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stubgrub
Hetero Male Dominant, 50, Austin, Texas US 
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stubgrub
** My profile has changed, and has been updated **

(Note I keep a rule for myself of only speaking when spoken too. I usually do not initiate contact, except in those rare cases when I have found a profile that piques my interest in just the right way, or if I have been tapped by a viewing of my profile, or being placed on a Favorites list.)

(I also have an account on FetLife under the same username.)


What is the truth of stubgrub?

I am married to my wife, OneFeistyRedhead, and we are currently in a poly-amorous relationship. Her with her boyfriend that she visits every other week, and me seeking a partner with more interest in the BDSM aspects of the Lifestyle.


What does stubgrub want?

To correspond with others of like-mind in the BDSM realm, and hopefully, the local community. I am a notoriously long-winded cuss, and I absolutely *despise* one-line communication. If you have nothing to say that is not at least a paragraph, then please, Please, PLEASE do not bother communicating with me.

We have a Rule in our Household
Open, Clear, Honest Communication

I give this in ALL my communiques, and I expect the exact same in return. Lying and Dishonesty are deal-breakers for me, as they should be for you.

We also have a Second Rule of our Household
NO DRAMA

I and my wife are in this to network and have relations with like-minded people, but not to get embroiled in whatever drama that others have going on at the time. We have enough drama and hysterics in our own lives, we do not need it from other kinksters that we engage with. My wife watches Real Housewives reality(?) shows to get her weekly dose of that bullshit. So please be chill and open-minded, and check your baggage at the door.

My wifes interests in BDSM has waned somewhat, and she finds fulfillment of her sexual needs to be more in the vanilla portion of the Intimate Spectrum. I, unfortunately, still have a very strong BDSM aspect to my psycho-sexual makeup, but since my wife has found a partner that I share her with, I am also free to find a more Kink-oriented partner to help satisfy and satiate those Urges of mine.
Communication channels need to be open first. If there is chemistry, and if you are not adverse to engaging with a straight male and sometimes Domsub couple, maybe we can meet over coffee or dinner, and see where it goes from there.

So if you like what you see, please drop me a note of *at the very least* a paragraph in length, and then we can see if there is any common ground for us to stand on.


Experience of stubgrub?

I have been steeped in BDSM ever since I was a teenager. There is little that I do not know about BDSM or Kink, but I am always willing to learn. I was stuck in a previous 10+ year marriage with a woman that was unconcerned about my needs and wants (my first wife), and only had interest in my paycheck, and what chores I could do around the house. Luckily, I discovered that that hellhole did not need to be my Life, so I did what I had to do, asked for a divorce, and I have not looked back.

For the last five years, I have been in a Domsub dynamic with my wife, OneFeistyRedhead, so I do know the ins and outs of being a Dominant, and I enjoy playing a womans body like it was a musical instrument.

If the stars align correctly, maybe you will get the chance to be strung up by me, and I can play your body to determine what lovely notes can come from it. I find that each woman is rare and special, and the sounds they make are exclusive and unique to just to them. I hope to one day hear your music too.


Why the handle stubgrub?

Yes, there is a somewhat secret joke to my account handle. I am sure if your mind is salacious enough you can probably come upon the meaning quite easily.

If not, and if you still have questions, drop me a note.

I will be happy to share.


Picture of the back of stubgrubs head?

What in the world am I doing looking at a set of blinds?

If you added a floating green apple, and a bowler hat, what 20th Century French painters style would it emulate?

Impress me by guessing, because you managed to read my entire profile to the end.

Floor me by guessing correctly, or telling me you just Googled it, demonstrating your keen intellect and problem-solving skills.


