| Hi... I’m not on here much at all... so if (AFTER YOU READ ME PROFILE) you are genuinely interested in ME and getting to know ME... the please find me in FetLife and message me on there. You will find lots more pix of me and other info. If you message me on here, I will probably not reply.
I identify as a sapiosexual, alpha sub (https://dominantsoul.wordpress.com/self-understanding/alpha-submissives/) and hedonist. I am fairly tall (5'7), slender with curves, stawberry-blonde wavy long hair (down to my waist). I am someone who loves to travel, go on adventures near and far, seek out new experiences and explore all life has to offer.
I recently traded in (escaped) the sunny (yet hot and sticky humid), tourist trap of Central Florida for the beautiful, 4-seasons, slower-paced Appalachians. I have completely created a new life for myself and I'm loving it!!!
I find myself to be a bit of an enigma... I am:
I am into kink & BDSM because...
- professional, self-employed (non profit work)
- well educated (Masters degree)
- divorced (4 years), no kids
- health-conscious, not overweight (prefer the same in my mate)
- non cigarette smoker (prefer the same in my mate)
- free-spirited (do not live by society norms)
- playful (actually quite snarky)
- very open-minded and adventurous
- extremely affectionate (touchy-feely and NEED my mate to be as well)
- positive natured (glass half-full)
- out-doorsy (absolutely love hiking to waterfalls)
- somewhat geeky gal
I struggle with daily chronic pain and fatigue, due to inflammation caused by a health condition that presents me with challenges. I have found that BDSM pain and the various sensations provide me freedom from my pain challenges and is rejuvenating.
Plus kink has totally changed my view on sex and what I truly long for in an intimate, passionate relationship... a mix of pain and pleasure sensations... leave me in a world of euphoria!
Do not PM sexual advances. I am not on here for just casual dating or hooking up. One-n-doners move on! It is important that if you are interested in me... that we mesh as individuals outside the bedroom, before we take it to the next level. Basically if you want to get to know my body, you will have to get to know my mind and at least a glimpse inside my heart first. I believe that the key factor for an intimate and intense BDSM relationship is trust and you cannot have that with someone you just met or message with a few times. Those not interested in the work and getting to know ME... the true, real me... just move on.
Seeking a Sensual Dom for a LTR (preferably age 35-55, non-smoker, caucasian, healthy - not overweight)
A simple Dom/Master/Daddy/Sir oohhh will simply not do. I desire a true chivalrous gentleman that is a sensual Dom. A man that is a strong yet kind, firm but gentle, confident not cocky, extremely affectionate man that will challenge and spoil me, keep me on my toes, and bring out that dark streak in me... BUT ALSO be able to handle and put up with me and most importantly accept ME (challenges and all). Time and distance (travel) are not a major limitation, especially when it comes to meeting the gentleman Dom that's right for me. I'm open to a 3-4 hour driving radius outside of Asheville or more for the right man and relocating may be an option.
I found my sexual freedom by truly being able to completely submit and give up all control... I truly desire to meet the man that I will connect so deeply with to want to give the gift of my submission!!!
I have been in the lifestyle for a year or so and have learned so much, yet have SO much I still want to explore and discover.
Sensual D/s celebrates pleasure over pain. A Sensual Dominant brings his submissive partner to her desired subspace without violence or aggression. He uses reverence and praise to guide her toward behaviors that fulfill the premise of their partnership. When corrective action becomes necessary, a Sensual Dominant uses pain lightly and rarely, instead favoring task-based penalties, behavioral restrictions or ritualized protocols that, by their very nature, require him to have uncommon patience and a firm grasp of his submissive’s state of mind. For these and other reasons, the Sensual D/s coupling can often be characterized by levels of physical, emotional and intellectual intimacy that would be considered transgressive by conventional relationship standards.
Willing to Relocate