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| I believe that in a healthy BDSM relationship, both the top and bottom hold power in their own way. The bottom holds power because it's the top's responsibility to respect the bottom's limits and fulfill the bottom's needs and desires. Fulfilling the needs and desires of the bottom while respecting the bottom's limits then become the rules of a game which the top plays. The top holds power because the top is able to creatively fulfill their own needs and desires while playing by the rules of the game described above.
I've been the submissive in a long-term relationship before, and loved it. It was 24/7 when I was at her place, and I was free elsewhere. Basically, her place was her domain.
I'm currently exploring my dominant side, recently played in some FANTASTIC, successful scenes as a dom which the sub loved, and am loving every second of exploring this side of myself.
Limits I can think of right now, as a sub: scat, play involving touching men (not homophobic, far from it, it's just the ultimate turn-off, sorry... I'd be okay with men just watching or being part of a scene as long as no touchy, though), permanent body modification including scarring, bleeding (I might be open to this after extreme trust is established, this would take a long time. Safety first!), testicle crushing/striking, breath play (again, MAYBE after extreme trust is established), public humiliation without a mask/hood (well, unless it's at a kinkster event, of course), and pretty much anything else that doesn't fall under the SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual) guidelines.
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