I read this on anothers journal and received permission to re-post. Not sure where they got it...but I feel as if I could have written it word for word......

As you read this, please keep a few things in mind. It is not meant to insult submissives, Dominants, or anyone in the BDSM community. It is more an attempt to describe a certain "submissive type" that I feel may actually exist and that I identify with. I do not speak for all who may be this "type". I don't even know if this is even a "type". It may wander and be a bit unclear, and for that I apologize. To be honest, it frightens me to post this because of the reaction I might get. However, I've been encouraged to post it here and I am curious to see if people think I have a point or may be way off base. So... big gulp ... here is my take on "The Warrior Submissive".

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I'm thinking there may be a sub-species to the "normal" submissive out there. I'm not sure what to call them... perhaps the "warrior submissive".

I read something once that made fun of what some of the submissives said in their profiles. In it was the submissive that said "you have to prove yourself worthy of my submission". They accused that type of person of not being submissive at all and wanting to top from the bottom.

At the time, I chuckled and moved on, but I secretly identified with that type of submissive and I can see how we came to be. Years of heartbreak tend to make you not trust anyone. When that happens, no matter how submissive you are, there is a part that refuses to give over full control ever again. So you make the Dominant "prove" they are worthy of you... over and over and over... no matter how long you are together. Eventually you accept your Master as human and realize he will let you down now and again, but you also know that you do the same to him. That's all part of relationships. The reward, however, for proving yourself worthy is greater, I think, than most submissives would give. Warrior submissives are crazy protective. If they find themselves in a situation where you cannot defend yourself, they will do so fiercely. If you are wounded, sick, or need serious care, they will be there nursing you, pushing you not to baby yourself or over-do. They will threaten, cajole, black mail you into taking care of yourself. They are fiercely loyal, loving, and competent. They don't need you to tell them what to do. If you leave them to run a house by themselves, they will do so easily. They may not be happy sitting on the floor unless in a situation where it's called for. They are rather like having a panther on a leash.

I'd have to say that warrior submissives are a lot of work. They are sort of the divas of the submissive world. Most Dominants are terrified of them because they can bring to light any weakness they see and a Dominant never wants to think they might be weak. Submissives don't see them as submissive because they aren't the "good little girls" submissives are supposed to be. They can be kind of bratty and they definitely want all of their Dominant's attention because... deep inside... they feel they are not worthy despite having the strongest, most sensitive and loyal hearts.

The warrior submissive also loves the "battle" because it leads to being tied down. They have a need to feel forced to do the things they want to do. She wants her heart to pound and her blood to flow hot. The reward for all the effort you put into "proving" yourself over and over again is someone who does the very best she can to be certain your needs and even your smallest desires are met. She will make you the center of her life... within reason. If you can "own" her, she will do everything she can bring herself to do ... and sometimes things she never thought she could do ... to make you happy.

It takes a special type of Dominant to handle a warrior submissive. He has to be certain of himself as he will often be proving he is the Dominant she needs. He has to be imaginative, strong within himself, and not want the "yes, Sir, whatever you say, Sir" type of submissive. He has to be patient and enjoy the occasional battle of words or will.

I don't know how well I've described this. A "normal" submissive would probably tear this description apart trying to prove that this isn't a submissive at all... and then spout off about how she won't submit to "just anyone" herself, but she's a thousand times better than this non-submissive. And the warrior submissive would probably agree with her. We spend our time questioning our submissiveness because we seriously WON'T submit to "just anyone"... if we choose to submit at all. We don't know if maybe we're "weekend players", "bottoms", or "switches", but we do know that there doesn't seem to be a place for us and that most people don't understand us. And we can't blame them... often we don't understand ourselves.

Happy Easter. i hope everyone enjoys T/their family/friends today.

I have updated my pictures. I actually need new ones, but I haven't found that "One" yet. One day I will find Him.

Today was a good day. Some days i love life. Being alone without husband or Master takes its toll. But i do have my children, they keep me going always. i'm thinking about getting back into the local scene. i've never really been a joiner though. P/people usually hate me or love me to death. Not sure which i like better.

Why can't people who claim to be smart understand that if you can't spell out your words, i can't forsee you actually knowing how to speak them. i may just be old, but i've talked to some older Doms on here, who have yet to impress me with their text speak. You will never see shortcuts from me.