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New to this site, but not to play or the scene at large. I first came into the scene at "P.E.P." (anyone remember them?), and played at Hellfire, The Vault, The Playhouse, The Mission, and any other number of now-defunct clubs. I left the scene-at-large some time ago. I was involved in a poly situation which, due to the wishes of those involved, ruled out much public play. The poly thing fizzled out at the time when my long-term GF was diagnosed with cancer. I spent my time caring for her until her death. While I can never say that I'll be over her, her death reminded me that one must live as if tommorow isn't promised. I'm ready to move on. I've spent most of my time as a top/Dom/Master, and am interested in trying the other role. Willing to switch as well. My profile lists most interests a "curious." As a bottom, I'm curious ... as a top, odds are I've done it ( and if I haven't, I'm willing to talk/learn about it). I'm open to casual play, but am not wildly promiscuous. I'm willing to talk and/or meet for a getting-to-know you coffee. If we decide to play at that time or later, a pre-scene negotiation/ checklist of play types required, no matter what role we each choose to play. I believe in SSC/RACK play, am DDF, and if sexual contact comes into play ( not required, not excluded ), play safe only. I'm open to a relationship if it develops, and have no obligations to exclude one. I'm also open to more casual play, or something in the middle - let's face it, BDSM play is charged with emotion, and the idea of "whip-em-and-flip-em" isn't completely realistic. I believe that I share something with everyone with whom I've ever played and hope that they feel the same way. While I may not be involved with everyone with whom I've played (life circumstances change, people move on ...), their trust has touched me, and they will always have a place in my mind. Physically, I'm no Adonis ( think pudgy, middle-aged, ... but don't think too hard... I'm starting to turn myself off with the description). What I am is GGG ( see Dan Savage's column if you need a definition), willing to please, and willing to experiment. I won't promise perfection, but will do my best to give you a good scene. While I have quite a few interests within the scene, I have very few "musts" as either a top or bottom. As a top, I'm more than willing to discuss your comfort level and interests, and I do respect limits. As a bottom, I am new enough that it would be foolish to turn down play just because it didn't include certain activities, or included types of play which I may not have considered. If it's SSC/RACK, I'm certainly willing to consider and discuss any type of play that may interest you. It's not important to me to switch with anyone. If you consider youself exclusively top or bottom, we still may be compatable for play. If you do switch, that's great as well ... we can figure out who does what, and to whom, when and where. I invite you to drop me a note if you have any interest. I do respond to all notes, and am bewildered by those who don't have the courtesy to do the same. While one may receive many replies to a profile, or have a busy life outside of the board, it takes only a moment to respond. I show all others the common decency which I would myself expect.

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12/5/2013 3:40:47 PM

     I've  migrated to the "other site," and don't stop in here as often as I once did.  I'll still get email alerts should you message me, but am unlikely to spend much time looking through profiles here.


11/3/2013 8:02:04 AM

...cross-posted :

 

It's been a while since I was involved with someone, and longer still that I've been involved in kink.  While joining CM was probably a positive move in trying to get back to that, it's a double-edged sword ... every visit shows me what I'm missing.

 

I miss :

 

1)  The excitement of getting to know the twists and turns of another person's kink, and the twists and turns of her mind.

 

2)  Soft rope sliding over soft skin.

 

3)  The change in breathing when you've done something that hits home.

 

4)  The flush of the skin upon her chest.

 

5)  The clenching and unclenching of her hands as she waits.

 

6)  The soft gasp ... and the big gasp.

 

7)  The blush upon her cheeks when you introduce something that she truly wants but has been reluctant to admit.

 

8)  The near-purr when you do something she loves.

 

9)  ...warm, wet panties ... need I say more ?

 

10)  The single bead of sweat that rolls down her back.

 

11)  Being beyond thought with her.

 

12)  The sounds and looks of a real, soul-deep, to-the-bone orgasm ... not some pretty little hiccup, but a twisted-face, from-the-gut come.

 

13)  Having someone fall asleep on my chest or in my lap.

 

14)  The conversation when sense has returned ... the embarrassment mixed with pride that she was able to let herself go so deeply, the explanation of sore spots while running my hands over her body and my handiwork .

 

15)  everything else

 

Perhaps I've left out your favorite moment ... care to fill me in ?


9/8/2013 4:04:56 PM

      I don't know that this requires saying, but ....

 

1)    If you've read my profile and wish to contact me, please do so.  I don't stand on formality.

 

2)  If you do write, I will respond. 

 

3)  If I write to you, please have the courtesy to at least say "no, thanks."  You won't hurt my feelings.  I know that not everyone is a match.  If you can't be bothered to respond to a sincere note of interest with courtesy, you probably don't belong in the scene (at least not the scene I know).


9/7/2013 8:23:33 AM

 ...for those seeking more than casual play ... if you seek only play, ignore this post ...

 

While I don't have a prejudice regarding age, it is important to me that we have some common ground for conversation.  As much fun as play can be, it's not all about the scene.  I've always tended towards those a bit older ... we usually have more in common.  I'm open to exploring the pop culture of those younger than me (I'm not completely ossified) ... but when I mention a pop culture reference, it would be nice not to be met with a blank stare.

 

 

  Yes, you know "The Onion."  Are you familiar with "The Realist" or "National Lampoon?" 

  

     If I say Grace Slick, do you think Starship, Jefferson Starship, Jefferson Airplane, or (almost too much to ask) The Great Society?  Do you know who Grace Slick is ?

     

     Do you think that Hunter S. Thompson was a character played by Johnny Depp ?  Does the name Lester Bangs mean anything to you ?  Ken Kesey ? Alfred Hitchcock (beyond the TV shows)?  Legs McNeil ? Malcom McClaren ?  Michael Stipe ? Bootsy Collins ?  The Waitresses ?  Exene Cervanka ?  Lydia Lunch ?  John Waters ?  Kevin Smith ?

 

 

      I don't mean this to come across as snotty, and please don't feel too badly if you're not familiar with the references I've thrown out.  More important than any of the above names ... do you have a curiosity about why I may have mentioned them ?  Do you find yourself trying to learn more about things that matter to you, rather than accepting the superficial and despite the perceived triviality of the topic ?  Are you passionate about something that, from the  outside, seems to be unworthy of passion?  Can we not only talk at each other, but to each other ?  Can we teach each other ?  Do we have common ground ?

 

       ...or, after some-or-other physical activity leaves us sweaty and spent, will we discuss the weather ?


5/11/2013 3:43:42 PM

    I have played with novices and the less experienced  before, and both my partners & I  had great fun in doing so.   Experience can mean knowing how and when to take things slowly ... it's about the play partner, not about showing off the techniques I've learned.


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 Age: 24
 Baltimore, Maryland