Being somewhat new to Domination it is quite hard to know exactly who I am hoping to find. It is also quite hard to know the kind of relationship I am seeking.

Like most people I have a dark side. And my dark persona would like to string someone up and slowly reduce them to a state of terrified obedience. But I am not stupid and know that that kind of scenario’s are best left to the professionals or the pages of BDSM fiction.

The other thing is that for D/s or BDSM relationship to work it must give pleasure to both. The thought of meeting a woman who can enjoy an orgasm while in restraint and pain excites me

I think that the person I am looking for would be someone who is willing to teach me how to inflict the right amount of pain, and dominate them in a way that gives them the ultimate pleasure.

In a way I want to control through pain, but not by pain. Its hard to explain, but I want the pain to be the foreplay to a world of pleasure, and it is that pleasure that addicts and enslaves.

Does that make sense, probably not? I will give it some more thought.