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I am a submissive looking for a man who will accept and treasure that gift of submission. Some have told me that submission is not a gift, but I beg to disagree. It is NOT something I owe anyone, nor is my submission something I give to just any man who says he is a Dominant. Just as I accept his willingness to take me into his life as a gift to me - of his dominance... his time... his knowledge... and his having seen something special in me worthy of his attendion - my submission... my trust... my complete surrender to his will, and my desire to please him and put his pleasure, his wants and needs above all others is my gift to him. I have always been submissive, even when I didn't know that's what it was called or that there was a lifestyle in which being submissive was an integral part. Caring for, pleasing, and catering to my man have always been essential parts of who I am. I'm at a place in my life where I want one man to be the center of my life. I want to laugh, cry, play, struggle through the hard times and celebrate the good times, be a friend, a lover, and a source of pleasure for one man. No games....what I want is a lasting, loving relationship in which my man will have my complete love and respect. He will never want for anything that is within my power to give. I need a man who is, like me, looking for one person to complete his life. Someone who is capable of understanding that being submissive doesn't necessarily mean being a slave, and it certainly doesn't mean being a doormat. A man who wants someone who can be a lady in public and whatever he desires in private. Someone who enjoys being spoiled because he is appreciated and who will never doubt that HIS "gift" of domination/control will always be cherished.
12/23/2009 3:04:50 PM
MERRY CHRISTMAS

To everyone.  Hope all your wishes come true and you have a delightful Christmas.

And, in case I miss you, have a very HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!
11/26/2009 9:42:16 AM
HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!!!

Isn't it too bad that the spirit most people seem to enjoy this time of year - the smiles, the friendly hellos, willingness to "yield" in traffic, lol - can't last the year 'round.  For those of you who are still looking for that special one, I wish you the best of luck.  Life, I believe, is meant to be shared.  For those of you who have found that someone and are in a position to spend time with him/her, cherish them... cherish every moment.  You never know when you might lose them or they you.

Please be careful and take care of yourselves. 
8/29/2009 6:02:04 AM
What does anyone have to gain by playing with another's heart... pretending to be something they clearly are not and caring when they clearly DO not.  How fragile does an ego have to be in order to require winning someone's trust and perhaps their heart only to break that trust and that heart to justify their own self worth?  There are so many out there who ARE interested in playing... pretending... so why not concentrate on those instead of the ones of us who are genuinely searching for the real thing?
6/26/2009 3:53:01 PM
It amazes me that there are those who so clearly and eloquently express my feelings about submission and the feel of being with my Dom.

Don't know who wrote this one, either, but it is SO beautiful.  I would love to know whose work is it, because I believe there would be more, and I can hardly wait to read them.   This one, in particular, touches my soul.


"There is something about~
Being pushed up against a wall, face first~
Cheek resting on rough wallboard~
Breath caught in your throat~
Listening to the growling in your ear~
And trying to remember your own name~

There's something about being~
Pushed up against a wall~
Your back flat up against it~
Staring straight into eyes that see through you~
Swallowing hard~
Waiting for your heart to start beating again~

There's something about~
Being made to crawl across the floor~
To a seated Man, staring into your eyes~
Not letting you not look at Him~
Not letting you stumble~
Drawing you to Him without a word~
Trembling, a whimper caught in your throat~

There's something about~
Being pulled up by your hair~
Feeling that hand slink up your neck~
Into your tresses, close to the scalp~
Grabbing, gripping it, guttural sounds emitting from His lips~
The pain not nearly as strong as the urge~
To cry or bite a hole through your bottom lip~

There's something about~
Being bent over the back of a chair, without warning~
Without pretense, without question~
Having your skirt flipped up, cool air hitting hot skin~
Your cheeks blushing, with the same color of your ass~
As He warms it with the striking of the palm of His hand~
The tears you cry not cooling you~
The tears you cry because He has found you~

There's something about~
Those words He uses~
Those names He calls you~
Those phrases meant to elicit a response~
And you do respond~
All of you responds~
And your body betrays you, always~

There's something about~
Being thrown down and taken~
Not against your will~
For your will is to be there~
To please, to submit, to offer, to relinquish~
And you cry out for breath, for more, for Him~
And you know you are home~

There's something about~
Kneeling quietly beside Him~
Your body reddened, coated, tired~
Your mind silent, for once ~ for a time~
Your head bowed, your eyes closed~
Your lips quivering as His fingers touch you~
Your submission, unquestioned~
Your Peace at Hand."


