Let me start by saying that I'm an easy going, intelligent, confident, attractive, successful guy, who enjoys the usual things such as nice bars, good holidays, nice restaurants, etc; who also gets a fair amount of attention from women, but it's never really what I'm looking for. I'm good fun, outgoing, good company and loyal and protective to those who are close to me.

That said, I'm looking for a girl who's genuinely submissive in nature. You don't need to be experienced but certainly need to at least have a feeling inside that you can only be truly happy if you're being dominated by a confident, secure, and strong but caring man. You want to experience the relief of having responsibility taken away from you, so that you're completely free to celebrate and liberate who you really are. You're looking for someone on your wave length, who will take you by the hand, in hand, and lead you and allow you to embrace and enjoy your femininity to its fullest.

Of course it's not easy to find, as men often complain that women are complicated, and that you don't don't know what you want, when nothing is further from the truth. Deep down you know exactly what you want, but may be too shy, self conscious or uncomfortable about admitting it; or perhaps you simply prefer that a man be a man and know what you want, without having to be told; and if he doesn't know he simply decides. Men fail to realise that when you say you don't know where you'd like to go for dinner, you aren't looking for a debate on the merits of various restaurants, you're looking for the man to just take charge and make a decision. Good manners is opening the restaurant door for you and walking you to a table to sit down, not dithering by the entrance asking you where you'd like to sit, giving you yet another decision to face which you didn't ask for. You aren't high maintenance or difficult at all, you just aren't prepared to hand over control to someone who hasn't got a clue what he's doing, and instead want someone capable and strong enough to take it.

So to be clear, I'm not looking for someone who goes to bondage parties or fetish clubs, just someone who knows they need to be taken in hand by a powerful man, and wants to find someone capable of doing that. Someone who's fed up with limp wristed metrosexuals who can't make a decision to save their lives, and feel it necessary to ask if it's ok to kiss you, rather than just getting on and doing it. In other words, I'm looking for someone normal, but who may sometimes feel conflicted by society's perception of what a modern woman should want, and your own desire to have a man grab you by the hair, pull you roughly to the bed, rip your knickers off, and do as he pleases with you, because he desires you, and can't keep his hands off you. Perhaps you're drawn to the idea of being dominated but, in today's world of sexual equality and feminism, you find yourself suppressing these feelings for fear of letting the side down, and so try to appear strong and happy to be in control when in fact, deep down, you're not, and long for someone else to take the lead and own you. It's possible that you've suppressed your submissive longings, but your genuine desire to please has resulted in you becoming everyone's problem solver, when in fact you want the opposite, and for somebody else to take control for once. It's not that you can't look after yourself, or hold your own, it's just that you don't want to, and don't see why you should have to. Maybe you also know that you can be a bit of a handful at times, but long for someone to stand up to you, take you in hand and put you in your place when you've overstepped the mark; someone who isn't afraid to put you over his knee and give you a good spanking if you deserve it, and so are looking for some authority, discipline and boundaries in your life. You want to please but need to be shown and told how, rather than endure the headache of always having to figure it out.

I'm acutely aware of peoples perceptions when the words domination and submission are used, and so I should point that to me it's not just about the physical and sexual aspects of a relationship. Of course they're a lot of fun, and have their place, but there's so much more to it than that. It's just as much about leadership and guidance, from a position of care and responsibility, as it is dominance and control. First and foremost therefore, it's of the mind and so, whilst the physical and sexual elements are very appealing and enjoyable, they're part of a wider and much deeper dynamic, which in turn makes things far more than usually erotic and intense; as with true dominance, your hands can be held behind your back far more securely with a look and a few words than ropes could ever achieve.

Now, you may have always known that this is what you need and want, or you might be surprised at just how much this resonates with you, and so may be uncertain or a little shy about replying, but please don't be, as I'm happy to be patient if all this is new to you, as long as you're truly genuine and believe that this is what you need, and would like to explore more deeply.

Hopefully you're also good natured, loyal, open minded and possibly a bit cheeky, but perhaps you feel disconnected from others around you at times, almost as if you're a spectator and not a participant. Maybe you occasionally feel a little lost and vulnerable and long to have someone to hide behind every now and then, who will protect you and make you feel safe. No doubt you have desires and fantasies that others may not be able to relate to, and so you long to be able to express and share them, with someone who won't judge you, and will instead value you for them, because he understands them and knows how important they are.

If you're genuine and this sounds like you, and you'd like to talk some more, then I'd love to hear from you. I know how hard it is for a woman to respond to any ad, and so I'll reply to anyone who makes the effort, and am pretty easy going and chilled out about things, and easy to talk to.