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FaithInNothing
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All polite and relevant messages may be responded to.
A lot has changed in my life recently. I have left this profile alone for a very long time. well here I am now, editing it.
I turned 24 last month. I live in Ballard now. I am seeking a few different things -- Play partners, casual or on a semi-regular basis. Non-assuming, kind people who don't make sex their be all-end all, who are also stable and have the patience and understanding to deal with someone who may not be stable sometimes. People to go out to coffee with, talk to, play games with, have indepth conversations with. People who are local. If you don't spend a lot of time in seattle, chances are I probably won't be able to keep contact with you enough to keep interest.
I am a good top for people who want to try Needleplay for the first time. I do have references. I am a good top for basic impact play as well. I am in need of practice bottoms for impact play, more intense and decorative needleplay, and cutting/scarification.
I am always interested in talking to potential needletops, as I do not get to bottom for needleplay these days, and would like to.
Play with a top or bottom is not necessarily sexual for me. I am actually a little reserved about just having sex with other people. I have some damage from my past and it isn't easy to just 'do it'. If that is what you're seeking there are plenty of other girls who will do that for you. But if you want intelligence, someone who is constantly growing and learning and has some of the same interests as you, then you may want to reconsider making sex a priority with me.
I volunteer at The Wet Spot at least once a week. No, you do not have to be a member to talk to me, but it's nice if one is a member or has gone, for my personal comfort.
I have no real interest in rope or anything like CBT. What I am primarily interested in are Needles, impact play (canes, floggers, crops), and sensation play. Those can be pretty broad terms, so its best to just conversate with me, without any expectations upfront and see where things go.
You should be willing to let things go at a comfortable pace for me. You shouldn't be messaging me with all of these ideas or 'needs' you want filled. Expectations with me can get you crushed. Be open, be observant, be nice, be thoughtful, don't be an ass.
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Thinking about other partnerships I would want in my life -
I like having a guy do things for me that I can't be bothered to do, like clean, open jars for me (I have a weak wrist), help me carry things, run errends for me. I like being taken care of, but not suffocated or possessed for one's selfishness. Daddy takes very good care of me, but he is NOT a submissive, and he can't be around/bothered enough to do the kinds of things I would want a submissive to.
The idea submissive for me would be a service-oriented one, that does not require sex or play as a reward, but that my happiness, and my happiness with him would be fulfilling enough. of course play probably would happen, but if one is simply content with the basics, then there are no expections or disappointments.
I require of a potential sub that he (or she that's on the table, too) does not come to me with expectations of sex or sexual favors. That he or she is genuinely doing what they love for others, which is to submit and serve, without using it as a way to manipulate to get their carnal needs met. It would also be wonderful if they were willing to be a practice bottom for Needles, impact play, and other kinds of play I intend to gain skill in.
The potential submissive must realize that I am difficult at times and need a little more care and attention than others might need. He or She must fully respect my relationship with Daddy and not intentionally interfere or try to get in the way of my plans with him. They would also need to be willing to work with him, in the event extra help is needed with something. I could see scenario where I may be in aftercare and the potential sub would need to get things ready and assist Daddy with me, if necessary.
Qualities I would admire most in a potential submissive, play partner, or other kind of relationship: Patience Honesty Integrity Genuine motives Kindness, Selflessness Intelligence, maturity, progression, willingness A nurturing and encouraging nature |
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Returning, sort of.
I moved to Seattle not long ago, and I find my days going longer, not because of the change in weather and hours of daylight, but because I really don't have anyone aside from one that makes time for me. All of my friends currently are Wet spot members and volunteers. I volunteer there at least once a week, but I'm starting to feel a little taxed out. I want to do other things, to see other places. I want to find something else, or someone else, to focus on.
I never find what I'm searching for, because I'm never consistent in what I want.
I do the best I can, but for some, it's never enough. |
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I am starting to lose interest in this site. Very few people I have 'met' on here/exchanged messages with have followed through on who they claimed to be. This is the kink version of Okcup1d.