10/30/2008 7:02:10 PM

Not sure where this came from, but I love it.  Wish I had written it:

  He will touch me without use of his fingers.

He will own my body before even feeling its flesh.

He will have me craving his whip before ever hearing its “swish.”

He will have me bound regardless of ropes or chains.

 

He will adore me, as I worship him.

He will nurture me, as under him I will grow.

He will teach me, as I am eager to learn.

He will be strict but loving, as I crave his direction.

 

I will feel him next to me, even when He is not.

I will hear his voice, even when he does not speak.

I will make him proud of me, for that is forever my goal.

I will be owned by him, for with him is where I belong.

 

I will learn from him, as I learn of myself.

I will endure for him, for some lessons are learned hard.

I will hunger for him, for he is who feeds me.

I will honor him, for he is my Master.

6/27/2008 9:42:50 AM
It becomes more apparent to me, every day, how important trust is in ANY relationship, but particularly in one that involves the lifestyle and in which the two parties are separated by time and distance.  Isn't it possible to have friends... JUST friends... in the lifestyle?  People you can talk with... go to when you have questions or concerns, especially when the one you love isn't always available for you to talk to.  There might even be some sexual innuendo, because that's part of this sub's, and I'm sure others', personality, but you both know it's just teasing... that nothing will ever come of it, because one or both of you are in committed, loving relationships.  So, if your "sub" has friends, say, on this site, does that automatically create distrust in you?  Even if she has given herself to your completely?  Does that mean she can't talk to anyone else without creating doubt in your mind?  Even if she is open with you about the friends and the fact that she talks with them, and she never gives you any REAL reason to doubt her?  Words can hurt far more than any punishment ANY Dom could give his submissive.
5/7/2008 8:57:20 AM

It is SO hard to find someone in this life who has all the qualities you love and admire. It’s even harder to find the one who has those qualities and is also in the lifestyle – the one who knows all of your wants and desires and who knows how the satisfy them.  Harder still is when you find that perfect one, you fall in love, and there are barriers…. either distance, a medical problem, a spouse, or a job that prohibits your being together in the type of relationship you desire most.  To truly love and yet be denied the intimacy is, perhaps, the cruelest fate of all.  How do you fight the insecurities?  How is it possible to love someone completely…. to know that he is the one with whom you want to spend the rest of your life… and yet not be able to touch?  How long does it take before the unasked/unanswered questions build an additional barrier?  Do you end the “affair,” or is the pain of not having him in your life… your soul… not feeling his strength, even from a distance, far worse than the pain of not being able to feel the physical closeness?  AND, if you truly love him, is it possible to end it?  Or would you just be lying to yourself, knowing he would never be further away than the next beat of your heart.  Other unanswered questions?

4/22/2008 8:39:59 PM

For me, a person’s username says something about that person.  So many times, I have gotten messages from someone with “Dom” included in his name, as if it were a “badge.”  As I’m sure many of you know, just calling yourself a “Dom” or a “Sub,” doesn’t make you one.  There ARE true Doms on this site, just as there are true subs, but it quickly becomes obvious to me which Doms are true and which are merely using that name as a cover for their desire to abuse.  I have met a gentleman on this site whose name is a true representation of who and what he is.  He has won my trust and my respect, because, along with being a true Dom, he is also a gallant soul….  He’s a man of honor, and the one who wins his heart and is lucky enough to share his life will be truly blessed.  It nice to know there ARE still men of his caliber out there.  I consider myself one of the lucky ones to have the privilege of knowing this gentleman.  We should ALL be so true to ourselves.

1/1/2008 6:29:22 AM
HAPPY NEW YEAR, EVERYONE.

May you be blessed with prosperity, health, happiness and the fortune of finding what it is that makes you feel complete.  Today is a new start.  
12/25/2007 1:11:34 PM
MERRY CHIRSTMAS to everyone, and especially those who have entered my life.
12/25/2007 1:10:45 PM
Christmas Day - A time for renewing....

I have been asked several times what a "natural submissive" is, since I referred to myself as such in my profile, and I have explained that the two Dom's who have played an important part in my life told me I was.  Because I'm fairly new to the "lifestyle," I respected their opinions and still do.  However, since that title seems to cause some concern, I have removed it from my profile.  The other "problem" seems to be that I have referred to my submission as a "gift."  I DO believe submission, just like domination, is a gift that is given when the right "one" is found.  I have tried to explain my feelings on that, also.  I appreciate any concerns or questions about my profile, and hopefully this is help answer those that have been expressed so far.
Libra1981
 
 Age: 23
  Texas