Yours truly,

-stubgrub
4/26/2017 7:33:51 PM: == Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Dominant 100% Rigger 100% Sadist 100% Master/Mistress 100% Experimentalist 89% Non-monogamist 80% Daddy/Mommy 66% Primal (Hunter) 56% Ageplayer 43% Owner 28% Voyeur 24% Girl/Boy 8% Exhibitionist 2% Brat 1% Primal (Prey) 1% Vanilla 1% Degrader 0% Rope bunny 0% Slave 0% Degradee 0% Submissive 0% Masochist 0% Pet 0% Switch 4/22/2017 11:39:30 PM: So, for the first time ever, since I have been on CollarMe (precursor to Collarspace) and Collarspace, I have been blocked. My crime? Viewing a full profile twice, and adding the profile to my Favorites. I found out I was blocked when I attempted to send my usual informative message about how to find Munch/TNG events in a person's local BDSM community. I guess adding a profile to Favorites (you show up as an Admirer to the profile owner) is considered rude on Collarspace now? I mainly use that function as a 'bookmark' so I can find the profile again, without having to memorize the profile username. It stung; not even given a half a chance to pass on some useful information, and nothing more, except for the hope of further communication.... I can't really blame them, considering all the fakes and jerks and scammers on Collarspace that makes messaging on this site downright hostile. I wish them well, hope they find what they need, and I hope that they are already engaged with their local BDSM community. 4/19/2017 3:26:18 PM: You find some 'interesting' people on Collarspace.com... I just corresponded with a female sub that has a very specific request. From August 31 to September 29 of this year, she wants to be locked 24/7, nude, in a jail/prison cell, or a close facsimile of one. The sub is currently negotiating with several Doms that have cells that would suit her purpose, some with full toilet/shower facilities; others with just a chamberpot, bucket of soapy water & sponge; or a hose with a drain in the floor. Meals and water will be given in the cell, and her jailor is welcome to take sexual service from her, either through the bars, or in the cell. I asked her reasoning in doing this, and she stated that she volunteers at animal shelters, and she wants to know what it feels like to be one of the animals that is stuck in a cage for months at a time, waiting for a possible adoption. Her only stipulations are: No BDSM (since animals are not bound and tortured in their cages.) No anal play. No animals. No sharing with others. No video or pictures. Nothing illegal. She will have a daily safe-call, and the callee will be aware of her physical location and address. 4/13/2017 7:23:23 PM: I am Baaaacckk, Bitc*Umn...  yeah, not going there.  Just wanted to let everyone know I have returned.It has been *5* years, how in the world do I update this in a condensed Journal form...   BULLET POINTS!!!- Met OneFeistyRedhead on Collarme (Collarspace precursor).- She liked what she saw, and trusted me.- Decided to play a game of going to a public place, so that I could stare longingly at her, but not engage.- Was completely flabbergasted when we made eye-contact, and she waved me over.- We talked, and talked, and talked.  There was some touching of shoulders and thighs.  I was smitten...  The first touch of a woman that didn't find me repulsive.- More meetings out in public, the distance between us gets shorter and shorter, until we are finally cuddling.- Our first dinner date, and my first faux pas.  At her car, saying goodnights, she relents and lets me kiss her.  I eat her face.  No, I am not proud.  I hadn't french-kissed a woman in 6 years.  I was *HUNGRY*.  I let poor OneFeistyRedhead come up for air.  And she nearly ran away.  I count my lucky stars that she understood my starvation, and gave me another chance.- This led to secret rendezvouses at hotels, me with my equipment bag, her with her luscious body.  I strung her up several times, and 'played' her body like a fiddle.  She return the same to me.  Ask her about my 'Leopard Spots' sometime.- She accepted my Collar of Ownership, and agreed to be my submissive, if not only my slave as well.- Finally did the *HARDEST THING* I had ever done in my life:  Asked my wife for a divorce.  It was funny...  I expected the world to end.  All my wife was interested in was how I did the bills (one of my chores).- Moved out and moved in with OneFeistyRedhead.- 5 years of bliss and counting.That is about it.  Any questions? 8/12/2011 5:12:41 AM: So...This is for those that still wonder if I am alive, still kicking...Let me assure you, I am still with the living, though it feels like Paradise to me, where I am now.As of this writing, there are these two incontrovertible facts, that I can no longer deny:1). I am NO LONGER an 'Armchair Dominant'.I have experienced, first hand, the Domination of a submissive woman.  My 'victim'?  