It happens every day to most women on this site and several other like it. We go to our inbox, and there it is...ANOTHER one. It usually says something like this: "hey bby wanna fck"
That's it. No "Hi, how are you?", or "I read your profile and agree with you about the vegan thing". We get these messages all the time, and usually we just ignore them, but sometimes, if you catch us in a particularly snarky mood, you might get your ass verbally handed to you. Then you act as if you are shocked about it, and bemoan the lack of "real subs" out there.
Now listen carefully guys, I'm going to give you a little advice. The ultimate goal is to get your dick wet, right? Then you need to change your approach. Would you walk up to a strange woman in a store or even a bar and ask "hey baby wanna fuck?". I'm guessing probably not. You would get slapped, and then security would escort you from the building. If some strange man walked up to your sister/daughter/wife/girlfriend/mother and said that, would that piss you off? I certainly hope so. So here is what you need to do.
Step 1: Take a few minutes to fill out your profile. List your likes and dislikes. Talk about what you are looking for, and be honest about it. If all you want is to hook up, fine, just honestly state that in your profile. Pay attention to spelling and grammar, women notice those things. If you write as if you have a third grade education, you probably are not going to be very appealing to most women.
Step 2: Before you message someone, read her profile. We know when you haven't read our profile. When you copy and paste the same message to every woman on the site, it's obvious. We aren't stupid.
Step 3: Write a short, but well thought out message, introducing yourself politely and maybe commenting about something in her profile. Do not objectify her by saying something like "nice ass". She knows she has a nice ass, and doesn't need some strange man commenting on it. She gets that just by walking down the street.
Step 4: Use correct spelling and grammar. Punctuation is your friend, as is the correct capitalization. And for the love of God and all that's holy, do NOT use text-speak. It doesn't make you sound cool, it makes you sound like an idiot. "U' is not a pronoun, for Christ's sake.
Step 5: Pay attention to what she writes back. If she sounds interested, engage her in further conversation. Do not ask for her email address, or her phone number, or her msn ID until you have been communicating for at least a few days. A woman need to feel that she is safe and that you aren't a stalker who is going to track her down and rape her. If she politely says that she isn't interested, don't message her back and call her names, or beg. It won't get you anywhere and makes you look like a pathetic looser.
That's about it. It's not that complicated.
I do understand that most men don't mean to come across as douchnozzles, but sometimes you let the little head do the thinking, and that's your biggest mistake.
Before you send out that next batch of copy/pasted emails, let the big head get in the drivers seat. You'll be surprised where it will take you.
