willingcuckold

As I have noted in recent journal entries here, I have decided that I want to keep adding to this to help the right lady to find me.? Today, I want to expand on how I view cuckoldry, and how the ideal lady might like to share this within a day to day relationship.

Cuckoldry is a free ?hall pass? that gives a woman the option to explore her sexuality at her will and choice.? She may, or may not, decide to use the hall pass.? So, the decision to have a relationship with boyfriend, a part time friend with benefits, ongoing Bull with D/s dynamic, an occasional tryst, or to not indulge at all is entirely up to her.? Obviously there needs to be a framework and mutual decisions on any limits at the beginning of the relationship.??

The cuckold never has ?veto? power, outside any mutual agreements once the relationship dynamics are agreed upon.? This is important, because if the cuckold has say in the matter of her decision it becomes a back door way to control her.

Day to day in our relationship, I know I will be working to reduce the stress of her life.??

I expect that I may get a text without warning that my lovely lady won?t be home and so I will be taking care of dinner and bedtime for the kids (if there are any - I have none).??

I expect to get a list of chores to keep my focused while she is out on a date.

I expect she may want to take her date home eventually if he becomes a regular boyfriend.

I prefer her to take control of my sexual releases.? In practical terms, chastity and orgasm control are important mechanisms to help prevent ?cuckold crashes?.

I am looking for a lady that likes to be a lady sometimes, and not so much a lady other times.? I seek a lady that loves the idea of having a permanent hall pass, knowing that I am dedicated, loyal, and exclusively hers!? I want her to feel free to let her inner ?slut? out when she wants to - while she knows I am fully supportive!

If this intrigues you in any way, please send a PM!

As I have noted in recent journal entries here, I have decided that I want to keep adding to this to help the right lady to find me.? Today, I want to expand on why cuckoldry is so compelling to me.

I understand why this kink might seem suspect for a lot of women.? Specifically, I am sure that there is a suspicion that males that say they want this might have an agenda (perhaps what he really wants is to then turn around and expect a FMF threesome later and using this as an argument to get that fantasy fulfilled).? That is not my motivation.

There is something utterly gripping to surrender control that is inherent in cuckoldry.? Giving the woman the freedom to explore her sexuality while the male remains dedicated is more about the romance than the kink for me.??

I feel like in offering this gift, without strings, is the deepest expression of both love and submission.??

I feel like in offering this gift, without strings, I become unique and hopefully treasured.

Cuckoldry, in the way I feel it should be, is about a connection so deep, romantic, and loving sensuality.? In surrendering this way, I am showing my woman my dedication, and trust that she will still love and treasure me.

Also, I feel that surrendering sexually dovetails very nicely with FLR.? The setting aside of male pride and identity is central to both cuckoldry and FLR.? So, I see this as a natural extension of Female Led (or Privileged) Relationships.? Actually, if we are to be talking about FLR in any serious way, I think the male needs to surrender sexually as part of the dynamic.? Does sexual surrender ?automatically? mean cuckolding is ?required??? No, because every relationship will have its own unique dynamic.? But, I do think that some level of sexual power exchange is important (could just be teasing, actual cuckoldry, or surrender of orgasm control/chastity), regardless of the form said power exchange.

I hope that helps to explain why I find cuckoldry to be so compelling.

As I have noted in recent journal entries here, I have decided that I want to keep adding to this to help the right lady to find me.? Today, I want to explore FLR Journaling.?

One thing I have on my interest list is FLR journaling, and I want to write about why this appeals to me so much.? Why do I want to explore this so much?? Easy!? I want to find the right woman to explore the power exchange of female leadership, empowerment and privilege.? FLR journaling is a good way for me to document the changes that I ache for and allow the woman that is guiding those changes can see the deepest emotional parts of me.? I am more interested in exploring the journey as an ongoing relationship than simply performative kinks without that connection.? I want for the woman that is leading to know every detail as part of the transition of power.

I believe that transparency is integral as we progress into deeper and deeper into the FLR dynamic.

I hope that the woman that is interested in deeply exploring this finds this journal passage.

Good luck to all on your journey here!

Something I have noticed lately, and I wanted to just put this out there. is that I have seen more men viewing my profile than I would expect.??

Let me be absolutely clear about this.? While I have a strong interest in cuckoldry, do not think that if I were in a relationship that I would be a way to get to my Lady!? I do think that a lot of ?Bull Wannabes? (the ones lacking any real depth in the dynamic and just see this as a way to wet their wick) think that they can just find a cuck and assume to push him to assist.? Nope.? A true cuckold is forever loyal to his woman, and would never push her to have sex with anyone.

