xxxKara

Today's Pet Peeve: Rank Stupidity

Mark Twain once said that it was ?better to keep your mouth shut and appear to be stupid than to open it and remove all doubt.? I wish that more people were of this opinion. Some of the profiles I've seen here just make me shake my head in disbelief....and I am not talking about their content, just their form.

Whether you're a man or a woman, dominant or submissive, gay or straight, etc., the one common denominator we all share is that our profile is how we present ourselves to the Collarme world. If this is the first impression we make on the people we hope will want to be closer to us, shouldn't that first impression be...well...impressive?

What is so difficult about writing in complete sentences and spelling words correctly? Even if you do not own a dictionary, you're on a computer ? use spell check! I saw one profile where the guy couldn't even spell his own nickname. He calls himself 'Pinical' and then proceeds to define what that means...only he meant (I believe) the word 'Pinnacle.' Then again, he couldn't spell the word 'friends' either. I guess no one ever taught him the rule of ?I after E except after C.?

I admit it. I'm a snob. I can't take a guy seriously if he displays the literacy intelligence of a Teletubby. Since the average age of the men who contact me exceeds 50, I find this unacceptable. Such butchery of the English language tells me that the guy is either borderline illiterate or he doesn't give a damn. Frankly, I'm not interested in either case.

I know that I'm picking on the guys right now, but as a straight girl looking for a straight guy, I don't look at other girls' profiles. However, I'm assuming ignorance crosses the gender lines.

Gentlemen, I might list myself as submissive, but that does not mean that I don't have standards. I'm just putting it out there that I do not trouble myself to replying to messages from people I cannot take seriously. If you don't care enough to make a good first impression, you should not be surprised when you don't.

Today?s Rant: Manners Make the Man

What is it with all these supposed Doms who have to include ?Sir? or ?Master? or ?Lord? or ?Dom ? in their names? It sounds like these gentlemen are trying too hard to convince everyone (including themselves) that they really are Doms. It?s been my experience that the guys who get so caught up in the trappings and rituals of D/s are kind of missing the whole point. Real men just are. They don?t ?have? to do anything to convince real women who they are.

And I really despise that gimmicky affectation of their capitalizing Their names and Their pronouns, while leaving mine in lower case. Aside from being grammatically incorrect (which is offensive to me in and of itself), it is simply rude. You do not become a dominant man by denigrating and debasing others. Again, you are either a dominant man because you just ?are? ? or you?re not. Claiming grammatical dominance does not buy a man respect or any real ability to dominate others. In my case, it just garners my disdain. How can any rational person believe that deliberate rudeness makes you a man? I would never be with a man that would want to treat me like that.

I believe that real men, secure in their masculinity and place in the world, do not have to ?demand? respect; the respect they are due is automatic. Only fools and wannabes think that they can become ?Doms? by looking tough and treating women like crap. They might be able to demand obedience (as well as generate hatred and fear), but that?s not respect. And it?s laughable that these posers try to order me to do something in their initial message to me. Personally, I think these wannabe?s don?t get laid in their real lives and think they might find some female desperate enough to try them out online. Frankly if these guys are using the same tactics in real life that they use here online, I wouldn?t be surprised if they were still virgins!

I thank the powers that be at CM for the ?Block Sender? and ?Delete? buttons. They go a long way to help me thin out the herd.

To all of the ?real? men out there who have stumbled upon my rant: you already know that this does not apply to you. Have a wonderful lay?I mean day?lol?take your pick.

I don?t know if any attention is actually paid to profiles, but as a public service, I?ll post this notice:

I have set my email filters to block out any messages from anyone other than a Dominant male between the ages of 34 and 59.

-- I am not looking for friendships with little boys. The idea of a 20-something year old male being a Dom is completely laughable to me.

-- I am not interested in trading sub stories with submissive men ? and I am definitely not interested in being their Domme. (I'm the spankee, not the spanker.)

-- As for other women ? I have enough (platonic) girlfriends in my real life, I don?t need to look for more here. As for anything sexual/romantic with another female ? sorry, but I?d rather die an agonizing death.

-- Couples? After what I just said about women, do you think I?d want to hear from a couple? (If you?re unsure?the answer is NO!)

-- As for switches and bisexuals, MAKE UP YOUR MINDS! I am only looking for a man secure enough in his person and his sexuality as to not have any doubts as to who he is and what he wants...and what he wants from me.

If I have offended anyone by what I said, I?m sorry. You can always write your opinion to me?oops?no you can?t ? I have you all blocked!

Have a nice day.  J