YesSarah

I have found a submissive that is beautiful. He does not expect me to be anything more than myself. He enjoys talking to me as a human as well as a Dominant. It takes so much to be a submissive and he has (As far as I have seen) portrayed all of those qualities. It is by a good leap of faith that he messaged me and that I read it. It is by that same leap that I have decided to end my search for the perfect submissive for me. I have found him, so thank you all for your emails. (To those of you that were kind enough to message me without ridicule or to tell me I was to nice to be dominant.) To that special submissive, you know whom you are and I am glad that I have met you. From now on if you message me please be aware that I do not want a million submissives, and unless this does not work out I will not be searching for anything more than friends.

It does not take cruelty to rule. You do not have to be a bitch to be Dominant. Most of the time those hiding behind a calloused facade of bitchdom are those to insecure in their own nature to actually accept the fact that even though they are dominant those that they dominate and control are human being too. There are few exceptions to this rule (I.E. Maso's, Sado's, etc) These type of dominants however look for like minded slaves and that is their way of life. Before contacting me with the whole "You are to nice to be a Domme" please understand a few things. First Dominant and Domme are two things. Sure most use Domme as a termonology to express a female version of a Dom, but that isn't the case. Domme's are usually pro's at the whole thing. Sometimes I slip up myself and call myself a Domme, but that is just what it is a slip up. I am not a pro and I'm not in it for the professional aire that Domme's retain. Dominatrix usually are those more fetish inclined and border on the sado/maso line. A dominant is where I truly fit. I am domineering, controlling, always the top and never the bottom. I do not submit, submise, or slave for anyone (Not because I wouldn't, but because I honestly can't.) That's right. I can't even if I were to try for someone that wanted to try topping I can't. It makes my skin crawl, and I get very closetted and run. The thing is. It takes a hell of a lot more to submit then it does to dominate. Even as a Dominant I can admit this.

I keep tripping through the ages, with my crooked halo. Dancing through the ages with no where to go. I'm here, my voice will not be shunned. I'm here and I don't give a damn. With my head held high, my thoughts ring out. I'm a child in this world, standing on my own. I'm a girl in this world, reaching for a hold. I'm a woman in this world, I've found my way home. We won't be held by opression. We can't change what our past has done. We aren't strong enough to figure it out all on our own. We won't be crushed by a hand that is invisible and shallow. I'm a child in this world, fearing to be alone. I'm a girl in this world, running from shadows. I'm a woman in this world, beautiful and real. There are no promises for tomorrow. Yesterday is already gone. Today is all we have. Live free, don't hold back. I'm a child in this world, looking through rose glasses. I'm a girl in this world, dreams already being shattered. I'm a woman in this world, making the best of the worst. You can't chase away shadows. You can't take away pain. You can't change the world we live in. You can't be something you aren't. I'm a child in this world, dying to be loved. I'm a girl in this world, sitting all alone. I'm a woman in this world, putting one foot in front of the other. Be the person you want to be. Stop giving a damn about what other think. Dream about the things that you want, don't let them slip away. Tomorrow may never come, live for today. I'm a child in this world, with a crooked halo. I'm a girl in this world, finding a safe place to call her own. I'm a woman in this world, that loves with everything she is. I'm me.

Wow. I'm fake. This is what is said to me from someone I refused to dominate. Not only did I refuse to dominate them, but they were at one time dominant themselves and now want to be dominated. I am truly sorry that you think you can rile someone with a simple email saying "ur fake" you didn't even bother typing out the word your. I will not name, names here because frankly that is childish and against the rules, but you know who you are. I am far from fake, but not going to lay down the simple rules I keep to myself as a Dominant just to appease you. No amount of hissy fits and whiney tantrums will make me rethink what I said. I am still waiting to hear why you believe I am fake, if you have the balls (And yes you are by birth a man so you have them, they just might be to small to count as actual testies) to message me back telling me "Why" you believe this. I am sorry I am not your complimentary run of the mill, do anything for two seconds of a submissive's time with the possiblity of fame Dominant. I have better things to do then wipe the ass of a man that is older than I am by far parading around in to short skirts (I have friends and companionships that are cross dressers so this is not a dis to cross dressing or Trans gendered folks. I adore you) acting like you own the world, when frankly your ass is a little saggy, you do not look cute in it and you embarras yourself by posting it. Now with that said I bid CM a good-bye for tonight and sweet dreams.

Alright to add this to the frequently asked list. I'll make a short list here and maybe it will help. 1: I will not give you my phone number, so please stop asking. If it ever gets that serious it will be after a few months. 2: I am not going to give you my messenger address there is only one person from here that knows it, and they know whom they are. That is because I trust them and enjoy talking to them. 3: Please do not message me asking me what I want. I think I have outlined it quite nicely. 4: I will add more to this list as it comes.

If you do not take the time to at the very least read my profile (I would prefer both my journal and my profile being read) I will ignore you. This is getting ridiculous seriously.

