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The first date and the guy wants a spanking from me. Sorry. It doesn't work that way. I know all to well that any guy with any inclination to liking over the knee spankings, thinks my laps and well rounded figure is exactly what he was dreaming about.

First I like to have a few dates. If I think we are having fun and there is a personal match I go ahead with kissing and cuddling at home. We spend a few nights together to see if this is what we want. Then I want to see if a serious boyfriend can take a proper beating for me. 

I'm no stranger to talking it through a few times before we go ahead, that's why I want us to spend a few nights together first. I know the idea of getting a beating is scary, especially if you are with someone who is as large as I am. I also know it's not very easy to say, "hey, ok. You can beat me" and then just stand and wait for it. I would NEVER do it before he is prepared and feels he can take it.

Being hit in the face, having your hair pulled. Kicked. Is not something you will like. Remember, it is domestic violence, not a spanking session. The first time I will be fairly easy with you. Limiting it to  30-60 seconds. Just so you know what it is about. 

Then we will talk about again, wait a few days, and see if you are willing to go ahead with a real domestic beating.

The second time I will do it as I would have done it if I was really angry. But if you can handle that, then I know you can handle to be my boyfriend.

Then, and only then, will I take you across my knees. I only do it to people that are devoted to me.

I have a lot of "toys" at home. Straps, whips and canes. But I only like punishment appliances that you can use "over the knee".

If you are the kind of person who likes being tied up, or have your head locked in pillory boxes while being whipped, you'll have to indulge in that if we are at a BDSM-club. I don't mind letting you try anything you want as long as I'm present when it happens and if I'm friends with the Domina or Master who whips you. But personally I'm just not into it.

My spankings are always over the knee, the straps and canes I've bought are short and designed to be used over the knee. Spankings for me are all about intimacy. When you crawl up on my lap, with the bottom up, you do it because you like the warm and soft feeling. I might tenderly stroke my fingers across your back or rub your bottom when you lie there.

I must admit, I've started to find corner time exciting. Not something I've experimented so much with before, but it comes up in my fantasies.

You know, sometimes couples have disagreements. I may want to have a romantic friday at home, but you have planned to meet your friends. Considering the dynamics of our relationship I would naturally tell you to cancel your plans with your friends.

You might find it slightly embarrassing to call your friends and cancel, especially as it may happen a few times. You know they will think you are a wimp for staying home so much. In the end you might actually be a bit irritated with. Maybe you won't say anything, but I can see on a face if someone is angry or irritated.

But Mommy only likes to see happy faces :)

This is when I think in future I might send you into the corner for 30 minutes to cool off and come out with some smiles and hugs for Mommy.

Please before you think about starting dating me, have thought it thru. Can you live with domestic abuse, do you want to be a battered man? I've dated boys loving everything about me, not having understood that the domestic abuse has nothing to do with spanking.

I absolutely hate when I start dating a boy, starting to become fond of him, having fully explained that my relationships requires that you accept some beatings and at the first situation the boy wimps out.

Domestic abuse is not a nice romantic session, it's me being angry taking it out on you. Sorry, I'm writing this, but it just happens all to often.

So what happened last time? I'd met this boy 3 or 4 times. We had come to the point where I've spanked him over my knee. Something I presume he had thought about the first time he laid eyes on me. So I consider that a BIG favor from my part.

After this I consider us being, more of a couple, with obligations to each other. We go out and have a dinner and I thought his eyes where wandering off a little bit to much on other women. So I asked him during the dinner if he was going to look at me or others. The dinner went well after that, but I still thought it had been quite rude of him.

I'm sorry, but I am a bit jealous and possessive so this irritated me all the way home. So when we came back to my apartment I asked him again, why he had looked at other women and he gave me a look as if I was asking something silly. So naturally I got really angry and slapped him and punched. He got down to the ground to cover him self, so I got a belt and started beating him over his arms and face.

When I was done I had expected him to apologize to me, but istead he said I was crazy and left. Really, I already told you I'm an abusive woman.UXDAEY

I think a lot of people get scared of what I call the domestic abuse. We all like the cuddle and the french kissing. I love the over the knee spankings, there is a warmth and closeness in it that is hard to beat.

But without domination it's not the real thing. I've had boyfriends here we have tried without the abuse. To me it's not the same thing if I don't know that my boyfriend is not afraid of me for real.

