The following list is Protocol requirements for my submissive:
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First and foremost, I demand total respect. People in the lifestyle who know that you are MY submissive will look at everything you do and say...and everything you do and say is a reflection not only on you, but on me as well.
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As my submissive I?ll respect you and give you free reign to be an individual because you?re not a slave, you?re a submissive?MY submissive. But with that free reign comes a burden on you to act and speak in a positive manner free from drama and gossip. These things you will refrain from out of your respect for me.
I respect you for who you are and I want you to continue being the person that you are and not change a thing about who are. It isn?t my place as a Domme to do that.
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I?m not a heavy handed Domme. I want you to serve me because you want to, because it?s who you are, because service to me is what?s in your heart, not because I demand it. As a general rule you will not be punished for any type of infraction (punishment isn?t punishment if you enjoy it). There will be exceptions however. I don?t believe in breaking my toys?whether I?m angry with you or not?and you of course are my toy. My disappointment in your actions and your regret for the same because you?ve let me down will be sufficient punishment in most cases. Along those same lines, I?m always happy and rarely get angry. When anger occurs in me it?s short lived and once discussed and over it rolls off my back and it is forgotten, never to be brought up again?except maybe once and only once, as a reminder when you?re on the cross.
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I don?t do arguments but do discussions. Arguments bring anger and words that are irretrievable. If a discussion should turn to an argument, I will stop it at once. Not stopped and forgotten, but stopped until both of us cool off and can speak rationally.
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When I love someone I love them unconditionally! I will not hide things from you and expect you to be fully open with me about your entire life. If you ever get to the point that you feel you can?t be open and honest with me, then that would be the time for you and I to end the relationship.
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I want you to always feel free to talk to me about anything...and I mean anything. Whether it?s about your fantasies or about work, I?ll always have an open ear for you. In turn, I will do the same for you.
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Simple mundane every decisions I want you to feel free to make. Major decisions will be discussed, pro?s and con?s?and I will make the final decision based on input during our discussion.
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At this time I promise you that I know you have boundaries and hard limits and those will never be crossed by me. We will always talk and negotiate before a scene. Even though we?ll play as often as possible and I?ll get to know you and your reactions inside and out, there may be times when we want to scene but you?re not felling quite up to par or you may want longer warm up or have sore areas that I should avoid or some other matter may exist?I need to know of those beforehand. This also holds true during aftercare. I will hold you and comfort you, keep you warm, re-hydrate you and resupply your sugar and electrolyte levels. Aftercare is to be expected by you. To me, aftercare...YOU and YOUR care, is the most important aspect of a scene.
I do expect you to open doors for me and show affection for me in public, I will always enter doors first, you will walk on my left side and I want you to walk beside me as my partner, not behind me. Even though you?re my submissive, you are my partner.
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I am a very passionate woman and love affection and sexual intimacy. This is something that has been missing from my life on a grand scale?and I miss it dearly.
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I do require my submissive to be service oriented. When going out to eat I?m not going to tell you what you?re going to eat or drink and I expect you to tell the server what you want. I?ll tell you what I want to eat and you will order for me. At the same time, as an item of service to me in a restaurant, I don?t want my glass of water, tea or coffee to get below half full and expect you to keep an eye on that for me. I also want you to add salt and pepper my salad and meal and toss my salad for me. Before sitting, if at a table, you will pull my chair out for me and ?if at a booth, you will wait until I?m seated before you sit. Lastly, you will wait to eat until I have taken my first bite.
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I want you to know that no one is to see you as a piece of furniture. I will never ask or expect you to sit on the floor at my feet. If you feel like doing that, its ok with me but it would be of your choosing, not mine. To me, you are an equal to all and can take your place, anywhere, the same as anyone else. Along these same lines, I don?t want you to feel that if a Dominant comes in the room and has no place to sit that I require you giving up your seat. You are an equal to all but you are submissive only to me.
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In speech you are free to say what you like, however, it will never be proper for you to speak over or interrupt me or any other Dominant and you will always treat Dominants with the respect due them. Again, your actions are a direct reflection on me.
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Until you and I are together, I do require you to contact me morning and night (I prefer to hear phone calls over text messages or email, time permitting). Your good morning to me tells me that you are well and gives a wonderful start to my day. I want a call or message from you before heading off to bed at night because I want to know you?re safe and wish you a good night. Your voice is the last thing I want hear before I head off to bed each night.
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I enjoy sending you greetings and compliments in writing on FL ?for all to read. It?s the little things that make me proud and I want all to know. Along with these complements, when appropriate, a ?thank You Ma?am? or some other comment from you would show not only your respect for me but would also tell me and others that our caring is a two way street. If you do not have a profile there already, you will be required to set one up.
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As my submissive, in addressing me you will use Ma?am or Mistress as in ?yes Ma?am??or "yes Mistress " or ?Mistress told me that She?..?. In a vanilla setting, my name is Kristyn and you can call me by name in a respectful manner. Of course, sweetie, honey?or any other term of endearment you deem appropriate is fine.
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I?m pretty darned easy to get along with and not very demanding. As a rule I will not issue orders but will ask kindly of you and expect you to understand that things I ask of you are expected. I don?t expect you to drop what you?re doing in most cases, but for you to get to them in a reasonably short amount of time.
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These are all things that I require of you as my submissive and some I offer to you. If my requirements are acceptable to you, you and I will have a long future together.
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As we are able to spend more time together and get to know more about each other we will expand our protocols. We will also revisit them at regular intervals to tweak what is still appropriate and add what is missing.
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