I am a dominant male who is seeking to bring a dormant gift back to life; Things have happened in recent months such that I now believe it possible to find something that I had once believed to be forever lost. In the circle to which I once belonged, we all shared a very special gift. But time did not stand still; mistakes were made, we drifted apart. After a four year hiatus, I have made the decision to again seek others who share a special vision. For me, there are ultimately two choices......to leave the realm of bdsm altogether or to find others with whom to start a new circle. Please don't write and suggest that I try the local munch or fetish club. Though these communities have served a good purpose, through the years I have seen bdsm evolve with a philoosphy, direction and mindset that no longer seems coherent and focused.

This is not 'something for everyone' (a phrase I have grown to despise). Those I seek will understand that there is a very spiritual aspect to bdsm. They will understand that a sadist can still be compassionate and that a masochist does not necessarily lack self esteem. They will understand the difference between their dominant partner and a boyfriend/lover/husband. They are not seeking a Cinderella romance story. Inside lurks the question, 'What more is there?' Something inside is telling you that you must journey into an alternate realm to fill a void that has long been empty. You do not need to have a perfect body, but please be height/weight proportionate. I have no problem with light to moderate alcohol consumption. I have no problem with a cigarette smoker. But please be drug/disease free.

My vision is to build a new circle that will be a special sanctuary for all who enter, but neither will it be a revolving door. It is not for those who are merely 'curious'. You cannot journey into this realm with a flippant attitude. Once you have crossed into this realm, your whole life will be different. Though separate from the realm of your everyday existence, you will find that you bring gifts (and no, I don't mean the 'gift of submission'.....there is another three word phrase I have grown weary of) into your vanilla world; others will notice something different about you. Your life outside the circle is your own concern. Marital status, how many children, your profession........none of that is of concern inside the circle.

If this profile strikes a chord with you.....if it speaks to you in a way you cannot quite articulate, then please write and tell me about yourself. Do not be concerned with geographic distance......that we can deal with in time.

Denn es ist einfach fur dich Ich kann auch Deutsch sprechen.