She is the woman I wrote about in my previous journal post.In my vast vocabulary, there are NO words that come even close to describing the feelings that come from exercising my Nature, and having someone sumbit to My Power.2). I am NO LONGER just a 'Dominant'.  I am a MASTER.Beyond all conceivable reason, this submissive woman as accepted My collar, and once I locked it about her throat, she became Owned property.  her body became Mine, to do with as I please.  she is no longer a free person, because I now make all the decisions.And yet, that is the conundrum, the puzzle of BDSM.  My woman is Owned, yet she is Free of any mundane responsibilities or duties.  she is free from worry, guilt, or doubt, because she is Owned property, and her Master doesn't care about her concerns, her hang-ups, her tensions, her internal strife; He only cares that she is pleasing to Him, and all she needs to do to DO THAT, is to submit to His Will.Again.  I have no words.  Ask other Masters.  They may be able to come up with some paltry words that might hint at the sensations of Ownership.  Their best and brightest words will pale in comparison to what I feel when I see My property in My collar, locked on her throat.Nothing describes the exact feeling when I take the D-ring of My collar, and I pull her close, and she cannot pull away from me, has no choice but to come close, and feel my ragged breath upon her face and throat.Nothing comes close to the feeling of grabbing one of her magnificent tits in a maul and claw, because they are MY tits to do with as I please, and she cannot raise her hands to protect her breasts, but has to bear my 'attention', because her tits are no longer hers, they are MINE.Astronomical distances between adequate words and the true feeling as I reach between her legs, and grab her cunt, claw at it, spread its lips, and feel the sopping moisture there, and know that it is my mere presense that does that to her, and she cannot push my hand away, because it is MY cunt, to do with as I desire.---I have a habit.  I cannot write simple one-line messages to my Owned girl...  I have tried, many, many times, and continue to fail.  There is simply too much to write about, and 2-3 hours in the morning is never enough.Want a 'taste' of what I write about?Here you go:You are a special, amazing, wonderful, talented, brilliant, smart, vivacious, bratty, sexy, slutty, out-of-this-world, remarkable, spectacular, desirable, extraordinary, supernatural Old-Soul of a woman, My Owned girl.You may not believe that, but I DO.  Your Master DOES.  Accept it, if not for yourself, then because your Master KNOWS and COMMANDS it.I would not lock My collar to the throat of just any woman.I would not lock my leather cuffs onto just any woman.I would not torment and thrill just any woman.The woman I do that to, has to be special.I do those things to you, My property, my innocent girl, my good girl.Ergo, you are special.In more ways than you will know or will admit to yourself.And know you this:There is One close by who wants to rip the 'armor' clothes from your body, because they hide what He Desires.There is One close by that wants to lock you in His cuffs, and secure you so there is NO ESCAPE.There is One close by that wants to cover your body in kisses, bites, licks, mauls, grasps; Taking what He wants from your helpless, submissive body.There is One close by that wants your fine ass in the air, and will beat it unmercifully, with all manner of implements, making you scream and thrash, until your buttocks are a patchwork of bright red, yellow, black and blues.There is One close by that wants you chained at His feet, being tormented by His cock, making you beg for it, making you choke on it as He shoves it deeply into your mouth and throat, making you Worship His member, forcing you to drink deep of his ejaculate and suck out each and every drop.There is One close by that wants you secured, your cunt exposed and open to the air, so he can nestle between your legs, His head at your crotch, and lick, bite, tongue, suck, finger you into delirious oblivion, time and time again.There is One close by that wants to shove his turgid manroot deep into your cunt, His cunt, and pump/plow you in wild abandon, pistoning it in over and over, Taking what He Wants, until He hutches, gasps, moans, screams his pleasure, squirting his juice all into your body.Yes, there is One close by.  And He WANTS YOU.And that is just a snippet, a small section, of the things I write about.And I am continually amazed and saddened by so-called Dominants that can't even string a complete sentence together...No wonder s-types continue to write in scorn, and derision in their profiles and journals about not accepting 'one-liners'.As you can see, 'one-liners' are not in My Nature.Maybe, in my next journal post, if I feel a desire to do so, I will write about the Word...The Word 'Master', and what it does to me physically, when it is on the lips of my Owned girl.Maybe.
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