TShadowWraith

So I took some sort of Survey today and here is how I rated, fairly accurate.....

Switch 89%
Sadist 79%
Experimental 71%
Dominant 71%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur 61%
Bondage 57%
Submissive 50%
Masochist 46%
Vanilla 32%
Degradation 21%

Valar's Creed

I am Valar
I am my Teffani’s companion, protector, mentor, guide and Dominant.
I exist to support my Teffani.
I rule her with love and respect, I teach her to grow in all things,
I show her how important she is and see to her welfare and happiness
Though I can dominate her with an Iron fist, as she is mine to do as I please with,
I shower her with admiration, respect, honor, and love.
I need not command as if she is truly mine she will be able to anticipate my needs and I hers.
I teach her, her own worth, which is limitless in my eyes.
I help her grow in confidence and ability, helping her to achieve her goals and become a stronger person, to open herself completely, not just to my will and my desire but to her own inner desires and wishes.
I show her that though I may have more than one Teffani each are unique, special, and loved equally but differently.
I defend her against any that would do her wrong or think to take advantage of her. She is Mine to rule and no one else’s.
I take great pride in my Teffani,
I have taken her because I see how important she is to me, in my eyes she is incomparable in beauty and value
And though she is Mine in heart body, mind, and soul I must continue to earn her Trust, her Loyalty, her Respect and her Love
I am unworthy should I fail to earn such from my Teffani.
Thank you my Teffani, for being my Teffani.

This is my vow to my Teffani (Submissive), it is however still a work in progress as I edit and change and revise things slightly. Please note it does not fully apply to Slaves but to Submissives. For those I take on that are Slaves. You are Mine to do as I please with.

Rant 004 A Note on Titles

There are many titles that a Dom/me may use; Dom/me, Sir, Miss, Goddess, God etc. And all are acceptable and to the preference of The Dominant. Many of you Subs/Slaves etc like to fall back,on "Sir" I realize it is meant to be respectful and many have had such Drilled into you but it's a habit that should be broken. The habit you should form is asking the Dominant how they prefer to be addressed and learn to use it. I myself HATE being called sir, I always inform prospective submissions of this and usually make some joke so they don't get all upset or feel like an idiot for insulting me. Once informed of the preference title, it is almost inexcusable to use something else (unless you are intentionally trying to provoke the person or you consider the person a fake and not worthy of such. Training and respect are both great things but as subs/slaves its also your duty to learn and grow to please the Dom's. Subs if you take pleasure in serving and bask in your owners honor, remember you diminish his/her honor with your errors and mistakes.

Rant 002

Okay this rant is probably going to generate some nasty messages but here it goes anyway.

For those of you trying to pass as full dedicated Submissives and Slaves let me remind you of a few basic items that many of you seem to lack, RESPECT, and COURTESY. Okay first I'm going to start with just generally why I say this. Most of you starter subs/slaves/pets don't even bother to read a profile over you just look at the picture figure he's "Hot" lets see if he'll be a good master, half the time you picking by looks ends you up with an abusive asshole that just wants a fuck toy on the side (for those that get lucky congrats but more then likely you'll never read this because why would you need to? You Have a Master now) Read the profile see if the whats in it even slightly interests you. Then look to the pictures.

Okay so my next point is this, Your a Sub your a Slave and your getting flooded with emails, well Cm allows you to hover over messages and pop up a few of the first paragraphs (or lines for the very short introductions like I use, usually something basic but I try to put a little personality into it) "BUT I HAVE SO MANY" (Whine). It doesn't take much to decide what is worth responding to and what isn't, When you see a message like "I wanna cum all over your tits and fuk your ass hard." Its a good bet the person isn't worth your time unless you like the Neanderthalic no brain type that just wants to use you as a human cum rag. Still if your going to be dedicated you should still respond to even these assholes with a simple thank you for your comments but I am not interested (if the same person persist well then block and ignore his profile and report his ass) To the True doms you should always be sending a nice polite thank you whether you would like to continue receiving communications from them and if so some more following information just to keep it rolling, I'm not saying you should exchange addresses phone numbers and full nude pictures right away and your an Idiot if you do so (in my opinion) but a little more about yourself some interests, or maybe that you like what you see on the persons profile or curious about something they said is a nice way to show you are interested.

Okay I think I'll finish with this and close with for those that read this and get all offended well its my opinion you don't have to like it, and for those who decide they want to write me a nasty note in response, well Respect and Courtesy was the topic, if you have to send me a nasty message perhaps you failed to understand what I was saying and aren't worthy of anything other then "Thank you for your Message now go hoop your forehead and rim yourself with a broken bottle."

So earlier I'm sitting a chat room that I run on another program I frequently use and a girl claiming to be a submissive enters the room, and at first she is polite and seemingly intelligent and we start speaking about the lifestyle and about how many persons fake their way through it where upon I pose the question of "How she determines who is truly a Dominant and who is not." Her response absolutely astounded me she stated that she asks right off if the person wanting to collar her knows what several acronyms stand for. Personally I knew a few of them and couldn't have been bothered to look them up on wickapidea, there was just something about her that was off and though interesting enough to stave off boredom that was all she was. Immediately I stated such and stated that any idiot can google up the meanings from a thousand different BDSM websites and can copy and text all sorts of little tidbits to fool a potential conquest into believing they are the real deal, not to mention the lifestyle isn't bound to any sort of rules other then the ones we impose on ourselves and what Dom/mes, Masters, Sirs, Daddys (ect.) and Subs, Slaves, Pets, (ect.) agree to and enforce. When I stated this she had the nerve to state that I'm a fake, that I had no business stating that I was part of the lifestyle and then went on to a barrage of other petty insults. At this point when it degraded to childish and petty name calling instead of verbally (or textually in this case) I called in my nice little boot and kicked her out of the room I host, the promptly sent in the chat log to the operators of the site. Being close to the operators I was informed that they found her in violation of the harassment section of their terms of service and cancelled her account and blocked her IP address.

Was this Extreme? In my opinion no, she claimed to be a Submissive and showed me as Dominant undue disrespect when giving her instruction and view point contrary to what she believed. It was not my place to punish her since she was not mine, however I have little tolerance for those self righteous, know it all people that think they know it all just because they research a website. I learned first hand the true meaning (at least what it means to be part of this under-community in my opinion) That the rules are not set in stone they are guidelines for us to follow or not as we see fit.

I practice and preach my own style of the lifestyle and it maybe similar to others and completely different then others, I am extreme in some regards and extremely against other aspects however I don't judge what is right and wrong for others I merely judge what is right and wrong for myself and those that would choose to be mine.

I know its a pain in the ass but why the hell can't people take the time to say Just a paragraph or two about themselves. Yes I know barely anyone ever reads them.There are those who do read them and these are the ones that are going to take a little more serious interest. YES LADIES SOME OF US MEN CAN READ AND DO.

I am sick and tired of people whining about "I get a hundred messages from fakes that can't be bothered to read my profile all they are doing is looking for a Fuck toy." Well a devious way to find out if people were reading a profile is hide a Phrase in your profile some where near the middle or the end stating a "MUST USE SAFE WORD AS TOPIC" use the damn safe word as a password or filter for first time messages, don't see it delete the asshole.

Not writing out anything or being so vague as to be uninteresting is just plain lazy. How can you show your a Willing obedient Slave/Sub when your so lazy as to not give a general Idea to the Dom that is looking at you! Yes you put a picture that's nice so I get to see what I'm getting the outside is nice but need to little more then that (you wonder why you get the pervs for putting just a picture up).

Okay I'm done with this Rant, more to come in the future.