AngerManager

I'm curious, I guess, about what we all look for, and how we go about fulfilling our desires when we have a place like this or even in the vanilla world.

I've heard the need to find one's Dom/me described in so many poetic ways ~ but it's almost always portrayed as a need, not a want, not a happy nice-to-have. I wonder if most subs understand that it's almost as if our extremes bind us together (yes, I said it, get over it): the Doms and Dommes that I've known almost always need their subs to finally feel complete.

The issue, of course, is *what* their subs actually are completing. Are they making a Safe Haven, or an Expedition? Is it a world being built, or a pocket to hide away from prying eyes? Much the same as in any vanilla relationship, we both have to come to understand what our partners are seeking and, sometimes much more importantly, *why*...