I am finding very little people that I have chemistry with. I'm grateful for the friends I have met out here, but the chemistry we seemed to have over messages and then meeting offline, didn't seem to be consistent or last.
the actual kink community in my area is rather small, and people are well established. I am learning and growing quickly, rapidly, and I am exploring things that I am now only just beginning to feel comfortable with. Im finding that for the sexual side, I need to have a certain chemistry with the right person, and its usually not with submissives. Doms are more likely to get my interest, however, I again have to have a certain chemistry with them, and they have to be seductive in a very peculiar way that I cannot explain to get me to feel a need to submit and desire them.
But yet again, I am losing interest in this site, and still feel a partial bias for f3tl1f3 (Collarme removes the name of the site for some reason.. lmao)
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Yes, I am this much of a bitch when you piss me off, when you forget who I am and then give me some shitty excuse.
How can a 42-year old be so immature?
tuummyy01: je;;p tuummyy01: hello there tuummyy01: are you there aeracrescent: Hey tuummyy01 has signed back in. (8/25/2010 5:20 PM)
tuummyy01: how are you aeracrescent: I'm fine. tuummyy01: you still want to be owned can you play tomorrow aeracrescent: Isn't that a little too soon? aeracrescent: My moms in the hospital. tuummyy01: is it tuummyy01: ohh ok aeracrescent: She's on Oxygen she just had surgery aeracrescent: A bit impatient aren't we? tuummyy01: sorry to heare aeracrescent: Also, Im not going ot be 'monogamous' with any play partners or subs. tuummyy01: you want to be a slut then? aeracrescent: Excuse me? tuummyy01: you said your not going to be monogamous aeracrescent: Do yo ueven know who I am? You came to ME wanting to be a sub. aeracrescent: I dont appreciate the way you're speaking to me. tuummyy01: sorry, jumped on my roomies computer and he had a note here that said sub aeracrescent: Right. tuummyy01: whatever aeracrescent: yes, whatever. aeracrescent: I was LadyAera on collarme. tuummyy01 is typing... tuummyy01: do you know any subs being a lady and all that aeracrescent: So much for the good impression you left the other day. Im out. I can't consider you anymore because you're not acting like the person you were when you sent me a message on collarme. This doesn't feel right now. Good luck finding people.
Oh yes, put in the fact that he can't put ? marks where they are needed. He is not the person that messaged me the other day on this site. He's either Drunk, High, or its some fucktard on his YIM. Regardless, he's now blacklisted in my book as a complete and utter disgrace.
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This is a journal entry I have also posted on fet. (I notice collarme deletes the full name of that other site)
Im starting to really dislike collarme. I find a lot of extreme
profiles on there. Im finding a lot of "You must be this weight and this
height" or "you should be in shape".
It really makes me feel downtrodden. I know I've got it, and I can
flaunt it, but when a really hot switch or submisisve wants the 'perfect
female body', it makes me feel ashamed, guilty and inadequate.
Then again, most of the people on collarme are very sexually orientated.
I also see a lot of profiles that are just... Wow.
For example, one man has no pictures of himself up, only funny pictures,
and is wanting a girl to move in with him, to basically trade sex for
being spoiled (sugar daddy/daughter) and that when he dies, will give
her his estate, because he has no one else to give it to.
Another was talking about how he acquired three slaves.
Another person (a slave) was talking about how they have a mistress and
has recorded her 'training sessions' in her journal. She states that she
was sent to a 'farm' to know what it was like, so that she didn't
disobey.
I find this sickening. People are willingly objectifying themselves
(but who am I to judge) and giving people their lives, putting their
fate in their masters' hands.
While reading some of these EXTREME profiles and journal entries, I
can't help but wonder if its all fiction. What I see here on
isn't that extreme.
I thought we abolished slavery when Lincoln was in office?
I can understand pretending to be one, but ACTUALLY being on? for SEX no doubt?
I mean, I know a dom/sub couple, and she is his 'sex slave' but thier
interactions are nice, she's a wonderful lady as well. I dont see them
having this extreme master/slave relationship that is portrayed on this
other website in many profiles. She's his partner and soon to be wife.
