Anguis

Male Switch, 44, SLC, Utah

Female Submissive, 44, Ft Worth, Texas

Female Submissive, 19, amsterdam

No matter what else, choice will always be what separates us. Why? Because very few people ever make choices for themselves, they lean on their past, the guidance of friends, loved ones, society... and ignore what lies in their heart. I've heard it, over and over, for decades... "I want someone who will accept me, just as I am..." Then the next few minutes, or more, are filled with more and more qualifiers... until the chance that anyone will ever meet every criteria becomes impossible. They can't be too fat, or thin, too old, or young, too smart, or ignorant, too rich, or poor, the right race, religion, have the right politics, education, clothes.... Define perfection... in any sense you want. Define it, and when you do, nothing will exist within that definition. Give up everything for it, and your search will be eternal. Yet all we have is a lifetime. I think that the hardest, and most important lesson in life is also the most basic. With every action, we either include or exclude people, with every choice we accept or reject...

I haven't been around much the last years or so, a lot has been changing, I've moved, changed jobs... but things are settling out again. But things "here" haven't changed much from what I see... too many who never see beyond the skin, or their preconceived ideas. Too many who say one thing, but never follow their dreams... ... to find someone who will share my passions, desires and dreams, who can enjoy a night of simple pleasures just as easily as one filled with debauchery, where good conversation is just as important as obedience... is it too much to ask?

I have oftem wondered how so many people lives lives where they never explore anything beyond what is dictated to them. People who never wonder what the sunset might look like from another shore, who read a menu and automaticly skip anything with a name they don't recognize, who believe without question what they are told... Over and over in my life I'have found that it isn't so much the answers we find that matter, but the questions themselves, for how we ask a question sends us looking we might not have thought of...

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