Isn't that what you as a submissive also want? That is what you are as an abused in an abusive relationship. If I raise my hand you flinch a little, because you are actually afraid I might slap you. If you are late home you feel a little nervous in the stomach, because you don't know how I will react when you get home. If I'm tired and a little irritated you try to be a little nicer and be a little more accommodating because you know I might get irritated and flip.

If you accept the mean side of me, you will also appreciate the warm side of me even more. When I'm warm and loving you will do your best to keep me that way.

If you haven't figured it out yet from reading my journal, I can tell you now. I'm all about over the knee spanking. 

The combination of strictness and motherly care, of submission and intimacy. Comfort and warmth. What I especially like is that my boyfriends like, there is no pretending, no looking mean. Just two people loving each other.

I don't just give you a spanking, you have to earn it. Well, sometimes of course I'm the one who is in the mood, then I'll just tell you to undress and get ready for a spanking. But if you want a spanking, I need to get in the mood. Compliments, kisses, massage, I'm not different from other women. Come sit on my lap and cuddle with me, put your head on my lap and let my cuddle with you. Yes, I like you to kiss my feet. If you want to show me affection, go down on your knees and kiss my feet a few times. You can start when I come home. 

When the courting has succeeded and I'm in the mood I'll take you by the ear and lead you into the room. Because I know thats a powerful schoolboy fantasy. The spanking I give you is my present to you and I expect you to show your gratitude for it.

No I'm not a stranger to visiting BDSM-clubs and dungeons or visiting various meetups for play. A lot of dominants likes to humiliate the submissives at those meet-ups, and I've met quite a few submissives who are into that. I would strongly like to point out that I am not at all into the public humiliation.

It is true that at those meet-ups it's all about joining in, sharing each other and participate with other enthusiasts to have fun. This usually involves the dominant making their submissives jealous or hurt, by engaging with others. Giving the submissive the sense of being abandoned. Especially female dominants do this since we are in such minority compared to male submissives in those clubs. I have had boyfriends who wanted me to do this, but, again, THIS IS NOT ME. This is why I try to meet me outside the community, because those in have usually become so indoctrinated after years of trying to catch the very few female dominants that are at the club. Their behavior usually becomes sleazy, desperate and frankly not very attractive.

Jealousy and humiliation gives me no thrill in a relationship, although I have no problem with others thinking it's a part of the dominance play, and as I said some submissives like to be treated like dirt. I like to be the COMPLETE OPPOSITE.

I like to be the WARM, BIG HEARTED, PROTECTIVE, MOTHERLY girlfriend of my boyfriend when I am with other BDSM-interested people. I am all for sharing and participating with other, but I have made it very clear that only engage with other couples in our games. I do not play with single men at the club, not even when I am single my self like I am at the moment.

As a couple in those BDSM-clubs I like to go as a close-knit couple, holding hands, showing affection, sharing with others the warm nature of our relationship as a dominant and submissive. If we for some reason get separated for a short time, you meet me up with a kiss on my cheek as you take my hand. I'm not big on the public bootlicking as many are, I like my feet kissed in private, but publicly I will be showering you with kisses. If we sit down and talk to other couples I like you sitting on my lap.

You are in no way allowed to speak to any of the single men at the club, don't worry there are very rarely any single women there but if there are you are of course NOT allowed to approach her on your own either :)

I like to engage with all sorts of couples, other female dominant couples as well of course but we are a minority. But also male dominant couples, gay or lesbian couples. I am all for sharing and participating, "giving" you to other dominants, also men, who do things we don't do and may make you nervous and uncomfortable. But like I said, I like to be the protective, motherly kind, when you are about to be treated of someone you don't know, in a way that makes you uncomfortable. Experimenting, breaking these boundaries together is a very powerful feeling both as a dominant and a submissive.

In these circumstances, I will talk to you, comfort you and hold your hand. Be present while you are treated by the other dominant. At these places we would use equipments that I don't like at home, like whips and canes, pillory boxes, collars, leashes etc. It will usually not be performed by me, but other dominants, mostly other men. I'm pointing this out, but remember it is a submission from you to me, it is we who are playing and I would always be present.

I would also be participating in other couples games, treating other submissives. Men or women, but as I've said I only agree to treat other men who are in a relationship with a dominant woman. Be warned though, my figure, length and strength makes me very popular on these meetings. Especially dominant men likes me to join in when they are punishing their girlfriends.