She isn't just his sex slave. she is treated with respect.
All these.. 'farms' and 'collecting' and 'training sessions' Even
giving up your right to have decisions on how your body is modified!!
Some profiles state that slaves will have 'terms of service" for
months or years or lifetime, and that they have no choices during that
term.
I am sickened. As a top/dominant I respect my submissives. I push
them and I order them, but I do not go beyond thier limits, I do not
force anything upon them.
One 'slave' in her recordings stated that she didn't like water sports,
but that her mistress and other slaves forced her and 'trained her' to
imbibe thier fluids.
How can people be so cruel to others and use this lifestyle for thier
own gains and twisted needs that put people at real risk? How can you
tell a 'slave' to only speak in third person?! How can you subject
'slaves' to bestiality?!
Am I wrong to think that 'true slavery' in this lifestyle is WRONG?!
Am I too 'vanilla' for this? Do I have my thoughts and opinions all
messed up? Am I cut out for this? Should I walk away form this now? I've
met some great people doing this, and I am respected and I can be
myself, and open and free. But these EXTREMES cause me to doubt myself,
and makes me less trusting, and I already have trust issues with other
dominants/masters.
Am I wrong? Do I have a place here? Where do I stand? Am I too
compassionate and caring? I am unable to treat people as animals. I am
unwilling to do some things. If people NEED to be treated so badly...
then do I have any right to interact with them if I am going to just
disappoint? Am I even appreciated?
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There is no doubt regarding my intelligence or my willingness to
learn and grow, my profound understanding of human beings and
interaction. There is no doubt in my mind as to why or how I am suddenly
becoming reserved, scared, hesitant.
I have now dominated three males since I have made the active
decision to step further into these waters. I have no doubt enjoyed
myself striking the switches that have allowed me the opportunity to
practice.
It's incredibly intoxicating, I have a lot to learn, new things to
expose myself to, new techniques, new items to learn the proper use of,
in some ways I get to my observational skills to work, my knowledge of
anatomy is showing, and I get to exercise thoughts and feelings I have
always had.
My friend says I'll have people approach me, that I'll make a lot of
new friends and potential play partners. All three I have struck said I
did very well, one of them said I even have talent. Occasionally I run
into people who are very eager and hopeful (almost begging) for me to
dominate them, or hurt them.
I have been very busy the past few weeks. I've gotten fairly
involved, pretty quickly. Of course I've gone at my own pace, I have
made my own judgments and my own observations. I have been open and
honest.
I have always had the reservation about sex. I really have no desire to
sleep with any potential submissives, or any other dominants. I have no
desire to have my affections and attention be reciprocated.
I have no desire for anything beyond being served, topping others, or
friendship. I have a strong sense of loyalty, and I cannot easily
separate myself from others. I can not easily reject those I have come
to like or share experiences with.
Which leaves me to one of my new reservations about this lifestyle.
Rejection. Rejection from those who somehow feel guilty or wrong about
experiencing me. Rejection from those who fail to have confidence, or
who cannot take my intentions at face value.
I've also had this other reservation, hesitancy since I first started
making myself known. I rarely participate in discussions or groups on
here. Everyone seems to know everyone already. Things are well
established with individuals. Its hard for me to get involved in things
that have already taken off, that are already well established, where
people know each other, are involved with one another. Will there be
room for me? I anticipate drama, rejection, and disdain for my
presence. I anticipate not ever making meaningful connections last long.
I worry that because I have no desire to have sex with people I meet. I
may never have sexual contact with anyone I interact with. But many
have already expressed the desire to have me. I feel that sex is
something that is expected in this lifestyle, and I feel because Im not
so willing to be open sexually to someone, or anyone, that I will not be
valued.
I also worry that I will be viewed as a threat to some, especially if I
have unknowingly played with a bottom of someone else's. I find myself
intimidated and worried about my interactions concerning other
dominates.
As I write this, i've actually been crying. I dont know why Im
suddenly having doubts or anxiety, but I worry that I may never make a
strong foothold in this, I will never be acknowledged for anything but
my looks, and the desires others have of me, that I wont fulfill because
they aren't shared.