Well I was looking through a few of my more favorite BDSM sites, I came across this little list. It's a small list of questions that a Domme or Sub can answer without actually being mean or rude. The list is called "The Top Ten Things that will get you Ignored" Seeing as I am not submissive I didn't copy that one, but here is my revised version of the Dominant questions and answers. Reason number one: If you have a brain, but refuse to use it, you will surely find yourself in the ignore bin alongside other such offenders. Reason number two: If you have the want or wish to be castrated and turned essentially into a Eunouch then you are not the one for me, while I respect your views and wishes you will be ignored for the simple fact that permanent damage like that to ones body is useless even to a woman that sometimes likes the potent taste of blood. Reason number three: If you have trouble figuring out if you are submissive or dom I.E. You are dominant and I go to peek in my bulk folder finding you wanting to submit to me. This makes you a switch and as I've stated, switches really are people that are kink inclined and not to sure if they even want to be in this lifestyle. You will simply sit and rot in the bulk folder if I do not ignore you all together. Reason number four: If you want to pay me to find girls for you to beat, just for the simple enjoyment of beating the hell out of someone smaller and essentially alot more helpless than you, you will be ignored for the complete and utter dumbass you are. Reason number five: If you have sent me a form letter in the past or here recently, even after I gave you something to show me you weren't form lettering your BS then you will be ignored. Your favorite color is a no brainer. Reason number six: One liners tend to annoy everyone, if you cannot bother to spend a few more seconds typing atleast TWO lines then don't waste your time or mine for that matter. Reason number Seven: Repeatedly sending me messages (No matter how imaginative some of them may be) will result in me getting ignored and sending you away from my good graces. Reason number eight: If you have to spell with letters like U and R instead of the actual words it shows lack of either inspiration in your wording, or lack of all around common sense and I simply have a better time at talking to a mute that has learned exactly niche since the beginning of being born. Reason number nine: If you have to ask what I want to do to you, then you seriously need to rethink your lifestyle. It doesn't matter what I want, it just matters that I want it and you should comply when we get to know one another. Finally Reason number Ten and this has to be my favorite of them all: If you think just because I have a Dominant stance in life that you automatically feel compelled to message me about how you want to serve me and you are already calling me your Mistress you need some mental help and quick. A D/s M/s relationship is founded on trust and knowledge of the other person. It does not come over night, nor is it something that will ever be fully given to a complete stranger. So for once instead of pretending like you want to serve someone get to know them, because other wise I will ignore you. Well there you have it, my top ten reasons to ignore you.

My name is Sarah. It's not Mistress, Ma'am, or Madame unless I claim you as my own. I am not your Domme until I personally put my little proverbial stamp on you. Oh yes and for all of these beautiful form letters (Sarcasm injected here heavily) I will now be deleting or ignoring them. So now I guess I must put a boundary. If you message me at the top put My favorite color is (And then insert the color) Otherwise your mail will go unread.

If you must proclaim to be something atleast by definition and for your own good so that when I verbally chop you down you can cover your own ass know what you are talking about. Ignorance is only bliss when knowledge could kill you and I have yet to find something that was held in a knowledgeable capacity that would slaughter me so it won't hurt you to get off your lazy ass(Or sit on it depending) Grab a book or go on the web. Read up on this lifestyle. I can tell you that it is not ALL ABOUT SEX, and it is not ALL ABOUT WHIPS AND CHAINS, nor is it about LEATHER AND LATEX. That is the fetish part of it all. If you want kinky sex go to alt.com and hope you get lucky. BDSM does not mean that you are all of a sudden able to be the biggest sex machine, or that you have the right to be downright rude to someone. I'm sorry if this offends, but the lack of the true meaning of "D/s" or "M/s" surprises the hell out of me.

While I personally do not have a problem with A/a and such it is not needed with me. I would rather see you properly capitalize the letter I in a sentence instead of "i". It's just a personal preference and I really do not think that capitalizing all of the words that are at a conjucture with me should be announced with A/a. I get the point that I am a Domme or a Top if you will so I do not need the extra security that the A/a issue brings. Thank you.

From afar you see me. I am not on a pedestal as a Queen, but amongst those I choose I am treasured. There is no glass around my body, I do not break so easily. Dye and Cast I can be no other than myself. No layers to peel slowly off, no fresh tender meat to expose. It is battle scared and worn, the wings of a tarnished angel ripped by the hands of mortal. Do not deem yourself worthy of a smile lest you be one of the few that are within the heart of this Seraphim. Expectations are sometimes set to high, noone can reach perfection so settle for their best. That is what people oft forget and always does the punishment seem to harsh. Jaded is a society that judges without first understanding.

I am one of those rare people. If I am not going to comment to you then that means I won't the second or third time you email me. This is not because I am being rude or mean, it is either because I read your message and found nothing there to reply back with , or I am just browsing and busy.?

Because I seem to have attracted a variety of males of the dominant persuasion that believe they are my ultimate life changing man that can convert me to like submission all male dominant messages will be sent to the bulk folder and will be deleted unanswered or looked at. Sorry to all of you Dominant men that wanted to be friends it only takes a few bad apples to ruin it for the lot of you.

To inspire and To Conquer. Someone that can take you for that long ass ride, the one that isn't afraid to tell you to jump with your feet first. Dance with you naked under the stars, or take you out as his shining queen to a candlelight dinner. This is inspiration and I shall be inspired. This is a fairytale and it is mine to write, so take away your bad commentary and watch it unravel. The many twists and plots, the forever flowing turns that will be taken will hold you at the edge of your seat not allowing you to look away.? That is to Inspire. Control, complete and utter, it has not been given. You have not asked for it blindly. You have taken it, by the reins and through the forever proverbial chain link fence into your own grounds. Here you will torment, love, worship, mold and make it to your likings. It might not have been yours to begin with, but by the hands that tore apart the soul of the unwilling you have Conquered. It drives you and you make sure that it knows it's place. The unrelenting knowledge that you had the power to own something that was not yours to begin with an elating sensation that tingles to your very loins. You breath in and know that you are victorious. This is to Conquer. The two walk a thin, very almost incoherent line in existance with one another, yet people wish to have both. This you cannot have. You can be inspired to Conquer, but you cannot Conquer inspiration. Think closely on what it is you want. Either to Inspire, or to Conquer. With that knowledge learn from it, for I am one who Inspires, and those of that beat with ruthless determination are those that Conquer. Both ways in life, both paths are a choice, and neither is the wrong one. Simply one more indepth and mind boggling than the other. For as I said you can have Inspiration to Conquer, but you can not Conquer Inspiration.

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