BDSM-clubs are a big part of my life so you must be prepared to join me in on it. Usually it's weekend trips, but also sometimes longer holidays at well equipped resorts that give us an opportunity to play games we only would be dreaming of. Dungeons, stables, pillory boxes, hand pulled rickshaw etc.

But again, as a couple we go there as a unity to enjoy and have fun together. We are the couple that rarely leaves each other, we always hold hands and show our affection publicly. Yes, you are the submissive and I am the dominant. It doesn't mean I want you crawling.

It means I want you to follow me where I go. You hold my hand, you kiss my cheek. You always look at me. Sometimes you lean on my shoulder or bosom. If we sit down you sit on my lap unless i tell you not too. You ask me for permission for anything that means I would have to release your hand so you can leave my side, even if you need to go to the toilet.

As I've told you I'm into domestic abuse. That means domestic, not public. It doesn't mean I won't show my anger at these meetings. However my friends at these meetings know of my interest in domestic abuse, so it's not a secret to them what I do behind closed doors. In the case that I would be angered, we would be going up to our room for a beating. I would say it is something I do like, to walk away from a social situation, into a hotel room for a beating, and the return to the table where everyone knows what has happened. I also like that my boyfriend shows an extra amount of affection to me, when every one knows that I have given him a severe beating.

Imagine it your self. We sit at a table, with people around us and I tell you that get up and come with me to the room for a "talk". We stand up and walk past all the people. In the room you get slapped, punched down, kicked, severely beaten with a belt over your body. You put your clothes back on, walk with me hand-in-hand to the dinner room. You are a little silent, maybe a little sad. You sit on my lap and you feel a little embarrassed since you know that everyone looking at us knows you have got a beating from me. So you feel like "hiding" and sit closer to me, or stand a half step behind me, maybe you lean your head on my shoulder. Since you are too embarrassed to talk to others your face is turned towards me, you kiss my cheek a few time while I'm talking to others. Sometimes I return with a kiss on your lips. Maybe I ask you if you are ok. Maybe I give you a hug. If someone ask us if we want to join in on some play later in the evening, I might say that you had enough for today. Maybe we would go on a short walk together, it might be close to a lake or in the woods. We sit down somewhere and you lean your head gently on my bosom. With kisses, hugs and tender talk I would slowly build up your mood and confidence again, before returning to the others. Showing a united, loving front.

We would probably leave the party a little earlier, because we are so thrilled and exited with each other. We walk, no we run almost laughing as we head back to our room. You are so exited and start undressing as soon as we get in to our room, while I go for my bag to get out my leather strap.

I sit down and you put your head on my lap, burying your nose in my stomach. We talk and I touch you. I tell you how much I love you as I tenderly let my fingers go over your back. Slowly we start assuming the position, with you crawling further up on my lap. Gently I put your head down on one side of my legs so you helplessly hang with head and legs on each side, with your bottom facing me. I grab my paddle and slowly start spanking you, increasing the intensity until I see you turn and twitch. I stop a little, before starting again. We make love and we spank through the night until we fall a sleep close to each other, with your head on my breasts.

But now that I do all these things for you, that I know you like there is one thing I demand of you that you may not necessarily be what you have dreamed of. I like domestic abuse. Not every day, not even every week, but every now and then I would give you a proper domestic beating.

If you are late, if you burnt the pan, came home late. Many things could trigger my anger. I will yell at you, slap you in the face, box you in the stomach. I could wrestle you down, sit on you. I would strip you down and beat you with a belt over your whole body.

I like you to think I'm a little unpredictable, to be a little scared of me not knowing what to expect. I like a boyfriend who blinks and ducks when I raise my hand.

Don't worry, I have all the implements you have thought about. Again, I just find it ridiculous to pretend it's a punishment. In my bedroom I have tawse, I have a paddle and straps of different sizes (I don't like canes because i don't like breaking skin).

I know that the boys I've dated likes me to use the implements. In fact I expect you to ask me for a spanking if that is want you want. Some people like pretending calling it maintenance spankings and what not. Implying there is a disciplinary element, rubbish I say! I hope we both like and love our spanking sessions.

I love sitting with my boyfriend in the cinema, holding hands in the dark, both thinking we can't wait to get home and make love and spank. The rush in my heart and warmth I feel when you ask me for a spanking. The thrill I feel when you undress and lay your body over my lap. Yes I can use a tawse so you feel the sting and squirm a little lying on my lap and yes I do it forcefully. I love to do it as long as you don't pretend it's a punishment.

