Vivid

Like fingerprints, like snowflakes, like women themselves, every orgasm is different. If your question is whether there are women who enjoy cunnilingus, allow me to answer with a resounding yes—yes, ooh fuck, yes.

Being able to give good head is a worthwhile life skill. And while good oral sex doesn’t always end in orgasm, every man should make it a goal—an item on his sexual bucket list—to plant his face between a woman’s legs and not stop working until she’s convulsing in pleasure. It’s not an easy place to get to, but anything of value comes at a price—and in this case you have to pay with your precious time. And since you surveyed your female friends on the topic, I decided to poll mine. “It’s not that I could take or leave oral sex during a routine hookup. Not at all,” said Erica. “It’s just that token dives are dumb. That thing where they sort of skim the pussy as if sipping the foam from a cappuccino—I mean, how would you feel if my mouth did a drive-by on your dick?” Sex researchers found that the popularity of blow jobs peaked and then leveled in the 1960s and 1970s, but the act of giving a woman head has taken decades to rise. “Rappers make mixtapes about it; bros brag about it,” said another friend. “But somehow, going down on a woman isn’t entirely about female desire—it’s more about male bravado.”