:40 AM

Women, if you are tired of an unfulfilled sex life, quit faking orgasms, and teach the man you trust how to do it right. Men, it all between her ears, not between her legs if you can get past your own desires and consider hers as well.

12/5/2012 5:51:50 AM

Men who are fixated by boobs and women who believe bigger cock contributes to erotic pleasure, each have a fool by the hand. Female orgasm is a complex process that is as much effected by the size of ones tits  or the size of ones cock, as winter is effected by snow. 

10/24/2012 9:03:58 AM

I think Collarme changed the name of this site to  "Tit's R US"

9/28/2012 8:53:18 AM

Recently, I have noticed a significant increase in the number of women, seeking only female dominants, which gives one pause to ask, why. Certainly the number of hormone/DNA driven women have not increased substantially in the past year so one is left to ponder have that many women become so frustrated with men, have the number of abused women suddenly skyrocketed and do there non hormone driven female to female relationships last in the end.

Certainly, men get more than their fair share of blame because of their selfish attitude regarding me only sex, generally ignoring the needs of their partner once they are satisfied. Women also are to blame because most have been faking orgasms for so long they have no sense of what is real and what is not. And finally, do women to woman relationships work any better for the non hormone women than male to female did.

While there are no studies on this issue, i would be surprised if they did, for the simple reason that women are as knowledgeable as men about how the orgasm process in women actually works, so we have the blind leading the blind in both cases, wow. Women's orgasm's are more complex than mans. man can not have sex unless his mind is totally stimulated, but woman can and usually does, thus is the source of sexual frustration

Women of the world, if u want better sex, tell him or her when it simply does not happen for you and by all means, tell your partner what u really want, no matter how far out u think that might be. Failure to do so, is often a one way ticket to depression, food, alcohol and drug abuse.


5/31/2011 3:09:54 PM

I have been on this site now for almost two years and have arrived at an interesting conclusion with respect to the people who use this site. About 60% are here for sex, another 20% are here for money, another 20% here for marriage, 5% seek information and the remaining 5% are real sub submissive's but most of them do not have a clue what they need, only what they want. less than 1% know what they need.

9/7/2010 5:02:32 AM
Sport fucking "physical hard fucking only", makes your body tired but leaves your mind mostly untouched.

Mind fucking gives all the benefits of Sport fucking, but leaves the erotic mind at peace.

Therefore, the best erotic release is a function of the size of your free erotic mind, and not the size of your cock or tits.

7/23/2010 2:40:30 PM
One does not own  a slave for the benefit of the Masters needs, one ownes a slave for the embellishment of the slaves neeeds for when the needs of the slave are revealed and served, the needs of the Master flow from her joy

7/23/2010 2:37:09 PM
The very best asset aale has to offeris not her beauty, experience or her physical body, rather it is her mind, briming with pride  and the need to offer service to her Master. It is therefore, the mind that is the core of the slave, nothing less, and nothing more.

5/21/2010 5:09:59 AM

2/11/2010 2:57:26 PM
There are so many interesting people on this site, it gets to be fun, trying to separate the real from the visitors. However, for those women who are both real and submissive, perhaps a word to the wise would be useful. There are far more real submissive women, than there are, real dominant men (just like in dating :-)). Estimates place the ratio as high as 25 to 1 but no matter that the truth of the matter is, those submissives who wish a selection competition based on their picture and or profile will get just what they give, nothing

11/18/2009 5:13:52 AM
It is of great interest to this Master that so many women on this site believe their personal exterior beauty to be there largest single asset for a Master to consider in choosing a slave. Any Dominant, who chooses a slave based solely upon her physical attributes is an accident waiting to happen The real beauty of a slave is the sum of ail you can not see from the outside but must learn to feel from the outside in. Her beauty is defied by her unselfish commitment to giving, desire to give and her passion for all things great and small.

11/18/2009 5:13:43 AM
It is of great interest to this Master that so many women on this site believe their personal exterior beauty to be there largest single asset for a Master to consider in choosing a slave. Any Dominant, who chooses a slave based solely upon her physical is an accident waiting to happen The real beauty of a slave is the sum of ail you can not see from the outside but must learn to feel from the outside in. Her beauty is defied by her unselfish commitment to giving, desire to give and her passion for all things great and small.

10/1/2009 8:23:52 AM
If a Master is truly a Master, why does he prohibit his slaves from freedom of expression with anyone of her choice. It would seem that that sense of freedom would strengthen not take away from the bond between Master and Slave. Of course, such a ban may just be a mask for the absence of a real master slave relationship, and the fear that exposure to reality might cause the truth to be revealed and the relationship to fall on its own absence of reality

9/23/2009 6:23:51 AM
Finding a true Master, or ownership of any kind, does not complete a slave, that completion, the slave must do for herself. Finding a true Master, compliments the completed slave.

One who is not in and of themselves, complete, is not whole, and therefore must be marked as damaged goods marked, "Not for sale", until such time as the slave finds herself including all her parts, so as to offer to her Master, whole, undamaged goods for his use and pleasure.

