tyingyouup

I am a 32 y/o straight switch living north of Atlanta, GA. My real time D/s experience is limited, though something that I am interested in exploring further.

A little bit about me: Bondage and physical restraint have been an interest of mine for as long as I can remember. I guess you could say that I was born kinky. I believe in the use of physical bondage as one of several tools to “force” compliance. Other tools could be things like, differing degrees of physical or mental coercion, or setting up the scene so that there all options are removed except for that which results in what she desires. Bondage could be as simple as a metal collar with a chain and padlock, to more extreme restraint resulting in total helplessness, or something in between. As far as pain goes, I am NOT a pain slut, though a feel that punishment should not be something erotic and fun, but should be something unpleasant enough to want to avoid in the future. I have never had my pain threshold tested, and actually have never had much desire for pain and suffering, though I feel that it is sometimes necessary to some degree. To what degree is something that she and I would have to figure out.

The whole concept of willful submission is fairly new to me, and something that I would like to explore further. Until recent years, my ideas about bondage centered around a theme akin to being a prisoner, or acting out a mutually consensual abduction. I live a very normal life and require that kinky activities be limited to private time, meaning nothing for my vanilla friends to whisper about.

As far as switching goes, I do have a side of me that enjoys dominating. The tied up female is a beautiful thing, though with a dominant female that side of me tends to shrink away and my submissive side comes out. In my professional life, I am an assertive, dominant type-A personality all the way, though I tend to be much more laid back and subdued on my own time.

A little bit about what I am looking for: A female around my own age, no younger than 25 preferably, who enjoys having her man helplessly restrained and at her mercy. She must be looking for a monogamous relationship, no poly or wanting to bring a friend in on the action. An ideal gal would not be a true sadist, but instead is willing to enforce her rules and demands as she sees necessary, without pity for my plight. I would prefer for her too to prefer to keep her kinky interests as a part of her private life.