I enjoy my creative life but life long friends and family are distant. My work is solitary in nature and has caused a craving to meet new people. My passion to write and paint never seems to cure the loneliness of wanting to share. The best of life love and lust starts at friend and builds on respect and consent. I seek laughter, arguments and conversation with those that make me laugh, take my shit, bring me their problems or even just want to hang out together. I believe that the best of life, love and lust starts at friendship. I seek a committed, foundation monogamous but open if we choose and exclusive long term relationship. If you like dating and ‘loving’ a few men/women/couples at the same time with no special or unique emotional/sensual connection to me, I am not for you.

I am a 55 year old romantic, writer, night-owl, theatre junkie, non-smoker/drinker who loves to be around smokers/drinkers, football player body, long-hair, and charming guy who is irreverent and direct. I ride a Harley Davidson with Rolling Thunder for freedom and the wind in my face. My passion is the theatre and the main area of my writing. I have a nice sized but modest secure income from an Army pension. I also have a side business so I gross about 45 a year and have mutual funds. I served as a combat platoon leader in Vietnam. Joyously, my time is my own (no day/night job) to do as I please.

Rather than open with dear Box # ..., I choose to call you Watermelon Sugar. It's a phrase from a favored author Richard Brautigan. He wrote, "In watermelon sugar the deeds were done and done again as my life is done in watermelon sugar." I choose to live my life, love and dreams with the same expressive passion.

Love and companionship are very much on my mind but I feel all that's the best in life starts with friends. That's why I decided to drop you a line. My time alone is valuable to me but can't change my desire to meet new friends that last. All I ask in return is honesty and directness. Any secret agenda as to why you placed the add... I'll sense it and be out the door quicker than I came in. I am NOT a personal ad pro or regular. Tried it a few times in the past but never seriously.

People who either know what they want or are trying to figure it out and making an effort to achieve are easiest for me to relate to. I appreciate eclectic thinkers, artists, individuals, the irreverent, forward, direct, aggressive, take charge... people who are their own masters or are leaders. If you are passionate about your dreams or what you do, we can be friends. If you're mousy quiet but have a caring heart, we can be friends.

I am a stern Dom real life master with a gentle soul in the D/S, BD, SM world. If all this means is kinky sex, whips, chains and leather to you, go away. I have done and enjoy nearly everything as an Alpha male Dom (we Dom the Doms): DS/BD/SM, water, fisting, scat, fire, mentoring, protecting… I am ‘try’-sexual. My don’t list is short: No humiliation/degradation except as a fantasy scene where the partner is not ‘harmed’; a good life master Dom builds not tears down. If you have a rotten self image and need humiliation that harms, get a shrink not a lifestyle. I want it all to be a regular and integrated part of my life with a long term partner. If WE choose to open our life and bed to others, good. I don’t do DS or any form of sensual expression exclusively meaning total emersion or obsession 24/7 365 days a year. Variety is the spice of life and ALL forms are open to me. The Dom I prefer to be, it’s not an absolute must for a good relationship. It’s simple; what pleasures you pleasures me and about sharing the power you choose to surrender.

I no longer wish to teach, protect, mentor, train, initiate etc. I seek now for me.

Bits and pieces - I cook, play guitar, am Big Brother/Big Sister active, kids OK, go to open mic writers nights, like conversation with non-artists, have no time for agendas or BS or paycheck hunters, am a man’s man. Favorite authors - Hemingway, Brautigan, Miller and Williams. My best line, “We get lost in arrogance.” My second best line, “I don’t know the color of my mother’s eyes nor do I ever remember her looking into mine and saying I love you.” My third best, “:He was a dream junkie hooked on theatre instead of paychecks with suicide notes on the back.”

I just don’t have time to waste anymore. I’m looking for a friend, intelligent conversation, honesty, the chance to fall in love again after too many years alone, frankness, passion for work, dreams another and others… no bull, no secrets, no meal ticket hunting, no hidden agendas, no couch potato partner “regular guy” hunter… in short, a lover and partner who would love to discuss dreams and good books and isn’t offended by being described as “ a real classy dame” (said with love)… another passionate, irreverent and crazy sob like me.

Write if you want. Maybe we can chase a few dreams together rather than waiting for them to hit us. In any event, have a good and passionate life! If you choose to write back, I ask you please send some similar details as brief adds don’t say enough.

Read this carefully: You are sub to your soul, it makes you warm in side and makes you smile, yet are strong in will and life; a warrior queen seeking that warrior king to walk beside not behind. Now read it again. Fun seeking experimenters and the curious should not waste my time.