I have friends in the BDSM scene, who don't want a boyfriend to spank, some may be married with a husband who lacks the interest. If you like being spanked by two women at the same time I have no problem doing it.

I have a very open mind and like to spank over the knee.

This is the thing. If I spank you, I know you like it. I don't like pretending it's a punishment. That's why I don't like the "english governess" fantasy. But I also know you like being spanked and I love to spoil my boyfriends with hugs, kisses and over the knee spankings.

A friday night, candle light romantic dinner at home. Laughs and cuddle in the sofa. We kiss and have fun. I slowly start taking off your clothes and tap gently on my knees with my hands. You put your self over my knee and let me spank you. It stings a little, it's hurts a little, my hands are quite strong. But I know you like it.

When we are done you sit on my lap. We kiss, I touch you gently. We go to the bed room, if your size is right I might even carry you :) I put you on the bad, while you watch me undressing. I sit above you and let your small body disappear into mine while we make love. 

When we are having breakfast in the morning, you sit on my lap while we are having coffee. Kissingm hugging and maybe ending with a small spanking.

I have provided you with many pictures, so no one should have any problems figuring out if they find me attractive. If you would be ashamed of walking down the street with a large women then I am not for you. I don't do spanking sessions!

What do I mean with that I'm in the scene? It means this is our hobby, we like it, enjoy it and try to evolve in it. We go to dinners and vacations with other dominants and submissives so we can live out our true selves in front of others.

You know why it's good to be in the scene? Because I know women who enjoy spanking but are not willing to live in a BDSM relationship. I have never met a man who didn't dream about being spanked by two women. Guess, what! These are the things tha I like spoiling a boyfriend who has showed his heart and commitment.

So many men have come to me looking for a spanking, but then left as soon as they got what the wanted. :( As a rule I don't do any "traditional" corporal punishment until I know you are for real.

When you have walked down the street with me, held my hand, kissed me in public. When you have taken the kind of beatings I like to give. When I have have slapped you in the face, pulled you in the hair or punched you in the stomach. Not until I know you accept and enjoy these things will I put you over my lap or use a belt on you.

I've noticed one thing when I meet people. While they may fantasize about dating a very large woman, the find it embarrassing to be seen in public with me. :( Well I'm not about having a one-time session fullfilling some ones fantasy. I'm a very large dominant woman looking for a real relationship.

I don't tell you to get in the corner, I don't tell you to say "yes ma'am thank you ma'am", this is not your english governess dream. From me you will get a slap in the face out of the blue, or maybe I will kick you in the groin, maybe I will punch you in the stomach when you least expect it. Living with me, is living with the constant fear of being beaten.

It's when I've beaten you down to the floor and I'm sitting on top of you that we start with the spanking. In my relationship a beating, is a beating.

Of course I stop at safety words. But anyone who wants to stay with me must know that I consider a beating, a beating. Using the safety word in my eyes ruins the dynamic, and if I think you are using the safety word because of discomort over a beating then I am not interested in a relationship.

A real beating in my eyes is not ritualized. I prefer nude and hands tied in the back. But after that I will gp at you with everything I have, my bare hands, my belt. If yoy lie down to protect your self I will sit on you and continue the beating. 

People who want to relocate from far abroad, what are you thinking? I want a boyfriend, who lets a boyfriend in to her house without ever having met the person?

I must emphasize, short and skinny is important. I prefer someone who is at least 20 cm shorter than me.

I am not looking for a slave, but a bouyfriend who is submissive. I want to have fun with you, talk to you and love you. 

Just recently broke up with my boyfriend, now looking again!

I would like to add that while I enjoy the traditional "sensual" corporal punishment, I consider that to be a game we both enjoy and thus is not a punishment.

When I am angry, make no mistake, I will go at you with full force and literally beat you in to submission. You can expect both face slaps, hair pulling and fist punches in the stomach before I strip you naked and beat you senseless with the belt.

Thus it is important that I am physically superior to you, som that I can beat you down at my will. I thus prefer you to be young, skinny and short. The smaller, the better.

Single again, looking for a boyfriend. If you are longing for a powerful matriarch as your girlfriend don't hesitate to contact me. I'm looking for a regular relationship built on mutual respect and love, I don't want a slave.

However, I am no stranger to using physical power to get my will through. I take the liberty to give domestic beatings if I'm not obeyed, that is slaps over the face, over the knee spankings, rattan canes and leather belts. I have a powerful right arm and have no problems getting the message through.