While I am currently single, if I were in a relationship it would up to my Lady to decide who she wants to pursue NOT ME!? I saw this presumption over on Fet when I was there, with clueless ?Bull Wannabes? messaging me out of nowhere outright demanding to fuck my wife.? Meanwhile, if they had read (can they read, lol?) my profile they would have noticed that I was single!? Is there anything more pathetic than a man puffing out his chest, trying to act ?Alpha?, being excruciatingly entitled, and clueless as to what the actual cuckold dynamic is?????

FLR is a HUGE part of what intrigues and drives me about cuckoldry.? FLR is about WOMEN having freedom, autonomy, empowerment, and savoring these things without guilt or pressure.? That means SHE is the one in control.? She decides who she wants to explore her sexuality with.? Thinking that the cuckold is a way to push your way into her bed is so openly clueless that you expose yourself as what you are . . . a pathetic wannabe that hasn?t even taken the time to understand what you are expecting.

So, I have decided to keep adding to this journal to help show what I am looking for, why I am seeking, what I am seeking, and hopefully to help the right lady to become interested!

I want to delve into my interest in Female Led Relationships / Female Privileged Relationships, as well as how I see these terms defined.? I am definitely interested in exploring the spectrum of Female Dominance, and am open accross this dynamic as to where it starts and develops.? I do believe that every relationship is unique, and so I am not going to rule out either.?

I define FLR as a relationship is openly led and directed by the Lady, whereas a FPL is one in which the Lady enjoys a superior role - yet is less interested in taking a constant 'managing role'.? I first heard the term?Female Privilidged Relationships on the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast, and immediately LOVED the term!? She said on her podcast that a lot of women like the idea of being in control, yet don't want to have to take on all the extra work of having to full time manage every little thing.? I could see right away that FLR could put a lot of women off because of the concern that it would add a lot of work and expectations on top of everything else they already have to do.? That really resonated with me, and I definitely feel that exploring this dynamic should be on Her terms!

Anyway, I am 100% interested in exploring this dynamic in a relationship!? I feel that the appropriate way pursue this is for the male to listen and follow the needs and desires of the Lady, taking the overall goals into account.? So, whether you are more interested in taking a full time leadership role, a more pampered role with set expectations of your male primary partner, or if you want to see how we interact and let the relationship develop (which seems most natural to start to me) . . . I am seriously interested and hope this resonates with a Lady here!

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Most of the time cuckoldry is linked tto Female Led Relationships as an assumed default.? While the cuckolded male?definetely?is in a lowered status within a cuckold dynamic relationship, cuckoldry doesn't automatically mean FLR.

I loved a recent video from Venus Cuckoldress where she (as far as I know) coined an alternative term:?Female Privledged Relationships!? I think this is a good way to express that while in cuckoldry the relationship is not based upon equality, cuckoldry does not mean that the woman has to take on all kinds of new responsibilities connected with true FLR.? So, I think that women that have not considered cuckoldry because they think that the relationship dynamic means they will have a bunch of new stuff to do, the alternative is to embrace the concept that you can have privlidge and only take on new responsibilities that you choose!

Loving cuckoldry as a relationship dynamic is the gift to the woman to explore her sexuality without guilt while her cuckold remains completely dedicated to her.? It can be as romantic as erotic, and the choices are free for the woman to decide.

I understand why a lot of women are extremely suspicious of men that want to be cuckolded.?

I am sure that the immediate thought is that he has an ulterior motive to propose letting her have sex with another man.? The first thought is probably (and fairly) that what her man is up to is setting her up by asking this, and then later using it as an excuse to then demand a pass to have sex with another woman.? The second concern is probably that he isn't attracted to her, and this fear likely sends her into a spiral.

Actual cuckoldry is actually a truly romantic expression in a healthy relationship!? The man is setting aside his male ego and pride, and offering his lady the freedom to explore her sexuality - while he remains totally dedicated to her.? He is utterly opening himself up to his lady, including exposing himself to the fear of her developing feelings for her lover.? But, the gift is a two way gift!? In indulging herself, she is taking the hand of her cuckold and showing that he can trust her love in the deepest of temptations!

If this resonates with you, please send me a PM.? I will answer all messages.

Have just returned to check things here after a lengthy vacation from CM.  Not currently looking to meet anyone, but am happy to message and converse.