Cleveland, OH BBW Female ISO Male Top

I am a 34 yr old white BBW (Big Beautiful Women) and I live on the Westside of Cleveland, OH. I’m 5’4, 195lbs, D size chest, with long (halfway down back) burgundy red hair, blue eyes and look younger than I am. My pussy is shaved. I have four labia lip piercings, two on each side. My left nipple has a bar, the other one rejected. My ears have been pierced, but were sensitive so they are now closed. I have no tattoos, but hope to get some someday when I figure out what I want and where. I have pictures I can send if need be, I intend to post some here soon.

I DO NOT DO IM CHAT or ANYKIND OF PHONE, ONLINE or EMAIL SEX, EVER!!!!! I am not into just chatting or being friends with anyone here. I am on another BDSM that is more social/friendship/support similar to sites like myspace or facebook but for kinky adults.

Please read the whole post before deciding on whether to contact me. I do prefer a top with at least some experience. One the reasons, is because I have a small implant under the skin (outline visible) of my top right-hand buttock that must not be hit, so your aim needs to be accurate. I also really need someone who is available during the day, during the week. Sessions need not be long, an hour or two is most likely, though I may be willing to explore doing longer ones after a while. Your looks are completely unimportant to me, including skin color. I am willing to give out real email address for easier communication. You are free to give me yours or not, I will respond either way. However, using my regular email address will allow easier access to more information about myself with Big Brother (collarme) looking over our shoulder deciding what information I can or can’t send.

I want to mention right away I am not looking to be someone’s submissive, but more to top from the bottom via detailed fantasy note with my “requests” written on it in. The session would then be carried out as written. There may be some room for spontaneity, especially once I get to know you. I am open to suggestions and requests including play and dress preference as well. In addition, there may even be written options for my non-compliance with built-in punishments as well. I hope this concept/idea won’t scare anyone off and that you will allow me to explain in more detail, including sample session, via email.

I do want to note that I am not a ”brat sub.” I never have or would deliberately do something wrong during a session in order to piss off a Dom/Top, it goes against every fiber of my being. I don’t even think I could make myself do it.

Also, beyond the first session or two, in which we would need to establish/agree upon the meaning of terms like hard, soft, or perhaps level 1 vs. 10, I would not verbally control a session. While there will be a safeword (which I am very unlikely to say), I do not believe in “green” or “yellow” crap.

I have been married for 11+ years and we have an open BDSM marriage. He is a Dom only who sees a few different women. I am a sub/bottom with a Master of over 6 years. Yes, he does know about this and has agreed to it. I also Domme, both professionally and just for fun. I would never charge for a session as a sub. While I don’t mind if you are a switch, I will NOT switch with you, EVER!!! We will also not play or discuss our play in any public forum, such as play parties I host. I have a very nice 1000+ sq. ft. with dungeon lots of furniture including a spanking bench, GYN table & stretching rack. I also have a large selection of toys for our use. Please understand that this will not to be an exclusive top/bottom relationship and I may see a variety of tops, especially if you are not always available to play when I have time.

While I have over 15 years experience, due to illness, both my lust for pain, and ability to take it, have been greatly reduced. Part of my desire to do this is to increase my tolerance and masochistic tendencies once again. Despite my low tolerance, even without restraint I would never do something like try to stop a scene by covering my ass or trying to shy away from a toy. I also don’t believe in trying to rub my ass afterward to ease the sting, I consider that inappropriate and unacceptable behavior, it’s just rude. This is why I am seeking someone willing to be more of a Top than a Dominant. I already have a Master and I don’t want another one. That said I don’t like a whimp for a Top, I rather like the dominant, confident attitude. Right now, I just feel pulled to bottom to someone other than my regular Master sometimes. This is due both to the amount of time he is available and my desire to do session in which I have exact knowledge and control of beforehand. Have you ever just wanted to live out the perfect fantasy you have created in your mind? Sometimes, that is what I seek.

I am looking for someone willing to spank/paddle/cane me. It is possible I may want other impact/corporal play items like floggers, straps and crops used, but they are usually not my main fantasy items. Sessions may include some bondage, blindfolds and gags. I might like to include enemas as well, but know it is outside the comfort zone of many, so it is not an essential. Anal play in the form a butt plug (or electric butt plug) is also a possible if the interest is shared. I also sometimes enjoy having clothespins used on my labia and clit as well. Other ideas include a “forced exercise” session, as I do need to become more fit & lose weight. My basement is set up for that with a multi exercise strength training machine, professional Pilates reformer, treadclimber, step machine, yoga room, and cardio/strength workout room. I have a mini trampoline in the dungeon because the building has higher ceilings.

Hard limits are most nipple play (the piecing and breast implants make that difficult as it causes extra sensitivity) and any type of penetration other than a butt plug (above), though clit stimulation to orgasm or not, may be an option, but again not a requirement. I will not serve you orally, I don’t even like kissing. Nor will I severe you in any other sexual way. This includes masturbating you to orgasm or having you cum on me. Though not hard limits, I will probably not be interested in doing wax. I don’t dislike per se, I’m just not that into it. While usually only do needle play with my Master for safety reasons. I doubt I would be interested in doing it with someone other than him.

Please write me and I will be happy to send you a more detailed outline of my desires. Don’t bother writing me with abbreviations and incomplete sentences or use lower-case letters to reference yourself. I have taken time to write this and I don’t think it unreasonable to expect you to tell me a bit (or more) about yourself.

In addition to this ad, I am also on dot com under goddessangel. Put letters together to find the site, collarme is fussy about posting links here or even asking for communication via a non-collarme mail address. I have a very detailed profile there as well as pictures and yet more links to my Pro Domme, dungeon and neo-pagan websites. My profile there is mostly friendship based. It has more details about me as a Domme (both pro & non-pro) and information not related to finding a top. However, is a 6-part fiction stories, a few different true-life entries about my past sessions/experiences you may find interesting and helpful in getting to know me.

Namaste (the light within me salutes the light within you)