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Male Dominant, 37, Venice, California
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Male Switch, 55, South Shore, Massachusetts
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About afternoir
I find myself unexpectedly looking for a partner, wondering if there is someone out there who values what I bring to the table. I am bright, attractive, creative, in good shape, playful and intense. I am more than happy to lead in other parts of my life and am not looking for someone to mother me in any way, shape, or form. And yet, I relish the chance to surrender control in deeper and deeper ways, to let myself be shaped sensually to please and be pleasing, to possibly even become more than submissive as time goes on.
Is that woman out there for me? I have met some wonderful friends who have demonstrated that such a relationship can exist. I just don't know how to find her.
With regard to exploration, during the course of my relationship I found myself drawn to extended orgasm denial and chastity play, to the point that I have been able to extend my containment almost indefinitely.. I loved how being in chastity really shifts my focus to pleasing my partner, and I welcome the opportunity to find a woman who will embrace that power exchange to further lead me down the rabbit hole for her enjoyment. I want her to be selfish (smile).
I have also enjoyed cuckold play as part of my previous relationship, and there is an element of erotic humiliation that turns me on very deeply. I am interested in such exploration as a way to strip me of my defenses, as a constructive tool to further open me to her leadership, and as a way to remind me more and more of the power I have willingly surrendered. In our travels, i have touched on bi-sexual play and now understand that more than anything, my fulfillment is linked to the surrender of power to my partner in whateverez way that pleases her, wherever that may lead. Discipline, training, conditioning, containment, restraints and harnesses: all of it can become very erotic as tools to lead me closer to my partner.
I still enjoy teasing and can do quite well as a switch, but I am not a dominant by nature in my sexual relationships. For me it is a dance, and I look for the right partner to share and fulfill our mutual and overlapping interests. I did not expect to be in this place at this point of my life, and I don't know if she is out there, but if so, I would love to find out. In the meantime, i enjoy the company and conversation of good friends who have found their way in the lifestyle.
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