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The Nature of Slaves and the Master/slave Dynamic. This entry is based on personal experience, observation and research.? The question is what is a slave and how does the slave?interact with the Master?? The definition of a slave in my own opinion and philosophy is property.? The slave in question has chosen to voluntarily?suspended all of her (for the purpose of this discussion slaves are female) rights guaranteed under the law for the duration of the relationship.? The Master has sole authority over the slave from deciding what clothes to wear, where she will sleep to what she will eat.? The Master has power over the slave to restrict her freedom of movement, to who she associates with, what domestic and sexual duties she must perform. The slave may request to be released and she can legally walk away.? The master/slave relationship is ultimately an at will relationship both parties may sever the relationship at any time.? The master may dismiss the slave from service if she is found to be displeasing or the relationship chemistry is breaking down. This does not in anyway reject an individual slave's?own sense of honor or duty where once a collar is given the slave stays collared and property of the master until the Master dismisses the slave. When one discusses the role of slavery one must understand the definition that the potential slave and Master are using.? Submissive and bottoms are sometimes referred to as slave by their Tops or Dominants either during a scene or in their relationship; for the purpose of the definition they are not slaves but only submissives and bottoms because there are defined limits to their submission.? Slaves have no defined limits except those set by her Master they are not negotiated as with submissives and bottoms. Masters need to understand the desires and needs of the slave, when one takes one into his service there is an inherent responsibility.? The responsibility is to make sure that the slave has the tools and the support that she needs in order for her to fulfill her duty which is to please her Master.? The slave needs adequate shelter, food, clothing, and medical care in order to fulfill her duties.? That is not to say that the slave may be denied clothes or shelter or put on a restrictive diet in order to correct a slave's errant behavior.? The punishment should fit the crime. Women who want to be slaves but set unrealistic standards for Masters are not seeking servitude.? Should a slave settle for less than they want, or a master settle for less?? No of course not but women who want to be slaves need to make an honest assessment of their wants?and needs.? When individuals say they want an intelligent master smarter than her or better looking.? How realistic is that?? There are many ways to measure intelligence is an Attorney smarter than a Doctor?? Maybe but only in matters of law and not medicine.? A nuclear physicist smarter than an accountant?? More intelligent than I am, is not really comparing apples and apples.? If those individuals want to truly be slaves and to serve 'Dominant" men who are smarter than they are get to know them first before making a decision. Those that seek the Master/slave lifestyle have to know what they are seeking, and be honest with one another about what their expectations are in the relationship.? A slave is property and the Master has a duty to protect that property so the slave can fulfill her duty of pleasing the?Master.?

Discipline Vs. Punishment The majority of people in the scene make a distinction between the two, especially submissives.? There are some submissives that do not want to be punished but will accept being disciplined. Is This a matter of semantics?? Could Discipline be the PC term for Punishment in the lifestyle?? What about submissives who do not want to be disciplined or punished?? You could call it corrective training?(which I did with a sub).Punishment should not be considered a bad word, but it has negative connotations.? This is probably due to our childhood memories of our parents punishing us and at school when the teachers were allowed to discipline students using corporal punishment. Discipline and punishment are the same in my own opinion; they are both designed to extinguish negative behavior by reminding the individual that there are consequences for?engaging in?the negative?behavior.? This in psychology is called negative reinforcement I believe?(it has been awhile since I took a psych course in college).? If you look at it linearly on one end of the spectrum you have discipline and the other is punishment.? Punishment might be described as a heavy form of discipline. When a submissive is disciplined or punished it is because she did something that was wrong and she needs to be corrected.? What form that correction takes is depended upon the Master.? It can be a gentle rebuke, to corner time to not allowing the submissive to sleep with the Master, or it could be corporal.? Whatever the Master thinks is appropriate for the situation.?There are those submissive who believe in self-discipline that they just need the reminder and they can obey, through their own self-discipline.? There is a kernel of truth there.? A submissive needs some self -discipline and they do need to make the conscious effort to submit.? Before someone can exercise self-discipline they must first have the correct behaviors to engage in self- discipline.? This is accomplished by external imposition of discipline and corrective training or what I would call submissive training. (I was an Instructor in the Army so I like training methodologies).An example would be you want your submissive to present to you when she enters the room.? You tell her what she must do, show her, get her in the proper position, and then evaluate her as she does it.? If she has done it correctly, praise her and if she has not, correct her and have her keep doing it until she meets the standard.? When she has been correctly trained and disciplined she will develop the self-discipline to automatically do this task and will not have to be corrected. I used the term of corrective training; corrective training is a form of discipline.? It is designed to correctively train the good behaviors and extinguish the bad ones. If you have any comments please feel free to e-mail me, I only ask that you be respectful.

The Difference Between Abuse and Mastery in a D/s or M/s Relationship This topic I always wanted to comment on because I think for the uninitiated in this lifestyle it might look to be abusive. This is not the case however, and we who are knowledgeable about the lifestyle know this to be true. Are there abusive D/s or M/s relationships yes there are. I know of one where a femsub met a male Dom and the evening that they played he wound up leaving her tied up behind a couch with a dildo inserted in her anus that had cinnamon on it all night. She was released the next morning but it scarred her psychologically. The sub was then taken under the wing of a Domme who looked out for and protected her. The sub wound up last I heard having, a fear of men. This is a good reminder that if you are going to play with someone or submit to someone to get to know that someone well. This was abuse pure and simple and the Dom was a pure sadist, not the good kind but one that only cared for his own desires and not about the well being of his sub/bottom. True Mastery in my opinion comes from being able to Master yourself and a genuine desire to guide your sub/slave into submission. A Master's first duty is to see to the sub/slave's physical and emotional well being. You have to protect your sub/slave. Every decision or act that you make concerning you sub/slave must have the purpose of enhancing her submission. A sub/slave should be proud to wear the collar of her Master and that she knows that he will be fair to her in both reward and punishment. Abuse especially in vanilla relationships is non-consensual, there is no power exchange there is Dominance but it is from the threat or actual abuse that occurs. The woman does not feel proud that she is with her man but that she walks on egg shells around him hoping not to spark his anger. She does not know what will set him off because he is inconsistent in his desires. He is driven top take out his rage, frustrations on her because he lacks the self -discipline to deal with his problems. He is not a man but a beast devoid of reason. On the surface D/s and M/s might appear abusive but they are not it is built on consensual power exchange and trust. The sub/slave knows what her master expects because he has trained her and is consistent in his temperament. He is in control of himself. If he gets mad at his sub/slave he is a man of reason he will cool off first before issuing any punishment. He might send the sub to stand in the corner while he cools down or something of that nature. I had a sub at one time that was in an abusive vanilla relationship. She enjoyed the BDSM part of it and she wanted the D/s also but it was difficult for her to get pass 15 years of an abusive marriage. I felt she was submitting for the wrong reasons and that she should seek help from a professional counselor. I thought and told her that she should not be involved in this lifestyle until she was able to work through the issues. Even though a woman submits completely to a Master and there are no limits. That does not give the Master carte blanche to do what he pleases in my opinion. A slave will be a better slave if she is respected, appreciated, knows firm limits, and trusts her Master to be even tempered. These are my opinions and if you would like to discuss this journal entry, please feel free to do so.