I'm curious about something, and I wonder if anyone can provide an explanation:

Why do so many self-pics seem to be taken in a car? To see a lot of self portraits taken in the bathroom mirror makes perfect sense, as that's where you can find a mirror in any home. Holding out your phone to snap a quick picture also isn't surprising, as it's right there when you think to do it. But why is it so often done in a car? 

And on the subject of pictures... I don't want this to sound like a criticism, as I think everyone should post or not post whatever they see fit, and for their own reasons... but why - in this age of digital cameras - do some people post some terribly unflattering pictures of themselves? 

I'm NOT saying the person in question is ugly, or unattractive, or shouldn't be here, or any other dumbass judgemental conclusion, but it puzzles me when someone has posted several perfectly nice pics of themselves, and make the one with the Mom-jeans, ill-fitting shirt, and fanny pack their primary profile pic. 

Dammit - I sound like the Fashion Police LOL. I'm not out to put anyone down - especially considering that I have chosen not to post a pic on my own public profile - but it just makes me want to say "This pic isn't helping you get what you want!"

Hey, you don't necessarily have to impress ME, but if you're on CM you want to attract someone. So next time you're having a good hair day, get in the car, hold out your phone.......

A few words about making initial contact on CollarMe: 

I see many females state in their profiles that they hate getting short messages when someone contacts them for the first time. I can certainly imagine that any woman with a profile that is at all interesting will get bombarded with the "On your knees before me, bitch" type of messages - especially if it's a new profile! After a few dozen of those, I'd be looking for a way to filter my messages too, and I guess one way is by the length (of the MESSAGE!!!) 

However, let me describe what it is like on the other end of that initial contact. I spent time filling out my profile and clicking on all of the "interests" so other users can get some idea of who I am, so it seems redundant to include all of that in a "hello" message. It's a one-way communication, so I can't engage you in witty banter yet. I don't know you, so I can't really send you the "personal" note that so many members seem to want. 

So, that pretty much leaves me with something along the line of "Hi, your profile interests me - have a look at mine and see if it interests you". (Yes, I DO punch it up a bit LOL - but that's pretty much what it comes down to) 

It's a well entrenched part of our culture - the man initiates contact - and it seems it would be doubly so here on CM, where Dom male/sub female is so common. So making first contact on CM is a lot like trying to come up with a pick-up line in a bar - and how phony is that? 

Please note (if you read this far) - I'm not bitching because I sent some messages and didn't get a reply. I can imagine the male/female ratio on here, and the response rate I've gotten is about what I expected. I'm just curious because I've seen SO MANY profiles that say something akin to "If you don't send a pic and a long personal note, I'll trash you". 

So what's it like on the woman's end?

Do you at least look at someone's profile before you throw out their message?

Are the pickings THAT good that you don't bother?

Am I totally wrong in my assumptions?