My starting a journal here is way overdue.

If you demand photos be attached to any mail you receive, you would be more than wise to add "unless multiple photos are provided with a well done profile." I would only attach one photo and you would be depriving yourself of a treat. You don't get to micromanage me until after a mutual agreement is reached. I don't like to waste my time any more than you do. Let me rephrase that: I don't like to waste my time any more than you like to waste your time. You might totally enjoy observing me standing in heels on a stool in front of my entryway mirror balancing a book on my head without it falling for an hour straight.

If I spend three or four hours or more writing a letter addressing most every aspect of your profile, I expect any serious potential Mistress wanting a Long Term Relationship with the Female In Control to at least reply within two weeks with an e-mail stating one of the following: 1. She has read the letter and is considering her reply. 2. She has read the letter and looked at my profile and is not interested in any further contact. 3. She has received my e-mail and will read it within the next two weeks [which thus gives her almost a total month to read my e-mail (two weeks plus two weeks equals 4 weeks)]. 4. She has read my letter and wants to know when she should book her flight out so she can come and try me out and test my sincerity for two weeks staying as my guest enjoying my wonderful hospitality {alternately she will be driving and wants to know the most scenic route}.

Collarme seriously needs to add GEOLOGY to their list of Lives for, Loves, Likes. From the mountains to the canyons, from the plains to the rivers and coasts GEOLOGY underlies it all and is the reason the scenery is the way it is.

If you list either liberal politics or conservative politics in your hate section, I will block you. Politics has no place in BDSM activities. If you eventually collar me in our marriage/bonding/collaring ceremony you may add in our vows that I shall vote as you direct. If you want to discuss religion I will share my views of my faith with you, but do not expect me to change my religious beliefs. I am not impressed with anyone who hates any particular religion. (Terrorists have distorted understandings of their own religion. I sometimes believe that maybe we should institute televised, extensively prolonged, extremely cruel and unusual punishments for terrorists. An eye for an eye.)

If you are 3 or 4 inches or more shorter than I am and you weigh more than 30 pounds more than I do, then I can come to no other conclusion than that you do not care for your own health or take any pride in your own body. With that being the case, how can you ever believe that I would even consider placing my own body under your control.

I totally believe that the needs, wants, desires, wishes, and pleasure of the Mistress should be my first priority and will  be the source of my greatest happiness, but if you state that I shall have no needs of my own you are grossly ignorant of human psychology and physiology. If you want a doormat, good luck in your search (and please don't bitch and moan all over this site that you can't find one. Instead go to Walmart or Home Depot).

If your photo only shows a foot from the ankle down --even if it is in a nice high heel-- I will assume that you believe that is your only feature you find attractive.

If you expect me to sign over my house and other property to you, please send me your bank account numbers and social security number so I can make the appropriate bank transactions.

If we enter into a significant relationship, I will gladly allow you to have significant control over what is left of my monthly income once the utility bills, food, and other necessities are paid for. Any Mistress that might end up living here (instead of me living with her) would never be expected to contribute more than her share of the food. If you think that is not more than fair, you most likely need to start exercising and go on a diet and try contacting me again in a year or two.

If your years of experience as a Dominatrix or a Mistress exceeds more than 70% of your age, you are too much of a Domme for me {do the math if you can}.

Speaking of math consider this formula: GAxSKUBDSM = GAxLVHE@(PS+PS)

(GA=general attractiveness   x=times   SKUBDSM=serious knowledge and understanding of BDSM   LVHEPS=level of vitriolic hatred expounded at potential slaves and potential subs)

[in other words there is an inverse proportion with general attractiveness]

{LVHE@(PS+PS) = LS(T+M)IFV        LS(T+MIFV) = level of sadistic torture and maiming intended for future victims}

Imagine if you will a Mistress aged 25 with 23 years of experience back when she was just starting out caning a slave's ass. Her aim could not have been well developed, but thankfully the power behind her strokes could not have been too great irregardless of wherever they may have been landing.

Think about it: if you love strap ons and hate enemas. Do you even know what an enema is? Subs and slaves ought to self administer an enema or two before any session so the Mistress does not have to deal with what remains if an enema is not administered.

Beware the Domme who has been into the scene for 12 years but has no RT experience. Beware the Mistress who will have you wearing your plug 24/7. Watch out for the Mistress just getting into the scene after reading 50 Shades of Gray who has 35 years of experience (experience of what). How does one apply bright red nail polish to the toes of the on line only Mistress? Then there was the dominant wife who wanted to turn her husband gay and then is now bitching because he went off with some dude.

If you are complaining because you can't find the real time slaves or the great Mistress of your dreams and if you feel that the well thought out profiles demonstrating a great deal of effort put forth in their preparation are few and far between, then consider the possibility that those Dommes that put forth the work and effort in themselves and their profiles have already found the best submissives and slaves and they have closed their accounts and left the site. The Mistress that can spell and proof read is going to be able to handle the relationship finances much better than those that can't. Do you think the good submissives and potential slaves don't realize this?  When the Dominatrix you are considering states that she is going to beat your ass so you won't be able to sit down for a week, do you put your trust in what she does or what she says or maybe realize that she means both and you disappear from her field of vision.

As I toil day after day reading entire profiles and hide all those I never want to read again, I just hope the hidden files can hold them all.

While I know that the Mistress,Domme, Dominatrix, Pro-Domme that needs to read this the most will not have read this far in my journal, I would like to reiterate that the Mistress that makes a concerted effort stands the best chance of finding what she is looking for. To those potential Mistresses that have read this far, I sincerely thank you. To those that knew every word and caught every nuance, please contact me. To those that have used a dictionary in the last two weeks to check a spelling or the multiple meanings of a word, I beg you to send me a message.

Finally - well for this journal entry at least - for those Mistresses that think they are too far away to bother with me, quality can shine through both ways even at a distance, and I will be able to travel come summer when the realistic potential of a visit is readily apparent. If you came here, you could establish yourself and build a Queendom here in the Great Mistress Wilderness of this great country. Of course there are not a great many worthwhile subjects here...only me!   Smile. Blush. Oh my...if I look over my shoulder in the mirror I may see that the blush pales in comparison...and that the book has fallen...in the 58th minute.