9/5/2009 11:27:13 AM
Domination and Submission, in any form, is solely based upon a mental connection between Dominant and Slave.  In such a connection, physical attraction, plays no role what so ever. From the mental bond, trust and mutural respecet will soon develop.Where there is a mental connection, a physical attraction will ultimately grow and develop because it is grounded by trust and respect.

Physical connections, in any form, is a manifestation of romance and is the foundation of a vanilla relationship, never ever a d/s relationship. When one tries to create a d/s relationship based upon physical attraction, and not a mental bond, then the foundation of a d/s relationship, trust and mutual respect, will almost never develop, and neither the d/s or the vanilla relationship are likely to sustain the life journey.

6/8/2009 12:17:29 PM
Many have given their yahoo address, but i do not do yahoo. if you read my profile carefully, it will tell you what to do if u wish to explore further.

5/2/2009 11:16:50 AM
I so enjoy this site, it is a peoples watchers dream. Some of the things i enjoy are:
1. So called slaves who tell their prospective Masters where to go and what to do if they are to talk to them. Wonder how a slave can respect a Master who chases pursues her like a school boy
2. The new announcement, I just found the most incredIble master, who reads all my mail and i am not permitted to talk to men. What exactly is that Master afraid of if he is so wonderful. is the slave, not supposed to have a brain
3. The Slave who searches for a sister for her Master. Is that not a bit backward, especially if they are not supposed to think

3/13/2009 6:09:38 AM
I continue to find the visitors to this site of great interest, especially those who would be, if only they could be, Masters or Slaves. Sad thing is, that occassionally, a real person shows up, seeking knowledge, a friend or help, yet all are painted with the brush of irrevelance and quickly dispatched so as to enhance not releive their pain or need.

12/6/2008 5:13:02 AM
Having been on this site for a while, it is interesting to see, how many women meet this incrediable amazing man, only to return a few weeks later in flustration and unhappy. Most know what they want, almost none know what they need. need makes real relationships. want drives flustration

12/6/2008 5:05:12 AM
Age ranges on this site are very interesting. if u seek a husband then an age range is ok, but if u are seriously interested in this lifestyle as a slave, the minimun are u seek should be 45

10/26/2008 7:08:27 AM
Real Slavery can not exist in the face of jealousy for a Slave exists for the sole purpose of pleasing her Master. To subject that commitment to her Master, by her own sense of self, is, to, and on the face of it, negation of all the Master Slave relationship stands for.

Consequently, the search for her Master, need to focus only on his interest and capacity to fulfill the needs of the Slave, without any limiting preconditions of any kind. Sexual orientation, physical appearance, poly, etc, are each insignificant to the tie that binds a real Slave to a real Master

9/4/2008 1:20:10 PM
Thanks to all, this site is fascinating, pure theater also most no reality

8/24/2008 1:20:40 PM
It is interesting to read profiles on this site, i really enjoy the slaves who are being trained by Master X. A real Slave, just like a real Master, is born, not trained, and her reactions are as natural as are those of a real Master. Second, I have been here long enough to see Slaves returning several times because the Master they selected in ten minutes based upon what they thought they wanted and never based on what they really needed, simply did not work out. Funny thing is, they never seem to get it right. it s the needs, not the wants that matter.

2/9/2008 11:04:14 AM
Many women, who find they are naturally drawn to submission or slavery, find themselves conflicted between their core need to serve and their faith or their ingrained social taught idea of what is and what is not normal.

All instints that incur feelings, such as faith, eroticism, arts, etc are subsets of passion and therefore, reather than conflict with each other, compliment each other.

For women, the concept of normal, is a myth, for each woman is different and it is that diversity that man has tried to funnel into a channel called normal for to do so, enhances mans control over women through fear of not fitting inot theman made definition of "normal"

12/14/2007 9:07:06 PM
I continue to be fasinated by this site. A real slave, does not have wants, only needs. So many so called slaves have a menu of needs that borders on the slave being the master and the master being the slave. I wonder, what kind of master would seek such a slave.

12/10/2007 6:59:30 PM
Question of the day:

Why would any slave, want a dom or domme, that no other slave wanted. That, in and of itself, is a warning to all, that all is not well, in all but most unusual situations.

Secondly, I so love the slaves who seek only a young dom 30 or under. They mostly get what they ask for and you see them return time and time again. Ummmmmmmmmmm, i wonder why

11/8/2007 11:11:08 AM
True submission is about satisfying a need to give, not a want or desire to placate ones self. Find the want that matches your need and the match will be a good one.

Unfortunately, all too often, want clouds need and then you see the same faces over and over again, not understand why it did not work and still having not a clue of the difference between what they want, and what they need, and more importantly, knowing the difference between the two

11/ 28

Oddly enough, i have found some of the best logic on this site expressed by some of the younger slaves who have little or no experience which of course maybe the key. It seems that slaves who proport to have the most experience also seem to have the most requirements for Master selection. Finally, i find the number of slaves searching for sister slaves on behalf of their master fasinating. Seems to this Master, that ought to be the work of the Master, not the slave

I am going away for a week to the islands to work on my winter suntan. I will miss my collarme funny paper while i am away.

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