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Read this entire section of my profile, if nothing else! I hate stupidity more than anything else in this world. I am not exactly what a lot of people would call a normal Dom. I'm a culmination of all different sorts of Doms: I like to get know my subs first and then go from there, and I DO NOT jump in head-first. For those who can't decipher this, I will not get involved with you without having some preliminary knowledge (I say this because I've noticed some real morons on here, of both genders). With this being said, I am a strict Dom, but I am caring and protective. I will always have a submissives' best interests in mind before my own. Now, what I am looking for seems to be an abnormaity on this site, for whatever reason, and so I'm going to put it down here twice, I am not looking for just a hook-up, but a long-term relationship. I am not opposed to playmates and play-dates every-so-often, but that is not my goal. I want to find a sub/slave whom I have actual chemistry with and who I can get along with. So long as you aren't a total doormat and a complete incompetent, we can usually get along pretty well. A little bit about me: I have been on both sides of the whip, chains and various chasitity devices, even-though I am young. Because of this, I am always willing to talk to subs and other Doms and Dominas and learn from their experiences, thereby improving upon my own methods. I will not post a photo on here because I do believe in discretion. If, by some random act of "God" (I'm also agnostic), there is a photo on here, it will not be of me. I am intelligent, and I am a generally busy person, so if I do not immediately respond to your message, calm yourself and give me a couple of days. Also, I do live with family and cannot travel (various personal reasons), so please be some-what local or able to travel. About my personality: I am a generally cynical and sarcastic person, but I love to kick back and relax and enjoy myself. I do a lot of writing, and I read quite a bit. I also listen to a wide variety of music and my taste in television and movies varries greatly. Finally, because I hate filling these things out, it's better to ask me questions over anything else. I believe it easier on all of us, and I hope you agree. To conclude, I have spent a bit of time on this, so, if you're going to message me, here are some pretty easy criteria to follow:
  1. One or two word messages are irritating as all hell. Now, I don't want a novel, but a well-thought message is nice. Also, on that note, use proper grammer and spellling (I don't care if some words are a letter or two off, but when they're so screwed up that I'm not sure what to call it, I will delete the message and put you of sight and out of mind). And, please, for the sake of my waning patience, DO NOT JUMP ALL OVER THE PLACE WITH YOUR MESSAGES. MAKE SURE THEY ARE COHERENT AND CAN BE FOLLOWED WITHOUT TOO MUCH EXTRA EFFORT ON MY PART. To give an example: do not say you want one thing, jump to saying who you are and then reiterating what you want...that is a sure-fire way to piss me off.
  2. Do not refer to me as "Master" or any variant of the term. I'm fine with you addressing me as my SN on here, or by these initials: HJM. That, too, is fine.
  3. I do not mind people of a progressed age, however, if you're looking for a Dom and potentially choosing me, please do not be more than 15 years older than I am. Race and body composure do not matter either.
  4. I am real, and I assure of that, and if we hit it off, I will either give out my Skype or Phone info to further chat. And, just for the record, I may come of as a submissive, but I promise you, I am a dominant.
  5. Other things that fall into the "Don't" Category: don't message me and tell me what you want me to do to you, or what you think would be so appealing if I did this, that or the other to you in the first message. It seriously irritates and shows me you only want one thing.
I hope to hear from you, whoever you may be, soon.

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5/21/2011 1:10:23 PM

I think I am need of a vacation.

I'm not talking about a vacation to some tropic location, with a nice adult-beverage in my hand and nice young ladies walking down the beach, the backdrop of the setting sun highlighting those ever-so-nice curves they've worked so hard to attain (although, upon further relfection, that seems really nice!). No, I'm thinking of a vacation from everything: from family, friends, home-life, scholastic endeavors, my own mind, etc. I'm thinking along the lines of just sort of stepping out of my own head for a week and just relaxing. Closing myself off to the rest world and just going from there...what I wouldn't give for a towel on a beach, a nice glass of scotch, and a cool breeze. Now THAT is something I could go for right now!


5/14/2011 12:50:29 PM

Normally, I am not the type to complain, gripe, whine, moan, etc. Actually, almost anybody who has talked to me can attest to the fact that I'm a pretty laid back fellow. Sure, I'll admit that I ocassionaly over-worry about certain things, but that's probably because I'm a cross between a realist and a cynic: I prepare for the worst and I hope for the best. But that's beside the point.

I think I have earned the grounds to gripe and complain a little bit, and that's because of the complete stupidity of some people. I just love (note the text is in italics, which usually means that it's meant in a sarcastic, or exaggerated sort of way [my apologies to those who have the intelligence to read this and know what the italicised text means; I feel as though I have to make it clear for those who can't figure it out for themselves, which, unfortunately, seems to be quite a few people]) when people message me and have the gall to tell me that they way I choose to dominate someone is wrong. Correct me if I am wrong, but being a Dominant, isn't it, in a way, leading someone? And aren't there many different styles of leading someone? So, isn't it safe to say that there are many a way to Dominate someone? For those who are more experienced than I, please inform me if I'm wrong.

With that being said, as I made mention in my profile, my way of Domination is somewhat different than those of others because I, not only like to get to know my prospective sub/slave, but also because I do show a sense of tenderness and caring, but have no problem and no fear or reservation of taking off the gloves and being the strictest and cruelest S.O.B. if the situation calls for it. If anyone has an issue with this, feel free to tell me, but do so in an intelligent and open-minded manner. I'm a different breed of Dominant: at the flip of a switch, I can go from being the kindest person you'll ever meet to the most sadistic and cruel jackass you can find around; my style plays and lends itself to the situation and to the sub/slave in question. I cannot say I'm weighed down to one style or another; I float between them all, but my ideals and convictions will always remain stagnant.

 

My second complaint really is not anything against anyone inparticular. With the end of the academic year upon those of us in college, I am beyond stressed, and have been for the past month: trying to balance finals, run a college-based club, make time to be with friends, and to manage other activities. All-in-all, I'm burnt out. But what has taken the worst toll is a lack of physical contact throughout all of this.

I know some out there who are reading this are probably thinking, "Oh, he hasn't gotten laid, so what? He can suck it up," and 9/10 times, I have to say I'd agree with you. But there is always that one exception, and I know that I am that exception. This isn't to say I'm inflating my own ego (believe me, I'm not...just because I'm a Dominant doesn't mean my ego is as wide and inflated as a lot of other Doms I've seen pages for), but because what I've already mentioned above: I'm a realist, and I know that I am the type of person who needs a certain level of intimate physical contact with a person, and at the time I need it most, I am unable to have it.

The feeling is like dealing with withdrawl (yes, I know what this feeling is like...try drinking caffinated sodas for a while and then kicking the habit: it is a pain in the ass!). Is it too much to ask for a little intimate phyiscal contact with someone? We, as humans, are social creatures and we all need some sort of contact. For some it is vocal, or emotional, and for those like me, it is physical contact that we need. There are few things I wouldn't give right now for that intimate touch of someone at this point...

 

*To all those who are irritated, offended, etc. with this post and any future posts I may make, I say this: you may voice your complaints to me in a private message, but do so in a polite, respectable and intelligent manner. If you can't do that, then please do us all the favor of putting the keyboard down, walking away from the computer and taking your stupidity away from those of us who do value the peace of intelligence and common sense. Thanks 


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 Age: 50
 Chicago, Illinois