The concept of integrating sex into what I do frightens me
considerably. I dont ever want to be used for sex again, or have it be
the focus of someones interactions with me. I am not a cheap whore, so
why do I feel like one sometimes?
I spent the past 4 weeks feeling powerful, confident, exerting my
dominance, and now today, I find myself frightened and withdrawing from
you all. I find myself feeling vulnerable. I feel like I've done
something wrong, Im alienated by my own anxiety, and it came on so
suddenly... I dont understand.
This might just blow up in my face, and I may never find my niche in
this. Just like everything else i've done or gotten involved with has
been abandoned by me for the same reasons... In the end I may just be
meaningless.
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My philosophy on where I stand now in The lifestyle, imported from my profile journal:
As I've come into my own journey, walking down this path, where there
are many, many new things to discover, I've been learning about myself,
and learning about others.
There is so much to do here, and I hope I have the time to do so, we'll
see where the path leads me, if there are any forks in the road, I'll
take whichever one that fits my fancy at the time.
Switch-Dom
A term I came up with, I'll define it here:
I have been thinking about the concept of being a 'switch-dom' for some
time. This definition describes me, and how i relate to such a term or
'label', if you wish to use it to find something to identify with, go
ahead.
For me, being a switch dom is divided into a couple of categories that apply to me, that make up a 'switch-dom'.
Submission
I wear collars, I like my neck in bondage, I like light bondage, I like
to sit and look pretty. Eventually I will want to wear a posture collar.
I'm happy to sit or kneel when receiving attention. I am not so much of a masochist as I am a sadist however
Dominance
I do what I want, when I want. if I feel like being submissive, I will,
if I feel like beating you with a riding crop, I will, if asked nicely.
If someone wants to dominate me, they have to say please for every
order, and even then I may refuse. I am independant and never in
complete servitude to someone. I am powerful and intelligent. Even if I
play a submissive role, I may not play the role entirely, and I may not
be the kind of submissive the other dominant is seeking. I will not do
anything because you want me to. Unless what you want is what I also
want. I expect respect and to be spoiled by my submissives, and by
dominants that I happen to submit for. I am more of a sadist
I prefer hitting people with things and teasing them. I prefer denying people, and power struggling.
Sadism
Let's face it, I'm a fiery redhead, that has no qualms about beating a male into submission, if that's what he fancies.
Not only physical sadism, but mental sadism. If my submissive is begging
to 'fuck' me, or wants me to do something to him sexually, I will deny,
deny, deny. Everything is on my terms and at my own pace. I am in
control, and that control may be at your expense.
Masochism
Part of me does like a little thrilling pain and danger.
My interest in needleplay is growing, not only would i like to
experience it at least once, I would want to practice it on others. I
enjoy tattoos and have several piercings. I like my hair pulled to a
certain extent. I like being bit and lightly choked. I may request such
things from others.
Unpredictability
I am unpredictable. I may decide I want to top, I may decide to go ahead
and let you do something that I was wary of doing the more I get to
know you. Some days may e all I will want to do is beat people. Other
times, maybe all I want is attention and being nibbled on.
Exhibitionism
I am an exhibitionist, and have been most of my life, I think. I liked
to be looked at. You are privileged if you get to touch me. Asking to
touch me will get you further than simply trying, unless I know you, or
have already stated that you can whenever you'd like.
Exhibitionism on my part will rarely lead to actual sex. I am at a stage
in my life where giving myself to the throws of sexual passion is not
something I can just simply do.I would have to be exceptionally enticed
for that to happen.
Mindset
I do what I want, when I want. I do things because I want to, not
because you want me to. I follow rules and respect limits. I am in
control, I am powerful. I am in control of my actions and I will deal
with my consequences. I will be communicative and understanding,
open-minded and accepting. I am confident, I am attractive. I am female,
and that makes me and other females sacred. I am both delicate and
durable.
This is what a Switch-dom is, to me, and this is what I am.
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