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I am single and unattached. Have been for several years now.
Seeking intelligent female companionship. That does not mean instant relationship or even jumping straight into bed. Platonic friendship is fine with me. I seek something which goes beyond the physical.

I am honest, sometimes too much so for some people. Simply put, if you don't want the real truth, don't ask the question.
While I can be quite laid back, I do have adult ADD. Which means my mind is always working on something. Not a bad thing in my opinion. I have too many interests to list.

As a Dom, I insist on open negotiation. Submission to me must be a conscious, lucid and willing decision. That does not mean I am indecisive or undemanding. I can be quite forceful at times. However, I am also a strong believer in not just sexuality but sensuality. While those may coincide at times, it is not a constant.

I am not a swinger. Poly would be a possibility but by no means a requirement.

If you think you can handle all of that, send me a message.

Not to offend but not interested in alcoholics, morbidly obese or drama queens.

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9/14/2012 12:31:27 PM

Kind of interesting. I read profiles from women who claim to be submissive and open to new experiences. Then the same person goes on to detail demands on age, height, hair, location, profession, clothing, behavior and more. Doesn't seem very submissive to me. Just topping from the bottom.

Of course, there is no way to speak of another person's past experience. However, in some cases people seem to be seeking someone from their past who is no longer there. Even that is fine but it does truly deter from gaining new experiences. We all have certain preferences but some flexibility is advisable. If you are seeking someone from your past, you will always be disappointed because no new person will be the person from your past. Plus, barring death, there is some reason the previous person is no longer there. Sometimes that hurts but it is something we each must face at some point in our lives. The only way we can move into the future is to allow the past to be the past.


8/22/2012 5:49:37 PM

Well, guess my date wasn't too impressed on Monday. Honestly, I think she expected me to whoosh her off to bed. First off, that wasn't going to happen because the pics she sent were several years old and she is a number of lbs heavier. Not all that likely to happen with me, any way. I like having something more on additional levels than just hormones before involving sex. Guess I'm just a picky bastard.


So, at this point, I've decided I'm just too complex for most women and any long term situation. Not to mention too busy and have what they consider a screwed up schedule. Going to get worse. Looking seriously at getting back to school for my RN degree next semester. Even if I sign up for distance classes, I will apply myself quite thoroughly.


Best bet is to seek friendships and more physical relationships. Not closed to something more developing but not jumping in looking for it.

 


8/20/2012 12:25:46 PM

Have my first date in nearly four years tonight. (Haven't been laid for 3 1/2 years, by choice. Had plenty of opportunities.) She is submissive but not very experienced. Of course, no guarantee anything will happen but seems likely.

I'm not sure so far but her behavior seems like she is seeking more of a FWB arrangement than anything else. Clarify that tonight. If that's what she wants, I won't agree to monogamy. Not going to suddenly get skanky and screw everything that walks. Hell, too busy for that. Though even if I wasn't too busy, it's just not me.

She says she wants to explore being a true submissive. Not sure how far she wants to go with that but we'll find out. Those limits can change over time. As it is, going to bring my bag of toys along, at least to discuss things.

Shaved myself for the first time in years. Had to use trimmers. Almost as overgrown as the garden is right now!

Going to take a short nap. It's cloudy and I'm not that energetic to do much around here at the moment.


2/18/2012 11:36:10 AM

Decided to build a sort of dungeon in disguise.

 

Most often used purpose will be for exercise. Working on the design and it won't be built for some time. Too much else going on. However, it will include a freestanding chin-up bar, possibly adaptations for inversions. I may add a cheap electric winch. (I'm bad about doing exercise to muscle failure. Muscle failure and inversions don't go together well. Don't want to wind up a feature on "1000 Ways to Die".)  

 

However, the whole structure will also be designed with restraints in mind. Standing, suspended, most likely a swing, bending and stocks type.

 

Big challenge is that I want the whole thing to be stable but also easily collapsible. Don't want it taking up the whole living room. Though I could change it into a large frame for the bed.

 

Since I'm doing wiring on the house, I may add some track lighting for the area where this will be situated. Some large mirrors wouldn't hurt, either.

 

Still a design in progress. I'll update this as it develops.

 


1/6/2012 3:00:40 PM

Got some new toys I ordered in the mail today.

 One is a male girth enhancer. I get no complaints but a little bit extra is good for entertainment value, at least. Besides, I liked the design, with ridges the length of it.

 The other is a pussy pump. Seen them online and love the idea. Enlarged and sensitized labia. Hmm. Be really good in combination with other things.

 Been conversing with a sub online. Too far away but got me thinking of something I had considered some time back. Having a live-in sub. Not quite ready for it at the moment but it is something I will pursue if I don't find what my profile details I really want. Have a lot of work to do around the house before it would be a realistic consideration, any way. Could fix up the office to be a sub's room. I like having my bedroom to myself most of the time. Of course, to my daughter, she would be a housekeeper or a friend. May even be a better consideration than anything else and easier to find.

 



12/15/2011 9:26:38 PM

Now back online after being off for quite some time. Not in any relationship or anything. Had financial and various living condition problems. Pretty much resolved now.

 

With that resolution, want to start having some minor level of social life again. Haven't dated in about three years. Haven't had a lover in nearly that long. Not in a huge rush, though. I'm still a picky bastard and not interested in anything unless it has more depth than purely physical. At the same time, not jumping headfirst into what could be a shallow pool.

 

Yeah, I'm difficult. But worth it! LOL!


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obeymeuk
 
 Age: 22
 Manchester, Canada