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	About XXtonkaXX Relationship: All of my relationships in the past have been vanilla. Trying to introduce D/s into an existing relationship is difficult.I'm trying this site because I think getting the D/s part lined up first is important. After that we could make sure that other interests and chemistry line up. ?? Recently a woman stated she didn't think she could live in a D/s relationship on a 24/7 basis. However to me a 24/7 D/s lifestyle doesn't mean you're involved in a "scene" all the time, but there is always that undercurrent and understanding that acknowledges the male is subservient and the woman is always the one in charge. The day to day routine needn't interfere with this concept. When out in the vanilla world others would view the relationship as me simply being a gentleman and chivalrous (open doors, getting you what you need, etc) and basically doting over you. I'm open to public play and try to take the approach that I'll try (almost) anything once. I'm not interested in a poly lifestyle of any sort. Me: I've been divorced for about 6 years, and have no children. I'm financially stable and my profession allows me to live almost anywhere. ?? I'm disease and drug free. I don't smoke (anything) and drink occasionally.(a six-pack or bottle of wine typically lasts me about a month). I graduated magna cum laude with a BS degree and I'm able to hold my side of a conversation. However, I do realize that some of the greatest minds in business and throughout history were self educated. (There are different types of smarts, I've known some well educated bozos). I keep myself in shape, eat well and am clean shaven. I love playing all sorts of sports, but not one for watching them. I don't consider myself a pain slut or masochist, but I do have a high threshold for pain. If you're a sadist I would be able to serve as your plaything and be available for your amusement. However, it's not something I require. I do understand that I may have to suffer to please you. I have taken part in BDSM activities in the past, being on the receiving end and have also taken part in public play. I consider myself to have an open mind and an open heart. I trust people until I'm given a reason not to. I've never been involved in what would be considered a D/s relationship though. I'm hoping you'll look at this as a good thing because I have no real preconceived notions of what a D/s relationship should be. I'm enthusiastic, willing to learn and be guided. I don't top from the bottom. During play or correction I don't make any suggestions or offer my opinion unless it's asked of me, however I do in day to day activities. I have served two well known Pro-Dommes in the past. These relationships gave me good insight into the scene and enabled me to make several friendships, but neither would be considered a relationship, which is what I currently seek. ? I've read on several Domme's profiles that they'll protect their sub/slave. While I can understand that in terms of not damaging the sub/slave I've always thought that one of the sub/slave's duties was to protect their Domme, much like a knight would protect a queen or princess from harm. I do understand that different means of correction would be required when I don't live up to your expectations or other reasons you deem necessary. I understand this would be done to help me become a better sub and person in general. I also understand that this is part of training and being guided and molded. My belief is that the relationship is based upon what you want and my satisfaction comes from knowing you're pleased with my efforts and that I represent you well. This doesn't mean I'm a doormat and I don't have hard limits, but you would know me well enough to know what they are. I'm not into the whole cross dressing, sissy, bi or feminization thing. I'm a decent cook and know how to eat healthy. I don't claim to be a great chef and know a cooking class would benefit me. I'm a certified personal trainer through NASM. You: As I was laying in bed thinking about past relationships I realized that the women I match up with best are those who show their happiness, joy and/or amusement with me. It's how I'm able to achieve my happiness. ?? I'm looking for a woman who's able to get what she wants, but not by yelling, screaming and cursing. She's able to get what she wants by using her feminine side. She doesn't yell, and makes mental notes about how well directions are followed. Other qualities I'm looking for are financial and emotional stability, intelligence, self-confidence and keeps herself in shape. A woman who has a dominant mindset in her day to day activities and doesn't need to dress up in fetish attire to be dominant. Instead it's simply an inherent part of her character. She's looking for someone who would be a partner, and would take her sub's thoughts and concerns into consideration. However, she would have the final say in all aspects of the relationship. This is very important and requires time to build up the needed level of trust. She knows how to read her sub's body, or is learning how to do this. I'm willing to take classes and be your guinea pig so we can both expand in our knowledge. I don't believe in the concept of financial slavery. It seems there are many dominants signing up for the site who basically state "You'll buy me everything I need, give me whatever money I want, etc". There are guys out there into that, so skip to the next profile because that's not me. Also, if you consider yourself a submissive female or a slave we wouldn't be a good match. WARNING: Any institutions using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. It is recommended that other members post a similar notice to this.

If you could care less about something it means you have some level of care for something. If you couldn't care less then you have the least amount of care for something. Always interesting to witness people demonstrate their stupidity.

Fortunate enough to be staying warm, but it looks like the cold weather is on its way. Trying to gather friends to play some board games and spend a laid back NYE.

If you're more than 30 miles away then being able to serve on a regular basis would prove difficult.

It's amazing how few women are on this site from this area. Maybe it's just too cold for anyone to venture outside.

If you list begging as one of your likes, well then don't complain if a sub begs you for something. At least they've read your profile which is better than about 99% of the subs on this site.

2013 has been a rough year already. Business ventures have been difficult. Sometimes it's tough to keep up the battle and trudge on. At some point one has to decide whether or not to stick with one's originall strategy or make slight or severe modifications. I'm really starting to feel drained. No free time for kink or much else.

Looking for a room to rent in the Bucks county area. I need very little, and would be willing to provide domestic and other services you may need. Right now I'm working about 12 hours a day, and traveling frequently.

Anyone heading out to Los Angeles for DomCon?

Gotta love the

"Give me money, I don't want a relationship with you, you suck, I'm great, Look at this pic I found on the net"

profiles on CM.

Really? Does that work on the other online dating sites for you? Fortunately those profiles don't make it past the first filter --- Intelligence ---.

Guess that's the penalty for free. Kinda like going to a $15/month gym and then complaining it's crowded. Ya get what you pay for.

How is it I run into so many dominant women in this are, but so few on CM? Odd.

This is my first week on Collarme. i've been in the scene for about 9 or 10 years now. Primarily just a session here and a session there. Occasionally, serving a Domme for a full day or two. i never knew there were so many different variations of a D/s relationship. i've spent a lot of time this week reading and trying to better understand the different aspects of many of these. i'm sure over time even more will surface. Some of these D/s relationships entail things i've never even tried before, but would be willing to, with the right Domme.

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