VirginSub68

~ What I Strive for in a D/s Relationship ~

Below are some of the things that I personally will try my hardest to accomplish in a D/s relationship because I feel that they are important.  These are my goals & promises to my Dom. They are only the beginning of my oath to Him.  If you ask me a question, I will be as honest as possible in answering you even if the question is uncomfortable.  Communication is key so I will do my best to always allow you to know what I am thinking.  I will not play games with you because there is no need.   I will hold our D/s relationship sacred, always acknowledging what is the force between the two of us.  I will be faithful to you and will not entertain any other Doms.  And any such advances I will leave up to your discretion to deal with.  I will care for you & hold your needs, wants & desires in the front of my mind.  Your control is what I seek.  Although it may be a little bit difficult at first, I promise to give you all control over me.  I will conduct myself as best as possible as the sub that you rightfully deserve.  Knowing the I am a direct reflection of you.  I will always carry myself with dignity and as a lady.  I will trust you beyond everything else.  I will trust in you to know what is best for you & I and our relationship.  I will trust that you will always push my limits yet being mindful to not overstep them.   I will mess up from time to time.  I am not perfect, I will make mistakes and I will learn from them.  My deepest want is that you realize that I am a person of integrity ... a person of my word.  I will do my best to minimize my mistakes always in an effort to please you.  I will be honest with you about what I am feeling and/or thinking.  I want you to feel that we can communicate about everything so that you do not feel like you are not privy to my private thoughts.  My thoughts are openly shared with you at all times.  I want you to understand where I am at any particular moment so that you may make the best decision possible on how to go forward.  I never want you left in the dark.

First, I must say that you do not need to agree with me in my thoughts but only acknowledge that it is my perspective. I do not state that it is the only way or the correct way. Only what I have found for me personally. I feel that my journey has been a long time in the making ~ 2 years to be precise. It took me 2 years to acknowledge & understand what I am needing & what I was lacking from my vanilla relationships. The more I read (I am constantly reading), I am left with several feelings. Excitement of knowing that I am that much closer to realizing my desires. Nervousness about what to expect going forward. Apprehension about all of the things that I don?t know, aroused by all the delicious things that I yet have to experience and trepidation about the whole safety issue. So as you can see I have a vast array of emotions coursing through my body & mind all at once. I am confident in myself that I will be a good sub because it is a natural way of being ? my fundamental state in relationships if you will. Although my time has been very short in what I have experienced, so far my interactions with others have awarded me with some very vital information. For instance, yes there are some very basic traits that a good Dom should have (good being from my point of view but may not be shared by others and that?s ok) ? control over himself, his mind & his actions and patience just to name a couple. As well, I have realized that no two Doms are the same and no 2 relationships are the same. In essence everyone?s needs & wants are different based on their particular needs as individuals. The one thing that I can say is that in speaking with different men,I am afforded a very important insight ? An insight into myself, my needs & my wants as I see them at the moment. You see in talking with others and in seeing the vast differences, I am made aware of those differences and can ask myself if that is something I desire in a future Dom. So even though my communications may not go far or have ceased with certain people because of limits on either end, I am thankful for what I am learning from each of them. I don?t feel that any one particular way to be is right or wrong. I can only say what is right for me as woman and sub. Sometimes all of this information can be so overwhelming. This is not an easy lifestyle & not something that I believe anyone should jump into without having a very clear understanding & true desire. It took me a long time just to get to the point that I am because I understand the intensity & demands of this type of relationship. Do I fully know & understand everything? Absolutely not! I have a long way to go and I am just at the beginning. I can honestly say that when 10 years have come & gone I will still be learning. For me the one very important thing that I have learned first hand is that trust is such an important part of this type of dynamic. Trust is necessary in all relationships if the relationship is to flourish. But with this particular dynamic it couldn?t be more important. It has to be there as the foundation to the relationship so that other areas of the connection can grow. Trust is a very integral & important part. So what?s the next step? I guess just continue to do what I am doing and let life happen in it?s own special way. Nothing good ever happens when you rush something before its time. Things will naturally happen on their own accord ? People will come into our lives when they are supposed to and not a minute sooner.