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	Single submissive who is looking for an intelligent, attractive Domme to serve faithfully and establish a relationship that spans both the vanilla and D/s worlds. and well and explore with. I have a wide variety of interests both vanilla and other I am not interested in CD, children, animals, blood, scat. I am very much a masochist, love to be bound and trussed and love impact play and pegging. I hope to talk with you soon

1/4/2006 11:52:53 PM

I have been encountering numerous horror stories about submissives encountering Dominants that had little regard for hard limits. I was taught that the Hard limit and the respecting of a submissives hard limit is one of the most sacred pacts in the D/s relationship. No two people find the same things appealing. One persons kink is anothers mundane daily activity. The diversity of interests and the respect of such is what makes the community so special.

1/2/2006 9:35:45 PM

Today we will discuss expectations here in my journal.

I realize that no two persons are alike. That no two people enjoy the same thing in the same way.

For me the first thing I look for in a prospective submissive is if we have a connection. Through general conversation I can normally get a good feeling if there is a basis of compatibility between us. A basic do we enjoy conversing with one another.

From there I expect to take things one step at a time. Trust and the building of trust is of paramount importance in a successful and healthy BDSM relationship. A Dom as to earn the trust of the sub so the sub feels comfortable in letting go and giving up control. The sub has to earn the Dom's trust in turn so the Dom feels comfortable in pushing the envelope, knowing that if there was something going wrong that the sub will let them know so it doesn't get out of hand

While I don't expect to go at a snails pace I do expect to move at a steady pace. Not too fast not too slow. Building a great relationship that is enjoyable to both parties.

I don't expect two subs to behave the same and on the same token don't use premade scences for someone. I think each relationship is unique to the people involved and the play should be just as unique.

If you understand wherer I am going with this you are well on your way to earning my respect.

12/23/2005 12:52:28 AM

The holidays are upon us again. I wish everyone out here a wonderful and safe holiday season.

I look forward to 2006. I hope to find that elusive yet special woman to earn my collar and make the year one for us to remember. I have met some wonderful people on here and you know who you are.

12/20/2005 10:38:49 PM

To me there are only two distinct styles when it comes to the "Formal" BDSM community. You have the Japanese style and the Eurpean Council. Each branch is unique unto itself and traces its history back for hundreds of years in the real world, and not some work of titilating fantasy.

I don't really subscribe fully to either. I am a firm beleiver in the couple defining thier roles as they see fit. Since I enjoy all three aspects of the BDSM dynamic I borrow from both. The Japanese is rooted in the D/s relationship and the European incorporates more of the physical S & M into the play.

I like to borrow much from each of the styles, and with my submissive we can find what works best for us. I have the utmost respect for the formal community and when my future partner and I go out into that community we will honor the customs as they are practiced. As a friend of mine who is both Lifestyle Domina and professor of sociology said, everyone likes to belong to a group. Even the groups that mainstream society calls deviant are a group unto themselves....the best part is even though much of the BDSM communtiy are different from one another in beleifs and practices for the most part no one is ostracized from the group, they unite as one group even though they don't all share the same views.

12/19/2005 11:43:28 PM

I hope to use this space to talk about different topics. Things that will allow you to get to know me better.

What is BDSM to me:

BDSM to me is an extension of a healthy relationship built on trust. I enjoy many of the activities that make up the 3 componants Bondage and Domination, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism.

I don't like a 100% TPE or a relationship built solely on a D/s relationship. I believe that you can mix and meld vanilla, romance and D/s into a relationship that makes sense and is alive between the two individuals. There are times that I just truly enjoy turning the whole Master/slave dyanmic off and enjoy a romantic evening with my partner. Other times when we are in privite or at a lifestyle event once again be Master and slave.

I enjoy some S&M scenes and some bondage scenes but by no means are any a be all and end all of day to day life. Some punishment may be necessary from time to time in the context of a D/s relationship. It is only to correct a mistake, then put it behind us both. Although a well thought out role play scene performed that had some bondage and flogging as componants would be a fun diversion.

If as a person you don't want to work on building a healthy relationship first and foremost. I may not be the Dom you are seeking.

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