zaxxon

I've been asked, "who am I?" Hard question to answer, so a bit of background is in order to explain myself. I have always been an old-fashion type of guy, the one whom others look to for protection, comfort, and guidance. While growing up I noticed that in any successful groups or relationships, there were always a leader, or two, while the rest would follow. This was true even in so-called vanilla relationships as well. Such elements lead me to enjoy stories that had BDSM elements within them, long before I knew what BDSM was. I am more into Bondage/Discipline (B&D) and Dominance/submission (D/s) than sadomasochism (SM).

I discovered BDSM internet relay chat back in the year 1999, and while there, I also discovered the Gorean Culture in 2000 as well. In that time, I have been a Master with several subs/slaves/dommes that I've collared real-time, using both online, over the phone/email and in-person sessions together over several years.

I have been called strict, firm, and gentle. I enjoy snuggling, caressing, massages, sex, D/s, and B&D. I also enjoy Anime/Manga, Shibari (Japanese Rope Bondage)/regular rope bondage, Sushi, Oriental food, Sci-Fi, Fantasy, writing fanfiction and photography (taking photos of subs/slaves and receiving photos of the same). I also enjoy pushing a girl to enhance and further her understanding of her own submission and surrender, be she new to the lifestyle or having not thought herself as having submissive ideas/nature within herself before.

I greatly enjoy chatting and discussing the lifestyle and learning new things with others, be they dominant or submissive. I know, I don't know everything, for to know everything is to know nothing. One learns through experience, observation and inquiries.

I am looking for love, friendship, fun, and something more. Ideally, my long-term goal is to find a submissive woman to share my life with fully and build a traditional home and family together. That is to not to say however that I will neglect the short-term, as I will not turn a girl away simply because she does not share my long-term goal as well. As long as I am not involved with someone else, a short-term arrangement is possible, as the saying “from mere acorns to might oaks grow.” That said, I am not interested in a one-night stand only. I am not looking to start a poly-relationship, but what will be, will be. I have been in several long-distant relations which have lasted over several years and involved a lot of online, phone, and extended weekend in-person meetings. Ideally, I would like to meet local people to interact more easily with, but I do understand that what will be, will be. Things can and will change as needed. As the saying goes, “Where there is a will, there will be a way.”

I am dominant as such, I do enjoy controlling a girl, the more the better. I do know that my level of responsibility is proportional to the level of control I have. I also know that a BDSM relationship is not limited to mere sex, which is a form of expression but to the rest of one's life as well. It's not all about the orgasm, but about life itself. I do not believe that one care simply turn off or on one's basic nature of dominance or submission, thus the bedroom can and will carry over into other aspects of one's life. Nor is one completely dominant or submissive in nature. Both sides will give and take to the other, if not, then there can be problems.