When a woman talks about wanting or loving a dominant man outside the BDSM context, many assume that she’s merely talking about the ultra alpha male who takes what he wants with no apologies. The male who lives by his rules and creates fear among others or inspires camaraderie in men who follow him is often the man of our http://saschaillyvichauthor.com/.
Then there’s the faction of women who believe those dominant men oppress women just by their very existence. A man who takes charge when issues arise is not a problem solver; he’s an oppressor, a sexist and dictator. This belief is severely outdated as are the men who sadly fall into the category I’m about to describe. Let’s first define what a dominant male is NOT. He is NOT controlling. Controlling men tend to be abusive not just towards their partners but towards themselves even if the signs aren’t blatantly obvious. He is NOT overly aggressive. Excessive force is not a tactic women enjoy. Nor is it a turn on. He is NOT always right. This belief signifies a crack in confidence arena. It also shows closed mindedness. Now we know what a dominant male isn’t, let’s talk about what he is and why women love this man in both erotic fiction and real life.
