To most people, I come across as just another regular guy, but never judge a book by its cover. I’m queer, kinky, and licentious. Usually, I appear to be a very nice, socially responsible homebody, but appearances can be deceiving. I’m also a subversive, perverted, libertine thought-radical. For example, I believe that cuddling is overrated, most gay relationships are uninspiring (even boring), and the idea of gay marriage is misguided. I also pity non-reflexive straights who look back on their lives having only fucked in the missionary position an average of less than once a week. And, in my opinion, a closet is the worse place to keep one’s deepest, darkest, but most titillatingly thrilling fantasies. I have chosen to side-step the hegemonic cultural discourses that attempt to rule our lives. I assert my freedom; I am the master of my destiny. I think that makes me rather atypical. 

In most social settings, I’m a completely normal, courteous, up-standing paragon of civic responsibility, but watch out. On the inside, I’m a skeptical heretic. I am also an intellectual, but I try not to be a chauvinist about it.

BTW, I just bought a really cool bicycle, and I plan on riding it a lot this summer.

Most people aren’t comfortable unless they are following the herd, but then again, I think nearly half of the people I have met are imbeciles. Even though they may be entirely affable, many people I meet are unmindful, unaware dolts. But, mostly, I live and let live. Oh, and I frequently laugh at the inanities that surround us. Thus, I find it amusing, in a sort of sad way, bordering on black humor, that many people wholeheartedly believe in love at first sight, UFOs, Bigfoot, chiropractic medicine, ghosts, ESP, divine intervention, astrology, and the healing power of crystals. Much of the time, I’m a positivistic social scientist and empirical realist. However, I can also be a rather idealistic postmodern deconstructionist. I’m also a bit of a hedonist, and I immensely enjoy life.

BTW, I own two power boats, but this summer, I am finally going to learn to sail. 

While I am an open book, that text is complex, and full of seeming contradictions. I refuse to be hemmed-in by demagogues, orthodoxy, or ideologies. My life doesn’t have to be one way or the other. Dualistic thinking in terms of mutually exclusive oppositions is a trap; it doesn’t have to be either-or. I am like both sides of a coin simultaneously.

While I am a teacher and often described as a mentor, I can also be a bit of a benevolent dictator. I can be kind, gentle, and loving, but I can also be dominant and demanding. Sometimes, I choose to be all of these things at the same time. Early in the evening, I can be passionate and romantic, but later, I can also be aggressive. I reserve the right to be sensitive, tolerant, and open-minded, while also being opinionated, proud, and stubborn. I choose to be compassionate, caring, and empathetic, while being independent, powerful, and stoically masculine. I am safe, sane, and consensual, while simultaneously asserting my authority and playing with the margins of danger. I also like long road trips and camping out along the way.

I usually identify myself as a gay male, but labels can be misleading and limiting. I do know who I am and where I am going in life, but life is not a destination, or at least if it is, I certainly haven’t arrived there yet. Instead, my life is more like a journey, periodically punctuated by an alphabet soup of interests: for example, HIV- GWM into in BD, DS, & SM. In other words, cuffing and blindfolding a boy makes my dick hard.

I thrive on investigating and playing with subtle ironies. There is often great freedom in bondage, liberation in subservience, servitude in mastery, power in submissiveness, autonomy in obedience, and pleasure in pain. I am sex-positive, affirming, permissive, and versatile. Above all, I am
an explorer.

I am also ready for another relationship. Great relationships are based on respect, trust, honesty, and open communication. However, I also believe that contemporary worldviews extolling the virtues of egalitarian relationships between equal partners of the same age are too restrictive. Solid, healthy, mutually beneficial, and extremely satisfying relationships can also be based on differences in status, power, and age. We have some fine examples of such relationships; they have a long history in many of the world’s cultures. I have discovered that the power differentials inherent in intergenerational relationships can provide broad avenues for increasing one’s self-awareness. Besides, differences in status and power turn me on.
 

I am currently looking to bring a young man into my life and am hoping to build a long-term, meaningful relationship, based on compatible interests and shared values. I’m looking to forge a deep sense of connection and emotional intimacy with a boy who needs the reassuring presence of a mature man in his life or a boy who could use the guidance of a firm hand. I prefer deferential, obedient boys who are sexually inquisitive, willing to experiment, and seriously ready to explore their needs and desires. I’m looking for a boy who is seeking alternative paths to self-discovery, personal growth, and intellectual development. I enjoy mentoring my boys, and some think of me as a sort of guide. If you do not know where you are going in life, I can help you find your way. If you do not know who you are, I can help you find your self. And, if you’re looking for a fundamental alteration of self, to be molded or changed for the better, then I know how to do that also.

Perhaps, what I have written resonates with you. Are you a kinky boy with forbidden fantasies? Do you seek greater self-awareness? Do you wish to better yourself, by bringing your desires into the revealing light of everyday lived experience? Are you courageous enough to live out your dreams? If you are, then contact me.

My Ideal Person:

I prefer younger, smooth, submissive playmates who are sexually adventurous and willing to experiment. I am a good teacher, and I welcome beginners, but I am only interested in working with obedient boys who are serious about exploring their desires. If you are not into pain play, that’s okay, but you must be willing to relinquish control. I will consider most kinks and scenes, but you must be honest and forthcoming before we play. Negotiation is critical, and I won’t play until I know a lot about you, your desires, and what you are seeking from a scene.