Perhaps it's just my submissive nature, but I really do love to give massages.

Unless my domme instructs me otherwise, I always start with her feet. I gently pick up one of her feet, and start by kissing it. I always kiss it passionately, on the toes, the arch, the heel, and anywhere on her foot that I feel like kissing, unless of course my Domme instructs me otherwise. I will always obey a command from a woman, especially my Domme.

I then suck on her toes and gently work my tongue, in between her toes. I do this as erotically as possible. As if I am actually making love to her foot.

After I have finished using my mouth on her feet, I take some foot cream and start the massage in earnest. I work each individual toe, and the ball of the foot. Gently massaging away all stress and pain from the day's exertions. I work the arch, and the heel, and also pay special attention to the achilles tendon.  If my Domme has been wearing heels all day, her achilles tendon will be in need of gentle massage, and very gentle stretching.

Often, by the time I have finished working on her feet, my Domme is sound asleep, and I am left aroused but not able to do anything about it. (We have an agreement. No masturbating unless I am commanded to.)

If my Domme is still awake, then from the foot, I will then work on her beautiful legs. (more to follow!)

Like many submissive males, I love to go down on a woman. If I am in bondage and totally under her control, so much the better.

I love to have my head buried between her legs. For me there is nothing that comes close to the intimacy I feel when I am gently using my tongue on her clit.  To feel her respond to my touch, to feel her pull me closer as she is close to cumming, or pushing me away if she is getting too high too soon. Either way, knowing that she is in the driving seat that I am responding to her commands gets my submissive juices running. Finally, feeling her cum, her heaving hips, and having her juices running down my chin and on my face is a wonderful feeling. It always gets me very hard. Sometimes I'm rewarded by being allowed to cum, and sometimes I'm denied. Either way, my submissive needs are well and truly satisfied.

I'd like to expand a bit on my previous comments on the late Ingrid Bellemare's book, "Owning and Training a Male Slave".

Most people who have read it will likely have felt that it is too extreme. Many will feel that she had an abusive relationship with her male slave, and by most people's standards including my own, I would have to agree. 

However, I think one has to understand that this was the relationship that the slave agreed to. He did not jump into this relationship. He gave it careful consideration and they even had a month trial before he committed to the relationship.  So I guess, although it's an abusive relationship in my World, I am comfortable saying "to each their own".

I find the most interesting aspect of the relationship is her notion of "non consensual" slavery. She creates a situation whereby, if the slave decided to terminate the relationship, he would be "outed".  The nature of the "outing" would involve the publication of a number of highly embarrassing photos.  Most people would consider this blackmail, although in this case the slave was well aware of the consequences at the outset, and he did agree to them.

The only question in my mind is how severe should the consequences be? The slave, having made the commitment, and knowing what he is getting into, should not be free to walk away scott free.

She also talks about training and the use of punishment. She uses punishment both as a training tool, and as a way of maintaining her standards. In her view punishment is negative reinforcement.  It is meant to be unpleasant for the slave.  It makes sense to me. Although again, I believe she was too excessive for my personal liking.

So what does all of this mean?  I believe that as a dominant woman, and the owner of a male slave, her ideas for maintaining control make sense. Would I consider entering into such a relationship?  I have to say yes. However, it would have to be with the right domme. I doubt that I could tolerate being a slave to a domme as severe as Ingrid Bellemare.

I recently read the late Ingrid Bellemare's infamous instruction manual "Owning and Training a Male Slave", and I actually agree with most of her points. I am only mildly masochistic, and I doubt if I could have tolerated her level of sadism. However, for those who are genuinely interested in a femdom lifestyle, she makes perfect sense.

It's important for all readers to understand that the book is about living a lifestyle. It has nothing to do with kinky role playing. In my case, as a submissive man I am also interested in a lifestyle where I can serve the needs of a woman.  It is not something that I switch on and off when I'm feeling horny, it's something that's with me all the time. I am a believer in the superiority of women generally. I do think the World would be a safer and happier place if women ruled.

Of course, I know that some women, like some men, should be avoided at all costs. That's why it's so important for a true submissive to get to know a domme very well before committing to a full time relationship. Because in my view, once I'm committed to the relationship there's no backing out, no safe words, and no right to say "I'm sorry, but I really don't want to do this. It's not my cup of tea."

I will obey, because I am committed to my domme's comfort and happiness. It's the way I'm wired.