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| Collarme has found me a wonderful relationship. One day last January, Khandy put herselfup as an Admirer of this profile. I made contact with her and, a few nights later, we met for what I thought would be a few minutes. We talked for two hours. We met again a week later and decided to be a couple. I proposed marriage in July, and she accepted.
We now look for other couples, at adult-friend-finder, swing-lifestyle, and other places. We roleplay and do bondage, toys and floggers, but are now more into the swinging than the BDSM end of it all. Khandy loves to be used by multiple guys. I like playing with women, and using the third hole of Khandy's for my own pleasure.
What follows is my original profile:
I've been called a good Dom and a mensch of a dom. Though I want someone to be submissive, even sluttish, for me, I'm not into having her lick my boots, nor do I think it's hot to keep a woman kneeling in the corner. You are who you are on the outside, as I am. In private, though, I am fatherly, in search of a girlish, feminine woman. We can create a fantasy world. A relationship that's just right for us.
The scene in New York attracted me since young adulthood. This city offers such a milieu of sexual lifestyles. I started going to the Eulenspiegel Society meetings within a year of coming to NYC; still a member. I've met a lot of wonderful people though it, and had relationships with a few of them.
I am a mentor, disciplinarian, BDSM philosopher to those entering this lifestyle, and volunteer for the organizations. My biological family has grown up, and I miss the role of being a father, in many ways. Therefore I seek out women who roleplay or need discipline, whether in terms of punishment play or to achieve some goal that has been out of reach.
I am VERY into touch: spanking, slapping, massaging, using floggers, fur, vibes, ice, clamps, etc. Breastplay and pussyplay.
Lack of sensation too: bondage, gags and blindfolds. I'll tease you, to keep you on the edge for a long while, before allowing release. When actually having sex, it's powerful and hard, but it lasts a long time. And, unless you are into total humiliation or objectification, cuddle time is mandatory afterward.
I'm a middle-aged man in really athletic shape, and love to be physical for hours at a time. The good side of being this age is that I stay hard and don't cum in a few minutes. The fun goes on and on. I need a woman who can take varied play for a long time.
Though a sex/play relationship is fine with me, I'm hoping for more. I want love.
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Khandy and I have been together a month since last post. In fact, we have been together for about three months total. Head over heels! (Thank you again, collarme.)
We've been to some sex parties in which she gets her lust for "being used" and I get to control the scene, and use her mouth. No one gets her mouth but me.
Now we're looking for some local couples, or couples who come to NYC for business or vacation, to get together and have some fun with. If you see this and want to play with us, reply to me, not to her. |
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Khandy and I went down to Chinatown for a late Valentine's Day dinner at NY Noodletown, once one of my favorites and, coincidentally, one of hers. (So many things we're discovering that we have in common.) We then went outside, spent a couple of minutes looking at the "Gateway to Brooklyn" marble freize at the Manhattan Bridge, then caught a cab back to her place. We spent the evening in and out of bed.
We were just settling down after all the play, when she whispered, "I love you." I held her tight and was so relieved, immediately replying, "I love you too!!" I'd been wanting to say it for most of the month we've been together, but held back because of the dictum that you shouldn't fall in love so fast.
But she's everything I want in a woman, and more. She's very intelligent, which I guess is her quality that I admire the most. She's masochistic enough for a paddling, slutty enough for a sex party, has a beautiful face and hair, ...and we're into the same stuff!
Khandy, this will be a wonderful relationship. I'll do everything to make it last, because you are one of a kind. You're just what I need. You are going to be a good girl for me. I am so in love with you. |
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Khandy said the most wonderful thing to me. "You're a dom without being a dick about it." I really liked and appreciated that. It kinda sums up my whole domstyle: Not dominant in all ways at all times, but very dominant in private, in scening and in bed.
She is so sweet.
Thank you, Collarme. |
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The most wonderful thing has happened. I met a woman from here two weeks ago yesterday. We met just to meet, at a bar, but we talked for over two hours. I found her scintillating, earthy, intelligent and very pretty.
Last night, Khandy gave herself to me. She is mine now. I will take care of her. |
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So many young people come to Collarme looking for a total "use" enslavement, not really knowing or having the experience to know what it all entails.
This is a note to all those new women from 18 to 22 or so. I read their ads and fear for their development as sub or slave, because they state boldly that they want everything right NOW: all-hole use, torture, caning, etc.
Let me tell you a little story. There was a couple; she a Masochist and he a bodybuilder Sadist. I went to one of their parties and played with her by giving her a hard spanking. But at the age of 29, her ass had skin like leather, from constant paddlings and the use of other toys. (In fact, people like her are known as leatherbutts.) I hit her hard, and my arm hurt for days afterwards. But she went over to her master afterwards, so he could hit her hard enough that she could get some stimulation out of it.
New subs, don't get yourselves caught in that bind of not being able to feel anything by the time you're 30. Don't grab it all at once. Take your time. Learn and grow. If you have to have it all as soon as you can get it, you will be jaded with a large portion of your life yet to live.
BDSM is like sugar: use a little at a time to sweeten your day. |
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There seem to be many admirers of my profile, and someone in the chat room recently told me she forwarded my profile to a friend as a good example of a "real" person.
So why do I not hear from more of these women who like my profile?
Don't be shy. |
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I really miss being in love. |
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My last two relationships in D/s were completely different from each other. The first was to a submissive who was masochistic. She was a "little girl" in roleplay, to my fatherly role. Though I daddied her well, she ultimately complained that I wasn't dominant enough. We broke up after about 18 months.
The next woman I went with was a masochist, but not a sub. While the woman I just mentioned complained that I wasn't dominant enough, this one said I was much too dominant. While both of them loved the painplay (I really got off on it too), they each had almost totally different opinions of my personality, coming from each one's particular perspective.
So when you are perusing my kinks on that list to the left, keep in mind that I'm not as totally dom as some would like, yet that I'm more than dominant enough for others. It's up to your needs that will decide if you and I are good for each other. |
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I had a date over the weekend with someone as seriously into bondage as I am. I had her kneel wearing just skirt and panties; laced her arms together with soft nylon rope, then used my furlined-leather cuffs for her wrists. She looked up at me, big brown eyes. It was very, very hot. I got her up and we kissed deeply for a time. I held and explored her but she wasn't allowed to touch me or speak. Teasing her was such fun. The night seemed to go on forever, soooo sweet. |
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A sweet girl on LI has alerted me to a case of plagiarism. Richardlove01, a new member here, has lifted and slightly edited my profile, and submitted it as his own! Well... Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
Going to the TES Nude Beach Excursion tomorrow if I can get a ride, and I'm wondering what to wear. |
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Now a member for one week. Several women have written this week to compliment me on my profile, which has led me to wonder how the other guys' profiles read. But I won't read them.
There are things not in my profile that you should know. For instance, any woman who sleeps over at my house must be okay with a large-headed, friendly muscle-dog I rescued from the streets, trained, and who now is my pet. If she has dog allergies, it's best that she not visit.
My weight is 175 and I work hard to keep it there and to keep my stomach flat. My prefs are for women around size 16 and below. BTW cuteness counts bigtime with me.
So does getting out and exploring the city, "walking the rock," being generally active. This includes politically active as well.
It's about 1 PM and I'm going to Rockaway Beach for some boogie-boarding. Coming? |
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