bindemhard

I'm a Dom, not because I lack intelligence and wish to use my physical to push forward in life; it is the exact opposite, I have two bachelors and an associates. I will soon be heading off to graduate school for a degree in neurobiology. I do it for the love of the art. And yes I did just say art, those who are truly into the lifestyle will understand what I mean. I entered the D/s lifestyle many years ago, at a very young age. I was like a sponge in a sea of water, soaking up everything around me.

D/s isn't just about what you can do physically, it's about how you do it, how well you can get in a person's head and make them feel, how you carry yourself and how you control the scene. It is the ability to get inside their head, to control their actions, their thoughts. I was taught that any D/s relationship is built on a foundation of trust, honest and respect. A Dom learns technique and takes the arts seriously. Unfortunately, D/s has been placed in a sad state and Dominate has been given a bad name and are sometimes associated with cruelty.

The true focus of a Dom is more on the thrill of play and the fulfillment of our lives in the scene (and in general) than anything else. A Dom cultivates thier submissives and creates their behaviors to be "on point". Our subs truly desire to serve, as is their purpose, and achieve great fulfillment through service to us. A sub must first of all trust you, in their everyday lives they may be heads of multi million dollar corporations, lawyers, doctors, executives, but they are trusting you, they trust that once they reveal their true selves to you, that you will know what to do with it. Submission is a gift and should be taken as such, the greatest gift in submission is from a sub who is truly intelligent, they have the ability to formulate their own thoughts, needs and wants yet they are giving you responsibility for their lives.

True Dominants are usually highly educated and indulge in intellectual stimulation's. They force their submissives to think outside the box, they are able to place a sub in a state of euphoria that only the two of them can understand. They will share a bond that if built the right way cannot be broken.

As Dominent's we always look to learn something new about technique and play. BDSM is not just kink to us; it is an expression of part of our highest selves in balance with the world around us. A Dominant should always give forethought to their presentation of themselves. Our sophistication comes from respecting oneself. We embodies the term "Dominant" by being a work of art with our appearance, intelligence, education and social grace. A Dom does not accept just any sub. Quality Dom's have quality subs or choose to have none at all. A Dom controls themselves first and will even anger with eloquence. We will leave an ugly situation rather than "make ugly", although there may be some exceptions.

As your Dom, I will push you. You must serve me well, I rule with an iron fist, if you do something to make me mad; annoy, upset or piss me off; YOU WILL BE PUNISHED. I will never raise a hand in anger, and that will hurt you more than anything I could do physically. Yes, pain is a way to teach you, but in order for you to really learn I will get into your head, I will push you past where you ever imagined being pushed. I will teach you to trust me, like a child and a school teacher, trusting that I will not harm you but knowing that I must teach you certain lessons. To control a person you must learn what makes them tick, how to get into their heads, and get them to do what I want and more so, to LOVE it. I will dress you up and break you down. You are below me and I will make sure that you never forget that. I will make you do things that you never thought you would ever do, the things that you have only fantisized about. I will find your limits and I will push them, but not far enough that you will not like it.I will be the first thing you think about in the morning, what you crave all day and the last thing you think about at night. I will bring you close to an orgasm, I will tease you, build you up to the moment and then deny you. Deny you even the slightest touch, the slightest look. And you will become what I expect or you will be dismissed.

it's not the kiss of the whip, but the whispered word  ... to please one's flesh lasts but a moment;
....to touch one's soul lasts a  lifetime ....