ZeroAbsolute

Male Switch, 32, Minneapolis, Minnesota

Male Dominant, 62

Male Switch, 25, Olathe, Kansas

My intro to the D/s world was 7 years ago. I was going to college in Toledo, and I got into it with the girl I was with up there. We started going to the group up in Ann Arbor, and I went to my first party in Detroit. I remember walking in the door and seeing strange constructions, all painted black, slouching in their posture as if leaning on a crutch. I had no idea what these things were. We had gotten there early enough to hear the announced rules and the opening. We were sitting at one of a group of tables at the far side of the room, and soon after the music started after the MC had finished, a small woman and her tall, pale slave walked up to one of the seemingly improvised structures. I saw her speak and point, her slave put his hand up and she secured it to the black wood with a cuff. I got it then, and I started studying each frame of wood and metal closely, tracing every edge with human limbs, and imagining different ways to bind my sub to each one. It was my sub's first party also, and we weren't ready to play in public, but I sat, observed, and studied, I talked with anyone who came to me and asked questions, I was determined to learn and imitate quickly.  My mind unfolded that night over the 5 hours of that party, my expression of sexual energy evolved into something that felt more familiar to me than it ever had before. I had always played with the blending of pain and pleasure, but that night I had found teachers. They started helping me to focus and direct that energy and practice in specific ways in my scenes and sexual encounters. Now, I have become a teacher, I've taken two subs to their first parties, and I love to watch that change happen in them that I went through. Seven years is a long time, but it's also only seven years. A teacher never stops being a student, they only gain enough knowledge to start the new students on their path.

I have realized recently that it's a good idea to stay away from this site if you are turned on. Most men on here send dumb messages that go strait into "you want the D," but this is because the labido is dumb. There's a certain point in arousal where the labido takes over and we just get to the fuck, and some people let this lizard brain take over too early. So, I'd say to anyone asking, never let your labido speak for you, it is stupid and unattractive.

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